Irritating situation....

elghund's Avatar
Was she completely ripped off or shorted like twenty bucks? My sympathies and anger correlate proportionally to the amount of the discrepancy. Mistakes and miscommunications can happen to anyone. Originally Posted by mwebber
Totally ripped off....guy skipped without paying.

As a side note....before the skeptics arrive.....I considered that her convo was a ploy to hit ME up for something more......but, as I said, I like this girl, and could detect nothing to make me believe anything other than she screwed up, and the guy saw the opening and skipped without paying.

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elghund's Avatar
The provider got stiffed, so it's only natural for her to be pissed. However, things happen to all of us in life. A real professional would have just met you and not complained during your session about being stiffed. There are many aspects to what being professional means. Be on time, be clean, have a good attitude, make the gent feel his best, the list goes on and on. Although I do feel bad she got stiffed, there is a time and a place to complain, during your session was not that time/place. I think if she couldn't be at her best, she should have rescheduled the date or atleast postponed it for a little while in order to gather her emotions, calm down and get herself together. When my dog died I was quite upset, naturally. I cancelled a date I had on that day because I would rather take the time to gather my emotions, then come to this gent all upset/sad over the loss of my dog. Regardless, you met the lady and it's over. You can't turn back time. I think the best thing for you to do is, to email her and express compassion towards her getting stiffed, but you were a little disapointed because it put a damper on the date she had with you. As others have mentioned, perhaps she will give you a discount or atleast an apology. Sometimes, communication is key. Originally Posted by Tatiana M.

I don't really buy into the whole "I didn't get what I wanted......gimme a discount thing....."

When I voice a complaint, I want nothing in return other than the problem to be fixed. And, I'll probably address the issue when I choose to see her again. Or, more than likely, leave it alone. But, I'd never tell her in an e-mail...that's too cold for something as personal as hobbying is.......cripes, you girls aren't a corporation you;re people!!!!


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offshoredrilling's Avatar
I disagree about contacting the lady about his disappointment. More than likely he will come off as a douche bag despite his intentions. As you said communication is key but when one's emotions are visible miscommunication is inevitable. She has to be the one to reach out and apologize and offer any kind of special. Originally Posted by pyramider
I agree with that.

It would only work if both know each other so well as and a few is not a killer. And that takes years of frequent flying . mmmmm and reason not to use most of my reviews as a guide.

Dang did I take a beating last night after the AB m&g . After the . The and went very well



As most could not handle where I be. I don't think I could handle the perfect fantasy. Hell I could copy the op's bitching into a yes review
Frankie Fine's Avatar
I don't really buy into the whole "I didn't get what I wanted......gimme a discount thing....."

When I voice a complaint, I want nothing in return other than the problem to be fixed. And, I'll probably address the issue when I choose to see her again. Or, more than likely, leave it alone. But, I'd never tell her in an e-mail...that's too cold for something as personal as hobbying is.......cripes, you girls aren't a corporation you;re people!!!!


elg..... Originally Posted by elghund
You seem very kind and understanding! Your story and empathy for the situation is amazing! I like how you address part of your post to the stiffer. I wish the right gents would read the cause of a provider's lack of professionalism in certain cases.

I get it. She should of been more professional, but "yes" she is human and maybe the experience of being ripped off made her upset on many different levels. It is not a clients job to console, but because you allowed her to vent, you may have made the next guys appointment better...( yikes ..sorry)

But, atleast bless your heart, your immediate patience may help her gain confidence and professionalism back.

Again, I understand that is not what clients should deal with. Yet, to understand some providers are still learning the ropes makes for a better provider. To address the situation privately and constructively IMHO would have the most positive results. And for being such a BIG person you deserve a pat on the back in my eyes! xo
elghund's Avatar
. And for being such a BIG person you deserve a pat on the back in my eyes! xo Originally Posted by Frankie Fine
What....no discount? KIDDING!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks, Frankie......I appreciate it.

elg.......
Totally ripped off....guy skipped without paying. Originally Posted by elghund
Well that's a scumbag!

You're a good dude for displaying your empathy.
GP's Avatar
  • GP
  • 02-03-2013, 08:02 PM
Where in the rules does it say you pay the provider first. I will place the donation on a table in plain view for her, but it does not get collected UNTIL the appointment is over. If the provider doesn't like it, then she will have to find another client.

Yeah, I know, the girls get stiffed. Guess what, so do the guys. It is a 2 way street. Come on elghund, you have no right to be demanding an apology from the guy. He owes the provider an apology and the provider owes you an apology for being completely unprofessional.
offshoredrilling's Avatar
Gee I wait and use the cash to hide and soak up the errrr never mind
pyramider's Avatar
Empathy my backside ... eighund would not be empathetic if is appointment went well. eighund was pissed because his appointment was adversely effected by the dipshit.

Now the lady needs to out the dipshit in open forum. At least in the ladies' private areas his name and number posted.
elghund's Avatar
Empathy my backside ... eighund would not be empathetic if is appointment went well. eighund was pissed because his appointment was adversely effected by the dipshit.

Now the lady needs to out the dipshit in open forum. At least in the ladies' private areas his name and number posted. Originally Posted by pyramider
Sure I woulda been pissed.......but probably not as much!!!

But I still woulda been posting that the guy sucks, because once any provider gets stiffed, it makes things tense for everyone.



elg......
elghund's Avatar
Come on elghund, you have no right to be demanding an apology from the guy. He owes the provider an apology and the provider owes you an apology for being completely unprofessional. Originally Posted by GP

Sure I can demand an apology, GP.......doesn't mean I'll get one though.......

As far as being unprofessional? Well, thats an opinion. She was upset, and rightfully so. She was distracted, yes.....but still tried to take care of business, so I don't see her as unprofessional....just human. Or do think that providers can't have real feelings?


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offshoredrilling's Avatar
mmmm at least this did not happen to ya elghund

Review: London..WORST/DISGUSTING EXPERIENCE

Now that would have been Irritating

sweet, its a open ros review for all to read
elghund's Avatar
mmmm at least this did not happen to ya elghund

Review: London..WORST/DISGUSTING EXPERIENCE

Now that would have been Irritating

sweet, its a open ros review for all to read Originally Posted by offshoredrilling
Yeah....no shit, OSD!!!!


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offshoredrilling's Avatar
I also posted that in sandbox "something"

I had a better one from Houston I was going to post in "nothing", but a Houston mod put it in the modtard only folder. WTF
Lexxxy's Avatar
Omfg osd!!!! I'm dying I'm laughing so hard I'm crying