Jay ....I am sorry you had that awful experience.
I have participated in MWM with my previous BF and we never had a bad experience.
1.- Normally by their use of language in emails and text you can tell their level of education, true swinger are highly educated. 2.- You want to make sure they have experience in this lifestyle 3.- need to ask "how they are partying", stay away from ppl who do drugs (coke, meth, etc).
4.- sometimes it helps to meet for drinks first and if the vibe is good ...proceed with the fun.
5.- there is no need to discuss the rules in person, do it ahead before the meeting
6.- Trust your instinct, we used to "host" so we had more control, rather than visiting....but obviously if you get to a place and it does not feel right....turn around and leave or say you are tired or "forgot that you left something on the stove" LOL
Originally Posted by Monica Austin
I'm by no means a regular with these sorts of things but I have had a few experiences and perhaps had my guard down simply because of the overwhelmingly positive experiences I've had previously. Very good advice and points you make Monica.
i fucking love your stories.
Originally Posted by Insano
Uh, thanks? Unfortunately most of my stories of late have been about my misfortunes. Hopefully while being entertained, you'll learn to be smarter, or less risky than I.
Repeat after me, "I will not venture into the projects to sip on raspberry vodka with Kanisha, Darnell, and Trish for a while, regardless of the fact that they only kicked my ass on Wii Just Dance." Seriously, don't go to the ghetto as a white dude in a business suit and compete in Just Dance. Fun, interesting experience but just not a particularly wise thing to do on so many levels.