Why Don't The Ladies In KC Provide A Reference?

I have NEVER had a problem getting back timely & helpful references from KC gals.

What's a reference?

What's a reference? Originally Posted by KenMonk

Something a lot of guys don't know to give when contacting a provider for a date.

Hey, sorry about your dilemma...I know how frustrating it can be...I mean, the only reference I have is Big Deal and he refuses to give me a yes...I thought about asking Oldman, Janw or Ken Monk...but I don't think I could handle the rejection....

I can't get a date...I guess I'll have to go back to trolling the Ave....
LMK if you'd like to join me...maybe we could work our way up...

Hey, sorry about your dilemma...I know how frustrating it can be...I mean, the only reference I have is Big Deal and he refuses to give me a yes...I thought about asking Oldman, Janw or Ken Monk...but I don't think I could handle the rejection....

I can't get a date...I guess I'll have to go back to trolling the Ave....
LMK if you'd like to join me...maybe we could work our way up... Originally Posted by malwoody

Well......

Nevermind........

Was original.....

I never have a problem with giving A Client or A Provider a reference ....

Something a lot of guys don't know to give when contacting a provider for a date. Originally Posted by MsElena

This is my shocked face....

How weird. I rarely have problems getting a response. This week alone I've given 4 references. I always get a kick out of all inclusive generalizations. Originally Posted by SinsOfTheFlesh

I think the OP might be phishing...

I think the OP might be phishing... Originally Posted by NoahScape

Nahh....really??? How do ya fig?

golfing,
prior to giving out your references, do you send a note to the women that you are doing so?
if not, you might send them a note saying something like "hi, i'm golfing. we met recently <includeSomeMemorableTidbits >. i would like to give you as a reference to <insertOtherWoman'sName>. if that's OK, thanks in advance. if not, i understand. take care...."

that way, you refresh their memory, ask if you can use them as a reference, and alert them that the other woman may contact them.

if you dont alert the reference, she may have forgotten, even if she's seen you x number of times.

good luck.

Nahh....really??? How do ya fig?






Originally Posted by LeilaniBebe

I've been accused of having a firm grasp of the obvious...

P411 it. If you have seen 2 reputable providers you can get 6 months free to see if it's for you and get yourself established. Make sure that the person that is asking for the references is credible and is providing their credentials such as p411 ID, TER, ECCIE showcase etc. I will always give reference unless I question the legitimacy of the person asking. If they don't provide their credentials and a quick google search doesn't turn up significant info, I will not provide reference for everyone's safety.

P411 it. If you have seen 2 reputable providers you can get 6 months free to see if it's for you and get yourself established. Make sure that the person that is asking for the references is credible and is providing their credentials such as p411 ID, TER, ECCIE showcase etc. I will always give reference unless I question the legitimacy of the person asking. If they don't provide their credentials and a quick google search doesn't turn up significant info, I will not provide reference for everyone's safety. Originally Posted by Ari816

So what you're saying is that a P411 membership is the solution to all the, "Is she safe?", "Is she going to NCNS me?" kind of problems?

If you get pinched, is the nice lady in Canada that runs the screening going to send me a text before I knock on your door?

If I get pinched, do you get the same notification?

Didn't think so.

In other words, it's more of a, "I have to pay so you should should have to pay, too" kind of deal, isn't it?

I always return calls and pm's to providers asking for info on a client.
Most KC providers have responded to my requests but there are a few who never have.