Appointment Setting Etiquette

... I expect the menu choices to be "explored" in person and not necessarily talked about before hand. Originally Posted by RedLeg505

This has been my personal practice. Always. (And to my detriment once as the donation was not explicitly stated and I ended up paying Retail price for a Wholesale experience.)

But in this particular example, the provider offers multiple types of session - wouldn't she also want to know/prepare for what the hobbyist will expect?

I personally prefer not to discuss details at all over the phone with anyone. Originally Posted by alexandriajuly

Being a relative newbie I probably should be quiet but I very much agree with the above statement. First I am not comfortable discussing potentially compromising things over the phone with someone I have never met in person. Second, I actually like to go to an appointment with an element of surprise and YMMV and very little planning, just try to go with the flow. If she loves DFK we will just do that forever. If she loves DT, we will do that. This has worked really well for me so far, I have had the time of my life. What the providers like the most and feel more comfortable with is probably what they are best at anyway (although some providers seem to be good at everything ). Hell, most of the providers are so hot that almost anything you do with them ends up being fun.

send the gals off a COCK pic........

they love that

as a provider i have to say when asked about $$ and menu i state read profile and my adds wich will state due to safety of le issues i know it might irratate some who want to know a play by play but at the same time us providers have to stay as cautious and as safe as possible now is it a little un fair to some hobbyists who want to know exactly what they might be getting into mayby but at the end of the day my wonderful gentleman we have to do what we have to do to keep us safe and out of trouble thats why it is important for us as providers to say what we mean and mean what we say on our menu that way there is no false advertising to our fellow hobbyists ...just my opinion though loves

Thanks for the reply, TJ.

But that is not quite what I am asking about. Let me be offer a more specific scenario:

References approved, quite some time ago, via PM, with Provider giving her phone number for easier contact;
Provider offers multiple menus and price points (and not listed in Showcase);
Provider infrequently on Eccie;
No response to PM request for appointment;
Hobbyist texts asking for appt., suggests checking PM for date details;
Provider quickly responds, offers availability, but does not check PM;
Hobbyist chooses a time, menu, but not price.

Is your response the same? Would you consider this a major faux pas, or a minor one? How should the hobbyist proceed? Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks

None of this is really making sense to me, so let me break it down. If she has your references, then you have sent this lady a formal request to both her PM box, her email/P411, and possibly texted her to let her know who you are, and that you're interested in an appointment. Either the appointment was pre-booked, or there was a previous interest that didn't result in an appointment. I'm going with pre-booked.

Now it's close to the time of the appointment and she isn't responding, and isn't accepting your text messages confirming the appointment time and price point, and tells you to refer back to the previous PM's concerning the scheduled appointment. Am I right?

Honestly, it sounds like you're dealing with someone with too many irons in the fire or just can't handle the communicative side of TCB. I can honestly say that you would have not felt the need to send me that text had you scheduled with me.

After an appointment is set, you should have a solid mode of communication where you know she's getting your messages and you can expect a response pretty quickly. And honestly she should have reached out to you to confirm first the day before, and then the day of to make sure that everything was still going according to schedule, and there wouldn't be any setbacks.

And while Cpalmson is correct, and ladies should be more adept on entrapment laws, you get more flies with honey.

There is no right answer here because some of the ladies WILL discuss menu and pricing.

Isn't that what reviews and the info that providers or "patriots" as I like to call my saviors, put on there showcase. I thinks its a little rude to ask on the phone. Its like asking a girl out to dinner and then say but if we go to this nicer restaurant your going to blow me right. And if you get desert your going to swallow. So I just figure read the reviews and get an idea of the girls comfort level and if that matches up with yours. Then what happens is what happens. If you like it then you will call her again and if not you won't. I don't see the need to ask on the phone.

From the providers stand point I can see why she would want to ask some questions but I always think it raises some red flags when she ask about price or makes it a point to point out cost. Most ask how long which personally I feel like an Hour should be the standard and anything less than that is just kind of rude, but that just me. If she wants to make sure he knows the cost how about just asking where he saw your profile, how long he wanted to hang out and if he saw the donation listed on the showcase. That way there is no real info given out in case LE is involved.

The only girls I have meet who have ever had an issue with LE is when they where doing something they shouldn't be doing or they were with another girl who was doing something they shouldn't be doing. Example, picking up clients at bar or casino or one girl told me she was at hotel and the girl she was with saw LE and freaked and basically told them what they were doing, I think 420 was involved. LE is worried with appearances, not what's illegal. If its out in the open its a problem - if its hidden on a website vs out on the streets there is less chance of having an issue. But its still important to be discrete.

So talking about prices and services on the phone, in my opinion, is more about being considerate of the other person then being worried that your not going to get what you want out of a session.

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send the gals off a COCK pic........

they love that Originally Posted by JONBALLS

Now I see what you did.

Just wanna say Thank You Zimmie6942

That is all.

If the lady offers multiple service/price points I guess it would help if you just mentioned where you saw her pricing info, so she knows which amount to expect from a specific ad. I know ladies post different prices on different sites and I can understand it a bit (I guess it's like adjusting your rates for a specific target population or running a special for certain members of a site) but it's just so goddamn confusing and leads to so much confusion!!!

This is the main reason why I keep my rates and services uniform across all boards, and if any confusion (for whatever reason) arises, I always direct gentlemen to my website, where ALL that I expect and offer are stated. If you are confused, I would go to her website and just go by what's on there. If she doesn't have one....well then idk sorry.

I do feel comfortable discussing specific requests like outfit/makeup/hairstyle over the phone but NEVER sex or money. But that's just me.

Now I see what you did. Originally Posted by proudoftexas

yup, just get into your user cp and have some fun..

send the gals off a COCK pic........

they love that Originally Posted by JONBALLS

That strategy would not work for me. My 1.3" of dangling death might scare the lady off. However, my legendary status as a tainted virtuoso might save the day.

If the lady offers multiple service/price points I guess it would help if you just mentioned where you saw her pricing info ... Originally Posted by Karyn Lovely

Thank you for your thoughts, KL.

But as I mentioned earlier, in this particular example, no Showcase, Old Ad states FBSM & FS, priced differently. As do reviews.

After I thoroughly screen a gentleman, I don't mind a little flirtation and naughty talk. It just adds to the excitement of our future rendezvous together. However, at no time do I discuss money for proposed services rendered. That's just impolite and can spoil the fantasy.

To avoid confusion, I keep my rates current and services offered uniform across the board. If there are "business" related questions, I request that clients visit my website for further clarification. I've spent countless hours creating it, so I put it to good use :-)