The way you describe the swinger scene is not my experience of it! Maybe we do it differently in europe but swinging to me is a place where a couple will go and might not even see each other for periods of time, I certainly have not demanded things of people doing it with my lady, she usually telling them what to do!.
Originally Posted by Rammixp
There is not one single scenario for a swinging scene. I have been in swinger's clubs where there are huge orgy rooms with MANY couples (20+) doing their thing and I have been at intimate swinger's parties where couples just drift away to the bedrooms by themselves. I have also been in many 3-somes and even then they are all different. As REB said, sometimes the hubby wants you to do things his way. Voyeurism is a major part of a 3-some. Women, whether in 3-somes or other, will make "suggestions" from time-to-time.