Outspoken much? Too much? Why or why not?

Don't confuse chatty and outspoken with smart and intelligent ...

.. and then there is experienced ... an experienced lady can smartly hit the spot without much talking, lol

I am personally drawn to smart and intelligent women, huge boops is what intimidates me.

Hmm,

I am dead pan serious when I say I don't know if some of these are directed at me or if we are just having a discussion about them in general. Either way, I am not taking it personal. See, I still have my 's on!! Maybe the better question is how do you fellas see me? Which fits best? For those of you that have no interest in seeing me, you have nothing to lose by giving your honest opinion.

Maybe it's a little self centered or narcissistic of me to want to know if gentleman think I am intelligent, intimidating in some way or just highly opinionated, chatty and combative. But I want to know! What will I do with this information? I don't really know. If it's heartfelt and constructive I will probably reflect on it a bit. If it's not, well I will just be happy I opened a dialogue about it, because it gets boring as shit around here!

Scarlett, so let's make this about you, which it really is not, because every post is really about the person who makes it...
When I read your last post, THIS immediately came to mind:

The Five Agreements:

BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are tired as opposed to well rested. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

BE SKEPTICAL, BUT LEARN TO LISTEN
Don’t believe yourself or anybody else. Use the power of doubt to question everything you hear: Is it really the truth? Listen to the intent behind the words, and you will understand the real message.

http://wakinggiant.wordpress.com/201...n-miguel-ruiz/

Hope this helps

from what ive gathered from your postings is,you genuinely enjoy what you do. i dont know if you actually enjoy the sex so much as you enjoy making a man feel special. it seems your best encounters may not always be the most lucrative, but more so the most intimate. physically as well as emotionally. im willing to bet most of your return clients not only come back for that rockin body but also that feeling of just seeing a good sexy friend. my thoughts from what i can see of you, is that Scarlett is a very warm ,and open person with those she meets. but ill bet (betty wundercrotch.....i dont know your name) is very guarded with who she lets into her inner sanctum..
so heres my take on Scarlett
enjoys intimate encounters
stimulating conversation
a nice glass of wine
long walks on the beach
and of course, WORLD PEACE

Hot topic! I prefer an intelligent woman hobby or not. I enjoy good conversations but most providers don't seem to want to have a conversation it's almost like when a man goes to a strip club and most men would like at least a little conversation before a sexy or not so sexy woman ask do you want a dance. It's my opinion but I would love a good conversation even if its through PM's but a consistent convo is a turn on for me!

I think along the lines of - possibly paraphrasing big al - imagination is more important than knowledge

intelligence definitely isn't the most important thing, but often it correlates with creativity and "interestingness" - as well as smart service

getting sucked into debating someone isn't necessarily all that awesome, especially given a usually limited time, and especially if it is about something we aren't going to change each others' minds about anyway...

True but me personally I like a little intel. I would enjoy someone's opinion or outlook on subjects. What is the harm in a good intelligent or not so intelligent convo. Debates can be bad but a conversation about likes and dislikes or why someone feels the way the do does not have to be a debate it can be what it's meant to be a time to learn something about someone else.

To answer your question Ms. Scarlett; yes, an intelligent woman could scare off a guy b/c he is lacking self confidence to keep up with her intellectually. An opinionated women is intelligent, and whether she conducts those opinions with chattiness or humorous banter, a guy could see that as itimidating. But those are guys; young and dumb or Jersey-shore type tools who think about themselves only. What you need is a man who not only knows how to accept a women for who she is but has the confidence to admire an equal partner.

Hot topic! I prefer an intelligent woman hobby or not. I enjoy good conversations but most providers don't seem to want to have a conversation it's almost like when a man goes to a strip club and most men would like at least a little conversation before a sexy or not so sexy woman ask do you want a dance. It's my opinion but I would love a good conversation even if its through PM's but a consistent convo is a turn on for me! Originally Posted by Austins1hobby

I love a good conversation with someone interesting. I have had a couple of experiences where I met for dinner/drinks first with gentlemen who were, honestly quite a bit older than me. I wasn't that attracted to them on a purely physical basis, but they were so charming and interesting that I really had a great time when it came to BCD time. So, it definitely works both ways. By the same token, I have also had experiences where I was very turned off by someone's personality. The conversation needed to stop because my vagina was starting to feel like Fort Knox.

I love the companionship of a quick-witted lady. One of my favorite phrases is "Methinks he doth protest too much," and when the woman I'm with smiles knowingly, or winks, or gives some other sign that she recognizes Shakespeare and caught the meaning behind my comment, it's a turn-on.
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I like to entertain with stories, jokes, and wisecracks; most of my one-liners are allusions, either literary, entertainment, or currrent events. It requires a woman with a certain amount of worldly knowledge to appreciate that. And when I find a lady whose wit and intelligence equals or surpasses mine, then I'm really having a blast.
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And there's nothing wrong with being opinionated. It shows that you take interest in a variety of topics and that you have a mind of your own and can express your thoughts. My number one desire, more than physical looks, more than any single sexual activity, is to be with a woman who can disagree and debate without becoming angry. I am drawn to such women like graft to a politician; can't get enough. It stimulates the mind, and for me, the libido, like nothing else.

I love intelligent women that can carry a good conversation and not be afraid of speaking their opinions. I've been in the hobby for almost 20 years now and two of my three ATFs had graduate degrees (both liberally bent) and my third is working on her bachelors (soon to be completed and she's conservatively bent). Great sex involves just more than the physical stuff, it requires communication, respect and self confidence. I think that's what I enjoy the most from these three providers.

Once upon a time in a far away galaxy, Spacemtn was a very quiet lurker on a board that has since passed into the days of yore. There he read and researched ladies for the attributes that were most attractive to him and chose his infrequent dalliances from said attractions. You see, because of time constraints, Spacemtn, wanted quality over quantity.

He recalls with sincere fondness a young lady (who shall remain nameless) who seemed to possess the physical attributes that were important to him, but who also was obviously intelligent (which even a dolt like Spacemtn could see just from reading her POSTS) which was the biggest attraction of all!! In fact, even before meeting her in person, he was a bit smitten by her wit and intellect. The meeting proved to be all he had hoped for (as did subsequent meetings between the two of them), and to this day he remains friends with this wonderfull lady that he probably would not have met had it not been for the intelligence displayed in her POSTS!!!!!!

The End!!!!!!

Spacemtn
AustinModStaff

Well, going to be very blunt here and kinda swipe some of Space's wording here --

Once upon a time, I saw a lady and wrote a "no" review on her mainly because she was a complete and total dumbass!

Once upon a time, I had an ATF who was beautiful, sexy, confident, down-to-earth, and intelligent. Maybe that's why she was my ATF.

I hope all who read this can see the point that I am trying to make here.

I love a good conversation with someone interesting. I have had a couple of experiences where I met for dinner/drinks first with gentlemen who were, honestly quite a bit older than me. I wasn't that attracted to them on a purely physical basis, but they were so charming and interesting that I really had a great time when it came to BCD time. So, it definitely works both ways. By the same token, I have also had experiences where I was very turned off by someone's personality. The conversation needed to stop because my vagina was starting to feel like Fort Knox. Originally Posted by Annef

So true both ways.

I definitely find a brain to be a very attractive feature on a woman. Even though I can deal with a dumb girl if she's hot, in real life and otherwise, the attraction goes away very quickly if there is no intellectual depth to the beauty.