When Do you Know its Time to Quit the Hobby

I think the pay extra was referring to the price difference between a 30 min session and an hour or more.

Why ask when YOU KNOW? What do you care what others think? As for not connecting with ladies that interest you, not all ladies know how to TCB. Now I'm not a handsome black man, factually I'm at the far end of mature and white, vanilla even. However, an informative, respectful PM has usually brought me the desired response. I don't contact women who have even a hint of flake. Maybe you just need to review your selection process. Think about it. You will make the right decision for you.

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Put yourself in the shoes of my business ...

Client 2 - Older ugly gentleman regardless of color wanting 90mins. Have some wine, music, relax, mental seduction, touching, kissing, going into the bedroom... Originally Posted by Ms Francisca

Ms Francisca, this is where you described me to a 'T' and we haven't been BCD.

I wear no blinders and am non-self delusional, like Popeye, 'I yam what I yam'.

Only in my opinion and my opinion only, were I a provider I would prefer the OP as being younger and better looking, but as a male I do not have a sense in how much more mileage or wear and tear a younger client adds to a providers chassis, so in other words, I haven't a clue to what I am talking about.

To the OP, I have been in this thing for 5 or more years, met a lot of ladies, been BCD with a whole lot less. I found some to be fantastic and some less so. However, this is still a necessity for an older, ugly fat man to share intimacy with someone that will find me funny, interesting and a fantastic lover. I guess I am self delusional.

If you feel the need to step away, do so. But do not make your decision based on one get together where things didn't work out.

Should you decide to return to the hobby then you return to the hobby.

Best to you.

Dogg

Maybe it's your approach to the ladies?

I'm just gonna to put this in about the wear and tear.. Some of you gents on this board are packing down south and are NOT black men. So you guys really need to stop with the racial profiling thing. You know who you are

I will most definitely see a black man and have a few very wonderful, generous, RESPECTFUL clients that are black men.

That's my 2cents. I enjoy the longer, lavish dates (who doesn't) but I appreciate the shorter ones as well. Shorter ones can lead to longer ones if you mesh well.

Ms Francesca you are always on my mind

Well put Tracy.....

Well put Tracy..... Originally Posted by TrmaOne

+1

+1 Originally Posted by Netx9

+1

I'm just gonna to put this in about the wear and tear.. Some of you gents on this board are packing down south and are NOT black men. So you guys really need to stop with the racial profiling thing. You know who you are

I will most definitely see a black man and have a few very wonderful, generous, RESPECTFUL clients that are black men.

That's my 2cents. I enjoy the longer, lavish dates (who doesn't) but I appreciate the shorter ones as well. Shorter ones can lead to longer ones if you mesh well. Originally Posted by Tracy Auburn

Amen sister, also +1 on the approach

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Ms Francesca you are always on my mind Originally Posted by pickupkid

You are too kind.

If I may use you as an example.... I spent time with you BCD probably 10years ago, yet I will never forget you. I do not remember what you paid; I do not remember your size.... You brought me a gift. I have no clue to the monetary value of that gift, what always stuck with me is that you did not know me, and you were thoughtful enough to bring me something special.

I appreciate any man that is interested in me period, but as far as the length of a date.... I am not comfortable with short dates.
I cannot become aroused & perform within 30min.
Now, if I know a gentleman and have spent time with him in the past, a quickie (early morning) from time to time is also enjoyable for me.

Laz is a wonderful gentleman that I have had the plesure of spending time with in public settings, but never BCD.
I like Laz, I like him a lot, and I would quickly accept a 30min date with him because he has taken the time to get to know me as a person. That turns me on.

Ok...I'm going to stir the pot a bit. Why should it be necessary to pay extra to "charm her panties off" 200-300 hundred dollars an hour should be sufficient to put a smile on anyone's face. I'm not a young black male and find it difficult to spend time with nice ladies.
I can say that I am courteous, kind, giving, and a true gentleman and do get turned down. Originally Posted by TrmaOne

I can only speak for myself. NO, $200-$300 is not sufficient to make me smile. If it was, I would of retired years ago a very wealthy woman.
To think that any amount of $ is worth doing something you do not enjoy, is in my opinion, the biggest mistake you can make as a provider or as a hobbyist.
When $ is the determining factor of your enjoyment, you have become a prostitute and a trick.

I want more than $. I want to enjoy the man I am with because of who he is and appreciate the $ he is able to give me.

I can say this for sure with confidence that the women get an enjoyable experience just a much as I do. It saddens me to see such "fill in the blank" within an adult community. This is not to cause any disdain to anyone but if it does, there may need to be some self reflection directed towards oneself. Originally Posted by TrmaOne

You say this for sure & with confidence????? Are you sure & confident that she is not just happy you are paying her $200-$300????
If you say $ is sufficient to make anyone happy, how are you certain & confident it is you making her smile and not the $200-$300? If you are that good in bed that women enjoy you without having to pay them..... May I contact 1 of your references? I might just pay you to come see me.

I am not saying women do not enjoy you, I am certain some women do. To say you are certain & confident a "Provider" enjoys the experience as much as you do is a ..... I will just say its a bit much.

I think my professional image and creditabilty is far more important in paying my bills than a misinterpreted stero-type rebuttal. Originally Posted by TrmaOne

Touché Sir.
For you, this is a hobby. For a provider, this is her profession.

Don’t want to bust your bubble, but I can say this for sure & with confidence… I can make a man believe I am completely in love with him….
That is my definition of a true GFE.

You have to do what is right by you and you alone.
Bear Originally Posted by bearf15amc

Exactly!

Samus

I took the time to read your posts. You do seem to be a very nice young man.
I read a response in the alerts that really said a lot. You are man enough to say no to P**** in a bad situation. Many, many grown men would of stayed.
Kuddos to you!

Maybe you are communicating wrong??? Tracy asked about your approach.

Always start by giving your name. A short "are you available?" "Hey" "Whats up?" will get ignored. I get at least 1 a day so I know ladies get more than their share.

Maybe, you are giving out too much info. Try just your name and references, etc... and dont say you are young and black. Wait until further contact is made. Wait until the last minute and hope that by then you will at least have some positive backup.

I can say this for sure & with confidence… I can make a man believe I am completely in love with him….
That is my definition of a true GFE.
Originally Posted by Ms Francisca

Dang, you mean you don't Fran?

To the OP. When it starts being more of a hassle than what it's worth. Find one or two you can depend on and that you enjoy spending time with. Variety is great but getting to know a lady after multiple visits has its benefits also. Good luck.

Francisca, thank you for the dissertation. You have a great day..

You have to do what is right by you and you alone. I don't post or review much either for professional reasons and have been turned down, ncns, pm ignored...etc. sometimes it is only my bad perception and time seemed to help work everything out. Everyone hobbies for their own reasons, find yours or take a break. My advice, which is like...you know how that goes... is take a deep breath, contact a mature provider and take sometime. Maturity is an attitude not an age IMHO...

Bear Originally Posted by bearf15amc

Bear, if you need a reference, tell them to ask me.