Married providers/hobbyists

I don't particularly care what his relationship status is .... single or attached just don't hound me with too many txts/pms/emails after the date or too much before the next one ..... thanks .

I noticed you used the word let. Do you think... in relationships... one person has the right to control or tell the other person what they can or can't do? At what point does allowing a person to make their own choices come into play? And from there, based upon the choices that person makes, deciding if personally you are willing to stick around? Originally Posted by PleasantSurprise

Splitting hairs if people are in a married relationship there should be ground rules. If the guy is cool with her fucking other men ok if she is on the sly could be a deal breaker .It was not about control just what worke .OK?

Splitting hairs if people are in a married relationship there should be ground rules. If the guy is cool with her fucking other men ok if she is on the sly could be a deal breaker .It was not about control just what worke .OK? Originally Posted by i'va biggen

I didn't mean to offend you if I did. I only meant to ask my question to put another perspective out there and to pick your brain a little. I wouldn't say it comes down to being cool with someone fucking other men, but just letting people make their own choices, and deciding whether or not to stick around.

A favorite UTR provider of mine that is amazing..... her husband is known to set up the area where she hits my homerun by putting in the porn dvd's and music ambience etc etc....
At times I believe he was there in the house...and is very aware of her providing....weird but safe!
I think...LOL

I didn't mean to offend you if I did. I only meant to ask my question to put another perspective out there and to pick your brain a little. I wouldn't say it comes down to being cool with someone fucking other men, but just letting people make their own choices, and deciding whether or not to stick around. Originally Posted by PleasantSurprise

You did not offend the conversation was about the word let.

There is an inherent kinkiness involved with sleeping with someone who's married.
I've dabbled in the swingers world and been invited to a few married couples bedrooms. Sleeping with a horny married woman who just loves sex and wants something "new" always excited me. Doing so while the husband watches, encourages and even gets involved is very hot indeed.

Hobbying when you have a SO also brings that dimension of naughtiness to sex. Much for the same reason a married man might have an affair with his secretary, the rush you get from being with someone on the side is exciting.

I have no problems with seeing a married provider, in fact I'd find it exciting for the reasons I stated above, as long as 1 of 2 things happen:

1) Her husband knows what she does and is fine with it ( don't laugh board lurkers - I've met and been with married couples that have an open marriage and the husbands actually loves it when his wife plays with other men. There's a part of me that relates - nothing is hotter to me than a woman expressing and enjoying her sexuality. If she can do that with various people and has the love and support of her partner, that is the hottest thing of all.)

2) If the husband is NOT aware she's providing, then she has to use the UTMOST discretion to avoid any RL drama invading her hobby life. No incalls to the home she shares with her husband, very cautious and discreet in all communications, planning sessions with plenty of time to ensure she's not rushed and runs the risk of running behind to meet her SO at home or whatever.

While the mental thought of being with a married provider is hot, the thought that it could all turn to shit and drama will unfold once the husband finds out deflates me faster than anything.

There is an inherent kinkiness involved with sleeping with someone who's married.
I've dabbled in the swingers world and been invited to a few married couples bedrooms. Sleeping with a horny married woman who just loves sex and wants something "new" always excited me. Doing so while the husband watches, encourages and even gets involved is very hot indeed.

Hobbying when you have a SO also brings that dimension of naughtiness to sex. Much for the same reason a married man might have an affair with his secretary, the rush you get from being with someone on the side is exciting.

I have no problems with seeing a married provider, in fact I'd find it exciting for the reasons I stated above, as long as 1 of 2 things happen:

1) Her husband knows what she does and is fine with it ( don't laugh board lurkers - I've met and been with married couples that have an open marriage and the husbands actually loves it when his wife plays with other men. There's a part of me that relates - nothing is hotter to me than a woman expressing and enjoying her sexuality. If she can do that with various people and has the love and support of her partner, that is the hottest thing of all.)

2) If the husband is NOT aware she's providing, then she has to use the UTMOST discretion to avoid any RL drama invading her hobby life. No incalls to the home she shares with her husband, very cautious and discreet in all communications, planning sessions with plenty of time to ensure she's not rushed and runs the risk of running behind to meet her SO at home or whatever.

While the mental thought of being with a married provider is hot, the thought that it could all turn to shit and drama will unfold once the husband finds out deflates me faster than anything. Originally Posted by Bcdrummer

Bcdrummer, Well said!

But just because a provider doesn't do incalls out of her home, doesn't mean that she's hiding something from her husband or significant other. It only means that she keeps her home life very private.

Fairly simple - It does matter to me as long as:

The husband knows.

The husband is not jealous.

There is no marital discord.


I don't want to be the one in bed with a provider when the husband finds out.

I've been with providers who's SO knew what they did, but had a jealous streak. Too much damn drama and potential violence.

I don't want to be dragged into a messy divorce as "Exhibit A"

The above being said, I have been with providers who were in a relationship. When they discuss it, many time I have thought "why are you with that loser."

So should the question be, how many providers are Married or have, SO, Boyfriends, Management.
would this stop a client from seeing them.
Another question would be: Location, does that keep the clients away, what locations are the best.
do you feel some locations are over worked, having to many providers in one area.

I really don't care if the Providers has any of the above. to me most do, and life goes on.
we met we had fun, and I say thanks for your time.
Location is a key point to me. I don't like the I-70 (49) strip, or Noland Rd area at all. When the cops are always sitting behind the fast food place.
Do some providers get jealous, I am sure this happens.

+1 sixth beetle i kind of miss those hair cuts it was fun to get a hair cut and ++ from a hot naked lady, but walking across the house infront of the hubby was a bit unerving, never care if she is married or not just didnt like looking at him!

I have personal knowledge that there are providers here that are married. So long as it doesn't cause me a problem, it's really none of my business.

Some men dig it.

Case in point, on occasion I am sent a picture of a fellows wife by the husband. I print it out and decorate it. I then photograph it and send it back to him. It's called a tribute pic. They are both into that sort of thing, and I don't mind doing it for them. All good clean fun (and it makes me laugh to think of the look on an FBI agent's face if he found that in my trash).

UTR ladies who are swingers or in an open marriage are the BOMB. Most sexually free and uninhibited chicks I've ever been with. It's best to talk to the hubby before hand so everyone is comfortable and knows the rules. They're usually good guys and get off on knowing the old lady is getting a good fucking. I imagine they get some when she gets home. If knowing someone is married is a factor, you're doing this all wrong.

there's a body rub provider on here who's married who i'd really like to see. but many guys have said her husband is in the apt at the same time, now that would creep me out.

How do you guys feel about being with a provider that is married? Does it affect your decision to see her?

And ladies? Do you prefer your gentlemen to be married or single?

I personally prefer married men (lol) I guess I think that the married hobbyists will come with less drama. Plus it kinda turns me on! Makes me feel like a naughty mistress Originally Posted by DestinyInKC

What? How would we know that? How would you know that? Oh, we told each other. That means that we have talked.

After I have known a women for a while, it is amazing how much I have learned about her. But, it is personal information that is private.

What is shared is private information.

JR

If I ever meet "mr. right"....I hope he is ok with my line of work..lol