Anti Fuck....that describes my last gf... .. One reason I am unattached these days...I have pretty good security measures in place .. so emails from hobby people are no big deal to me....I have pretty much stopped hobbying not really close to any providers..but its probably a good idea for a provider to just email people she is kinda familiar with their situation and know its cool Originally Posted by sunspotsI know he lives alone. Is single. I wanna say a widow but i can't remember could just be divorced. I already knew sending a email would not jeopardize his "status" or whatever. everyone just seems to be under the impression I randomly and carelessly sent out a bunch of emails to guys without thinking of the consequences. this is not the case but that seems to be alot of people's focus. the other 4 holiday emails i sent out 2 of them were just replies to say sorry not available during winter break have a merry christmas and the last 2 was to guys I regularly exchange conversation with and ALL of them I know for a fact use hobby email. and NOTHING I said was explicit, suggestive or anything but a polite touch base happy holidays.
No do not post it! This train wreck is already bad enough.It was Not a PM and He is not a eccie memeber. just fyi
Spacemtn
AustinModStaff Originally Posted by Spacemtn
HEY! I'm trying to get you some clear cut infractions that make it all easier! Originally Posted by Whispers>_> I hate you. like seriously everything you say is just mean Unhelpful and meant to tear others down. your a giant bully who gets off on fucking with other ppl and putting them down. I don't know why everyone thinks your so nice but your not. your horrible person.
It seems as though you want everyone to agree with you that you didn't do anything wrong. If you had sent the guy a PM on here I wouldn't think it was that big of a deal. But sending an unsolicited email is wrong. How do you know that the guys status hasn't changed since he saw you? Maybe he's dating someone and is out of the hobby all together. You said you didn't realize that you had done anything wrong and when most guys start pointing out that you did, all you want to do is defend yourself. Ladies, it's not that difficult. Never send an email or text out of the blue. Never!! Originally Posted by nativetexan2708i was addressing the concerns or reason others were pointing out why it would have been a problem.
It seems as though you want everyone to agree with you that you didn't do anything wrong. If you had sent the guy a PM on here I wouldn't think it was that big of a deal. But sending an unsolicited email is wrong. How do you know that the guys status hasn't changed since he saw you? Maybe he's dating someone and is out of the hobby all together. You said you didn't realize that you had done anything wrong and when most guys start pointing out that you did, all you want to do is defend yourself. Ladies, it's not that difficult. Never send an email or text out of the blue. Never!! Originally Posted by nativetexan2708Actually this is exactly what happens too much. A guy gets in a relationship, steps away. Is totally transparent with his new SO, and not secretive and POW, something sketchy pops up out of the blue.
i was addressing the concerns or reason others were pointing out why it would have been a problem.Just have the protocol in place. I have not had any problems. I only send a text, email or pm when I want to set a appointment except I do have one that I send a text to her hobby phone or her personal email address when there is an investment update. But I had to know that was ok before I did it.
but think what you like.
bit of a double standard tho. how about we make it even since Providers too have family and SOs how about guys never text or email or Call out to the blue. you know just to make it fair. Never! Originally Posted by Secret_Amore
Actually this is exactly what happens too much. A guy gets in a relationship, steps away. Is totally transparent with his new SO, and not secretive and POW, something sketchy pops up out of the blue.yes your right I just need to take a chill pill.
Secret_Amore, I think the large majority of people were really supportive. The fact is, you sent him an email and that set him off, for whatever reason. I don't think he would have ever sent an nasty email to you except to respond to you. That in itself shows why unsolicited emails are a bad thing, sometimes. But we never know when.
That said, you did a GREAT job restating your story! Don't let crazy hater guy get you down...some people are just jerks.
Now please make me a sandwich....I'm starving! Xoxo Originally Posted by LilMynx69