I didn't address this, and it was first poised by PJ. Yes, SBs are different from escorts, however like my analogy to CDs and MP3s, you are paying money for sex just like you are paying money for music. So they are different but also alike
If you follow the conventional SB model, then yes commitment and relationship building are part of it. However, there is no reason that model has to be followed. Unless there is a lot of trust with the client, the HDH and escort have to follow a set protocol. If they don't, they can be called out on review boards for their inconsistencies.
OTOH, because the SD SB relationship is between two people, the usual rules do not have to apply. We can create whatever relationship we want. There are no rules on how much time I have to spend per hour, how long she stays, how intimate we have to be ETC.
The problems with the HDH then are a lack of intimacy and a standard performance. (Don't get me wrong. The standard performance can be toe curling.) The problems with the SB are dependence and drama.
The model Shyster John has with his SBs did not work for me because I did not have the free time that he did. With a few exceptions, I want my rendezvouses to be over in a few hours.
In my case, a SB-escort hybrid has worked well for me. In hindsight, I realize that I have taken the best part of the escort business (sex for money without the emotional drama) and the best part of the SB model (true and unique intimacy with another person) and combined them. If the SB is overly dependent or greedy, I have sent her packing.
I have found a lot of women who want to have sex for money, but they want to be more selective in whom they see and not be labeled as an escort. These women make ideal SBs and FWIW, I think the number of said women is growing.
Again, I am just one guy. Still, you have to wonder how many men are going to file the same path that I have, discover these women, and start using the SB as a more intimate type of escort.
Originally Posted by woodyboyd
Ok. I see where the issue lies now. Your interpretation of an HDH is not the same as mine. I base mine, generally, on the ladies that around on the HDH forum on ASPD. Some of these lades are still around, some are not.
General commonalities were:
They had a minimum time of 4hrs at a rate well above $2k
They had no reviews
To cultivate a reassuring (and therefore relaxing) experience it was often grounded in reality. These women would often share a high degree of personal information about themselves (that went far beyond just their real names) and would even introduce their friends to these men and sometimes family
These women by default of price and repeat clientele were very low volume.
These are not typical characteristics of women operating at a lower rate level or a higher volume level. Your own interpretation of an HDH seems to differ. That's fine, it's not an absolute BUT I think most folks on here from back then think of many of those women when they speak of an HDH.
So back to issue at hand. If an HDH is to a certain degree providing similar experiences as the SB...why can they charge so much more?
A man can have much more freedom with an HDH than an SB
A man can have an exclusive relationshiph an HDH without the dram of which you speak
A man can repeat over and over and over with an HDH,till getting to know her on a deeper level each time, without any to anything ongoing (and a true SB/SD joining is an ongoing relationship..even if it limited)
A man can quickly look for an HDH without having to wade through piles of ads and can bypass any sort of interview process.
Whilst none of this may appeal to you, for some men it holds a hell of a lot of value for which they are willing to pay.
Most men at that level are not seeing multiple womer do they have a desire to ditch and switch because boundaries are not clearly defined. Most women at that level don't see multiple men and for the boundaries (of a relationship that is grounded largely in reality and not fantasy) expect some degree of inflated income for the higher than would be normal access into their very real lives.
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) Then I spend the next two weeks convinced that I have the swine flew. I finally return to my happy healthy self only to log on eccie to see that you guys are still arguing about the demise of the HDH, that is if anyone could figure out what one is in the first place.I feel that life has finally returned to normal
How's Ed doing; no swine flu for him?
and exactly what is a high dollar hound, and have their glory days been numbered and are sales at Petco currently down, and how does all of this relate to him, and where his next bone is coming from.
