So if I understand this correctly it seems that Indys aka TOS started after ASPD shut down and picked up steam in 2006.
Originally Posted by Brandofan
Indys started before ASPD shut down. It existed for at least a year or two before that, I think it started even before diamondjohn (one of the senior admins on ASPD and general overseer of the Pittsburgh forums) passed away. It actually started as purely an ad posting site (similar to current sites such as Tryst).
When PI (then known by a different handle) relaunched the site to include reviews and discussion forums, he started using ASPD's facilities to try to siphon off ASPD's Pittsburgh user base and encourage them to migrate over to his site, via forum posts promoting his site and direct PMs to ASPD members. The admins at ASPD told him to cut it out, but he wouldn't. So ASPD decided to prohibit all mentions of the Indys site and/or links to it on ASPD, both in public posts and PMs (vBulletin has a "censor" function that can automatically replace all mentions of certain words by "*****", even in PMs) - this is why people started referring to Indys as "TOS" (short for "The Other Site"), to try to get around this prohibition. In retaliation, Indys banned almost all of the ASPD admins involved in that decision from Indys, and in retaliation for the retaliation, ASPD banned the principals of Indys from ASPD. At some point there was a negotiation, after which PI agreed to not use ASPD to promote his own site or siphon off users, in return for which ASPD agreed to reinstate PI and friends, and to lift the prohibition on members even just talking about about Indys among themselves - but the damage was already done, and during the inter-site dispute much of the Pittsburgh hobby community migrated over to Indys and never really came back. For whatever reason, even after the agreement was reached, the name "TOS" stuck, even though there was no longer any need for it.
At some point during this process, diamondjohn died. Then not all that much longer after that, Amber (Bustygirl - the owner, primary architect, and chief programmer of ASPD) also died. The admin crew, with the support of Amber's mother and sister, tried to keep it running. And then something bad happened (the exact nature of which I never fully understood), and the site crashed. A lot of the content, and a lot of the site code, was lost. There was no real backup, at least not that anyone could find - I know Amber made backups from time to time, but she was very concerned about letting anyone have access to the raw site data, so she kept a lot of things like this to herself. The admins with technical know-how, in conjunction with a contracted vBulletin programmer, spent a few months hunting around for whatever bits and pieces they could find, and put the site back together as well as they could. But it never really worked correctly after that and so much was lost. So Amber's family members decided to shut down the site, rather than have it limp along in that state, especially given how much money it cost every month to keep it on the air. From a local perspective, the multi-month outage drove almost all of the remaining Pittsburgh users over to Indys, because there really weren't any other reasonable choices.
I remember the night ASPD was shut down, I spent the whole night at my computer, hitting "refresh" on the new post listing every minute or two and trying to read all the new posts, until the site just stopped responding... :-(