Sugar Daddy/ Sugar Baby Dating

I fell into a 8 month SD/SB relationship. It taught me a lot and was a great experience in many ways, but he was married. I got too comfortable and allowed him to talk me into paying for a really nice place I really could not afford without his assistance. Lesson learned- Never depend on anyone. The wife found a huge amount of money missing and my child and I were stuck out. I take responsibility for depending on him too much.

I had always been extremely independent before that experience.

I just feel lucky that nothing bad happened to me or him as far as revenge from the wife.

I don't think I would ever want to be in that type of relationship again, but it was a learning experience and I grew a lot as a person. He treated me extremely well. I was able to get a lot of personal goals accomplished in our time together and he enjoyed giving me the security I needed and was their for emotional support as well.

I wish him well, but wouldn't consider doing it again if I had it to do over.
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Then you both did it wrong.

If his wife found missing money he couldn't afford to live the lifestyle he wanted.
If you relied on him then you did it wrong as you noted.

Looks like you both had no clue about how this works.

It's ok, most don't till they find a real sugar daddy and not one looking for cheap pussy and the hooker isn't looking for private welfare.
The man has no money issues. He's set for life, but hiding 60 or 70k can be difficult to hide from a spouse... even a wealthy person. I don't think he was looking for cheap pussy. It wasn't cheap. Nor was I looking for welfare. I had quite a few reservations about it, tbh. But, you would be correct, it was not a traditional SD/SB relationship. From what I understand, even the most well thought plans can fall apart.
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Just sounds a little odd is all.

Meh, I guess we all do dumb things.
THERE ARE SO MANY SITUATIONS THAT YOU HAVE TO FORM A STANCE ON (( EARLY ON )) BECAUSE EVERYONE WANTS SEX WORKERS TO DO EVERYTHING !!! IT IS KIND OF STRANGE HAVING VERY REAL BOUNDARIES ABOUT A VAST ARRAY OF SEXUAL EXPERIENCES ,, WHEN YOU ARE YOUNG + AND + NEW !!! I HAVE VERY REAL OPINIONS ABOUT EVERY TYPE OF SEXUAL EXPERIENCE OUT THERE !!! AS A PROVIDER ,,, I MAKE THOSE JUDGEMENT CALLS ON A DAILY BASIS !!! ... I REMEMBER WHEN I MADE MY JUDGEMENT CALL ABOUT THE " SUGAR DADDY SUGAR BABY " SITUATION (( WHEN I STARTED AROUND 2OO6 )) !!! I JUST DID THE MATH + AND + I REALIZED THAT HOURLY ESCORT WORK WOULD PROBABLY MORE LUCRATIVE FOR ME ,,, COMPARED TO ONE SUGAR CONNECTION WOULD BE !!! AS THE YEARS WORE ON ,,, I HAD TO BE HONEST WITH MYSELF ,, THAT THERE HAVE BEEN SLOW TIMES IN ESCORT LAND + AND + MAYBE I SHOULD HAVE BEEN MORE FLEXIBLE WITH THE SUGAR SCENE ? ? ? THE MOST MONEY I EVER MADE IN A MONTH OF ESCORTING WAS $ 15 OOO IN ONE MONTH !!! I HAVE ALSO HEARD SOME OTHER GIRLS MAKING $ 2O OOO IN ONE MONTH ,,, SO ,,, IT IS POSSIBLE TO MAKE THAT MIUCH MONEY IN ONE MONTH WITH THE $ 3OO GFE HOURLY MARKET !!! I BET IT IS VERY RARE TO FIND A SUGAR DADDY WHO PAYS $ 15 TO $ 2O K IN ONE MONTH !!! I AM NOT EVEN GONNA GO ON A WILD GOOSE CHASE LOOKING FOR THAT NEEDLE IN THE HAYSTACK !!!


I HAVE ANOTHER THING TO SAY ABOUT THE SUGAR SCENE ;;; I DID HAVE ONE CUSTOMER IN NYC WHO PAID ME $ 12OO PER MONTH ... EVERY MONTH ... FOR TWO YEARS STRAIGHT !!! HE JUST FOUND ME AS AN ESCORT + AND + THERE WAS NO " SUGAR SLANG " DRAPED ON OUR ARRANGEMENT ... HE WAS VERY REGIMENTED ABOUT SEEING ME BECAUSE HE WAS A SUCCESSFUL BUSY PROFESSIONAL WITH LIMITED FREE TIME + AND + HE WANTED HIS TWO DAYS " OFF WORK " TO BE INTIMATE !!! HE ENDED THE RELATIONSHIP WHEN HIS CAREER MOVED HIM TO THE OTHER SIDE OF AMERICA !!! THAT RELATIONSHIP COULD BE CONSIDERED MOST " SUGAR STYLE " ONE I HAVE HAD ,,, BUT ,,, NEITHER HIM NOR I CALLED IT THAT + AND + WE DID NOT START IT ON A SUGAR BABY WEBSITE !!! + AND + I ALWAYS INSIST THAT I AM ALLOWED TO SEE AS MANY CLIENTS AS I WANT TO ...
Would $200 to $300 a month be considered a SB/S/D relationship?
No way, Jose. My allowance was 4 to 6k per month plus 20k for something else.
No way, Jose. My allowance was 4 to 6k per month plus 20k for something else. Originally Posted by Scarlett De Rossi
Wow. Sounds more like a paycheck than an allowance.
They are wonderful as long as barriers are placed and rules for each party's comfort followed. Ah, yet one always wants more.
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Jaycee, I wanna hump your brain. Love your posts. Thanks for sharing.

It's unfortunate to see such narrow views of the SD/SB, as well as the guttering of providers. Statements suggesting SB's are "just" hookers wanting to be something else/better is so unflattering. Like society needs any help from us reinforcing their ignorance. I've met some quality men and women in this business with more decorum and more drive than a lot of civies out there.

I do not believe being a Sugar Baby is a life style choice...... I believe that it is a bridge from some rocky place in a ladies life to a much more fulfilling and rewarding life more in line with the expected norm of society...... Originally Posted by Whispers
It can be a lifestyle choice, though I would say what you describe is the norm. I personally prefer these relationships (or being a provider) over the traditional, for now. The fact that they're usually married is convenient. I can't nurture a full-on traditional union at this time. And because they are married and, usually, lacking something at home, they tend to be really appreciative of their SB's. This makes for a really great connection and that is really, really important to me. This allows me to comfortably surrender to the chemistry/feelings even with the boundaries that we cannot/will not cross. I also like the financial benefit, of course, but I don't need it. I have a full time job and support myself. I don't really have a specific purpose for it (or this). I just prefer it.

I have never in my life seen where a sugar daddy was the sole provider to the sugar baby and it worked out.

Ever Originally Posted by Gotyour6
How many of these relationships have you "seen"?

Although I refused to do an on camera interview (For her privacy due to we work for the same company) they wanted my information because they said we are the epitome of what a sugar relationship is suppose to be. Originally Posted by Gotyour6
Who are "they"?
This has been an interesting read. I am an aspiring Sugar Daddy but don't think I want to dig into arena until I turn 40 in 3.5 years. I want to give myself that time to find a woman that is my physical ideal, naturally, and if I cannot at that point, I am willing to pay to make it happen. My feeling is that you only live once so I'd be severely disappointed going through life never having a chance to experience a woman that I thought was a 10/10 in the looks department.

I feel that my situation is different than most of the guys on here because they are looking for moderately attractive women, and maybe some that would be considered "smoking hot". What I'm looking for is in the top 1% in terms of attractiveness in my cultural sub-group, and has physical features that are pretty rare. To illustrate, my preference is a woman that has somewhere in the ball park of a 38-26-48 physique with no surgical enhancements and a cute face to go along with it. For some this may sound impossible but my days growing up in an urban environment and attending a historically black college provided countless examples of women that were that well endowed (naturally). Furthermore, I have been fortunate enough to sleep with a few women of that body type although their faces were not appealing in any way, shape, or form.

Regardless, due to my highly selective taste, I believe I may have to be willing to pay more than the 1000-1500 that the guys on here are detailing. These women are in high demand in general, and I'm sure many get approached by men offering financial assistance such as myself. I hope I'm wrong, though.
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This has been an interesting read. I am an aspiring Sugar Daddy but don't think I want to dig into arena until I turn 40 in 3.5 years. I want to give myself that time to find a woman that is my physical ideal, naturally, and if I cannot at that point, I am willing to pay to make it happen. My feeling is that you only live once so I'd be severely disappointed going through life never having a chance to experience a woman that I thought was a 10/10 in the looks department.

I feel that my situation is different than most of the guys on here because they are looking for moderately attractive women, and maybe some that would be considered "smoking hot". What I'm looking for is in the top 1% in terms of attractiveness in my cultural sub-group, and has physical features that are pretty rare. To illustrate, my preference is a woman that has somewhere in the ball park of a 38-26-48 physique with no surgical enhancements and a cute face to go along with it. For some this may sound impossible but my days growing up in an urban environment and attending a historically black college provided countless examples of women that were that well endowed (naturally). Furthermore, I have been fortunate enough to sleep with a few women of that body type although their faces were not appealing in any way, shape, or form.

Regardless, due to my highly selective taste, I believe I may have to be willing to pay more than the 1000-1500 that the guys on here are detailing. These women are in high demand in general, and I'm sure many get approached by men offering financial assistance such as myself. I hope I'm wrong, though. Originally Posted by Blade Brown
I held out for one that fit me and didn't settle for anything less.

I wanted a young girl that was into the scene look. She has to have a nice body with breasts no bigger than C and a perfect figure that looked good in a school girl outfit.

I can find many girls that want money but to find one that likes older guys and wants to excel in life is another story.

3 years of fucking young girls (It's a tough job but someone has to do it) I found the perfect one for me in a drug store where I bought my condoms.

Perfect little body, tats in the right places, scene look, big brown doe eyes and liked older guys (She had no clue when I asked her out that I had money.)

The one for you is out there and will show up. You have to find her. I am betting she doesn't even know what a sugar baby is... Mine didn't.
They are wonderful as long as barriers are placed and rules for each party's comfort followed. Ah, yet one always wants more. Originally Posted by natalia d
Usually the SB who wants more and gives less.
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No way, Jose. My allowance was 4 to 6k per month plus 20k for something else. Originally Posted by Scarlett De Rossi
Lol
No way, Jose. My allowance was 4 to 6k per month plus 20k for something else. Originally Posted by Scarlett De Rossi
Yeah, I agree LOL for sure.