A repeat of an old, old question : does the attractiveness of the hobbyist matter?

Of course it matters! As I have always asked...

Would you fuck you?

Because if you wouldn't, chances are no one else would either, at least not for free. Originally Posted by Sunny Taylor
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Despite what the ladies say...

It's all about the money. If you get respect, it's a plus. If he's good looking, it's a plus. But at its basic, it's an exchange of sex for money.

Now, if the 'net gets more sophisticated (along with privacy programs) maybe a lady will require you to email full body nude pic, and then she'll tell you the cost. That way, she'd scale her price to your looks.
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Now, if the 'net gets more sophisticated (along with privacy programs) maybe a lady will require you to email full body nude pic, and then she'll tell you the cost. That way, she'd scale her price to your looks. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005
Noooo, I couldn't afford it anymore!! lol

Actually put my pics on my p411 profile, none nude though...at least gives a heads up for the ladies. I have at least gotten compliments on how "real" the pics are.
According to many escorts: HELL NO! Attractiveness doesn't matter! You can be fat, old, bald, short, handicapped, or just plain ugly...none of that matters as long as you're kind, clean and respectful.

Well, unless, of course, you're black! In that case, no amount of education, professionalism, kindness or generosity will redeem you.

Sorry yall, I just couldn't help it! Whenever I read hypocrisy, I can't help but to respond sardonically.
What about a great guys who isn't great in bed? How does that make providers feel?
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Well, unless, of course, you're black! In that case, no amount of education, professionalism, kindness or generosity will redeem you.

Sorry yall, I just couldn't help it! Whenever I read hypocrisy, I can't help but to respond sardonically. Originally Posted by KaraLynnKelley
Wrong thread Kara, lets keep them on track please.
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Wrong thread Kara, lets keep them on track please. Originally Posted by Chica Chaser
Thank you!

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@ Sunny Taylor, I agree. It's all pay for play though some people do
everything they can to blur the lines. ugh!

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Despite what the ladies say...

It's all about the money. If you get respect, it's a plus. If he's good looking, it's a plus. But at its basic, it's an exchange of sex for money. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005
Pretty much yes...and there's nothing wrong with that.
Looks matter to a point, then the personality comes into play. Its all about how you carry yourself, your conversation skills and sense of humor. Love a man who can make me laugh.
the qualities i find most attractive are intellect, the courage it takes to truly think outside the box, sense of humor, and most importantly, compassion & respect for others... a soul with some genuine kindness inside of it -- and plenty to spare.

if a person has those qualities, they will be attractive to me (though compassion/respect/kindness are the only absolute necessities). it's really as simple as that. i'm easy.
Lets look at this honestly..
you have to be looking for something more than the best looking provider or the cheapest fuck for a buck or you wont ever find the inner beauty of a woman.
You have to be able to treat them with respect, class and appreciation and take the time to get to know them and sometimes thats hard to do ..because some dont want to let you get to know them and enjoy them..they are just after their fee and get you on your way.
So in order for either party to see each other for more than that BOTH HAVE TO BE WILLING TO LOOK DEEPER and then you might begin to enjoy each other as friends as well as client provider relationship and then personalities trump beauty many times over and you can find that click as we call it.
depends on what you want i guess...id rather have a ordinary looking woman with a great personality and likes to have fun than a beauty whos a bitch and a clock watcher anyday.
But this is a business and providers look at this totally diferent than the client !!
It looks like a lot of providers enjoy getting to know their clients reading this post and enjoy their time with them but others like Sunny and Naomi look at as strickly business from their comments.
I've read all the input on this thread. I must say this is the most interesting subject I've read since I've been on eccie. I think most everything providers have wrote is pretty much on the level. I would say physical looks would take a back seat to other traits. Hygiene and behavior would definitely be important. Flat out most straight men couldn'd engage in the escort buisness our minds are to focused on physical appearence. The female mind is different. Escorts maybe special women I think. They do it for many reasons but they all have one thing in common they are are all natural born nurturers. I don't think its just about money, maybe to the real young girls. But to the older providers, I think they like the allure of the unknown, the escape, the interaction and of course the physical closeness. These are things that keep physical attraction from being a priority because a relationship in its conventional context is not inevitable. So the escort looks to other traits in a client to spark attraction, for that time, for that moment, for that client. The reason that escorts post pics and don't typically require any from potential clients, is because to her it's more important for you to be attracted to her than her to you. When a client contacts an escort she's mostly concerned about whether or not you're LE, sane, sober and display good etiquette.
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I think if a provider decided she wouldn't see old, fat, weird lookin guys she'd be lookin for a straight job pretty quick.
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It looks like a lot of providers enjoy getting to know their clients reading this post and enjoy their time with them but others like Sunny and Naomi look at as strickly business from their comments. Originally Posted by wildwooly1
Stictly business? What comment was that, love? I'm not going to lie and say looks matter when it doesn't. When I've had several chats with a guy, we have built rapport and he passes screening, I don't set the appointment, get there and tell him "You're ugly I can't see you". I've never turned a guy down because of his looks...well except for the group I don't see or that one obese guy (and that was a health issue). Most escorts are that way regardless of what they say. We're pretty much paid to screw your brains out and ... lie. I know most providers are here to feed men's fantasies and egos/get business but not me. So since I'm not hunting for business and you're not currently paying me for my time here's the truth:

So stop BSing yourself: How exactly are we supposed to get to know these "wonderful" men an hour? Can you really build a true connection in an hour? NOPE but you can sure as hell fake it and fake it good and make that man feel like he just hit that jackpot. That is what a GOOD escort does. If I agree to see a man for a multi-hour date and I continue to see him, I like him and I show it. There is no "ifs", "buts", "ands" or "maybes" about that.

Men like Doove and CG are a treat. Doove is frikkin HOT..as in "Yes fuck me baby, I'll pay you HOT" and I looove his personality! My clients know how I am with them and they love it. My reviews on and off eccie speak for themselves and "strictly business" is one thing you will never hear anyone that has ever seen me say BUT if you think I'm "strictly business" from my comments? It's ok.. no need convincing you otherwise .

Next time you're at your lawyer, dentist, landscaper.. anyone you do business with, tell them that they're just strictly business/just about the money and see the reception you will get. Escorts are also professionals. Please don't you ever forget that.

Like my dear friend London used to say, This is not match.com or eharmony. You know what you signed up for.
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  • 04-10-2011, 10:04 AM
It looks like a lot of providers enjoy getting to know their clients reading this post and enjoy their time with them but others like Sunny and Naomi look at as strickly business from their comments. Originally Posted by wildwooly1
Dude, she has over 4000 posts. I have to think this means she gets some enjoyment out of the social interaction involved.

Being honest about the fact that money is, and must be, part of the equation doesn't mean they're any more "strictly business" than any provider who doesn't admit openly to that fact.
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  • 04-10-2011, 10:11 AM
Men like Doove and CG are a treat. Doove is frikkin HOT..as in "Yes fuck me baby, I'll pay you HOT" and I looove his personality! Originally Posted by Naomi4u
No comment, i just wanted to read this again.
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Dude, she has over 4000 posts. I have to think this means she gets some enjoyment out of the social interaction involved. Originally Posted by Doove
Well yeah. They [Eccie] sure as hell ain't paying me to post. You'd think so though

Being honest about the fact that money is, and must be, part of the equation doesn't mean they're any more "strictly business" than any provider who doesn't admit openly to that fact.
Too bad you're so far away.