You do make a couple of good points in your above statement, with the exception of you thinking I'm oblivious of the fact that we do not live in a perfect world. I've had a pretty rough life and have experienced a lot thus far. But it has made me the strong opinionated woman that I am today.
And Marilyn Monroes ability to be herself was why she was loved by so many. And of course she couldn't walk down a street unnoticed and fit in. She was an idol, a star... That's a different scenario than those of us with tattoos fitting in. Its such a common thing these days.
And as Destiny mentioned, it was nice to have a civil disagreement lol. Even for me, you gotta admit, it was pretty civil LOL.
Originally Posted by Gemma34
We seem to agree a lot.
Rough life: who hasn't has a rough life, some a lot more than others. The think to remember about being slammed down. The question is not if you get slammed, but rather how far you bounce back. Life is like a rugged ball. We can all stare anew from right now. We do not let our life keep us from improving in the future.
You missed the point of the example about Marilyn Monroe: she did walk down the street unnoticed. That is the point of my example. She was an actress; both her presence on the screen and the example of walking down the street unnoticed was about her ability to have others believe she was the woman she was presenting to us.
I can offer an example of not of my first regular girls I saw in the hobby. I had lost my wife to breast cancer. In 1974 it was not a time to establish a new relationship. Anyway, I saw this girl every week, and we talked. She wanted to go home, and give up the hobby. But she was afraid of what her folks would say/do. When I asked, if she had told them? NO. When I asked, if she though they knew: NO, but she was afraid they would guess, because she not few skills. Well, I said: have you ever been a waitress, you could make enough to support yourself as a waitress; tell them that. But, never tell them you were in the hobby, it can be your secret. No one knows, you are in another town. Two weeks later she was gone and she sent two of her girlfriends to see me for my first double. The friends told me she had gone back to college.
In this world, no one can look at you and know who you are with visual clues
such as: clothes, actions, mannerisms and tattoos, etc. They can listen closely to what
YOU say. We rely on these clues in or normal life, and we can be really off because we pay too much attention to the clues, or uniforms, rather than looking at the person. Make no mistake about it, having a tattoo, or a particular haircut, or clothes style can be a type of uniform. My work during two years of the military required no uniform, or insignia of any kind; why advertise?
I can recall three times when I was doing work for a major corporation when some guy in jeans, a maintenance uniform, or bib overalls (with no shirt) engaged me in a conversation about what I had found. In all cases I gave a very honest evaluation to the guy I thought was next to the situation; in reality all of these guys were either the owner of the multibillion dollar corporation, or the President of the corporation. In one case the guy was also on the board of directors for the consulting firm that owned the firm I where I was employed. In all cases, I took my clues from how the conversation progressed, not how they looked. For the guy on the Board of Directors, we would up talking for 5 hours with him offering me a transfer to another division, while he was in bib overalls with a Lear Jet parked 5 miles away.
The point, sometimes it is nice for people not to know everything about you at first.
Believe this; tattoos can be a uniform that says who you are, or were: if you show them.
Show them when you want, hide them when you want; and sometimes, it is just not anyone else's business. But you decide.
JR
