why do y'all hobby ?

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Meeting new people and be with anyone with out drama about how many I have seen. I am able to be with women I would not be able to in the real world.

I know it's not real but for a short amount of time I can be with a beautiful woman who seems to like me. Even though I give a donation it is worth it.

I’m an open relationship, about to be open marriage soon, and I crave a variety. I however don’t have the time or patience trying to juggle chicks from tinder. I can attract the women I want to fuck, but putting in the work required takes time away from other things, most importantly of which my gf, our kids, and my BFFWB (who is hotter than all but a select few of the providers in my area).

Also, drama free. No wishy washy BS. No relationship, even though I text my fav provider fairly regularly, so there’s no pressure.

And of course, It has become a cliche in its very short life, but that only attests to its extreme accurateness, and that is that Charlie Sheen really did say it perfectly. I’m not paying for the sex. I’m paying them to leave after.

Oh, and these girls put in twice the effort 99% of women put in to make sure you’re satisfied. So the quality of the sex is superior as well to anything you’re gonna find at a bar or on tinder. I’m at a point in my life where I’ve hit a second prime and I don’t want to spend it only fucking one pussy like I did my first peak. And I want the absolute best sex possible while I’m at it. It’s really a no brained for me.

A no strings approach to fulfilling a fun, thrilling sex bucket list!

I never chime in on anything but... It seems to me that some married men are starved for the intimate attention that for whatever reason they aren't getting at home. As for the single men they seem to enjoy the variety without the hassles and intimidation that dating can often bring. Originally Posted by LaurelLoves

For me, i started getting into it, cause i disliked the 'dating scene' of bar hopping (after hearing many nasty stories) and didn't wish to date anyone close to where i worked, (THANKS tailhook!). So since online dating had not been invented in 92, i got into doing this first by having some gals at one of the local lap dance parlors in Portsmouth give me some 1 hr private sessions..
These days i do it, cause from speaking to many friends and acquaintances who are married, what 'i pay out' every month or every other month to relieve myself, is nearly always a lot cheaper than what THEY wind up paying for it..

I've been putting up with a sexless marriage for years - as in zip, nada, none for about six years, and very little over the six years before that Originally Posted by Astros1965

The Amount of times i have heard guys say this, that they've been in sexless/loveless marriages for YEARS on end make me wonder WHY DO so many stay married then?
Is it just the fear of how much she's gonna gouge you for in the divorce?

The Amount of times i have heard guys say this, that they've been in sexless/loveless marriages for YEARS on end make me wonder WHY DO so many stay married then?
Is it just the fear of how much she's gonna gouge you for in the divorce? Originally Posted by garhkal

That is the case for some men. However:
1) Some guys stay because they have a great relationship with their SO and truly love them, but for whatever reason there is either little or no sex drive on her side.
2) Same as #1, but she is simply a 'same old missionary position every Tuesday' kind of woman who refuses to try anything new.
3) Some guys stay because of children - not necessarily the fear of child support, but rather a desire to have their kids grow up with both parents.
4) Some couples just drift apart and live effectively separate lives, but stay together for financial reasons (house, cars, investments, retirement, etc). They don't hate each other and really don't fight much, but there's no passion. They are more like roommates.
5) I'm sure that there are many other reasons as well.

That being said, and going back to the reason SOME married men hobby, I'm sure it really comes (no pun intended) down to the need for sexual satisfaction without the risky entanglements of a mistress. Let's face it - the hobby is a HELL of a lot less risky to a marriage than a mistress is. As I mentioned earlier in this thread: "No emotional baggage".

I stopped hobbying because honestly I think it's pathetic and lame for a man to do it, however, I do like the conversation around the whole scene and I like to talk about it sometime with my friends so I frequent the forums to figure out how things are going.

I had a few women who I paid and I just don't think it's worth it, first of all it's way too private, these girls keep everything about them hidden, dont disclose any information at all, second, their not your girlfriend so it's no really genuine like that and since it's no real feelings attached the inimatcy feels fake and no real.

Also condoms, for all that money I think it's just a waste of money, unless your 55 and up and don't do anything to get yourself together, gym, buying nice clothes, nice car it's no need to trick off your money for this.

I can't speak for everyone but in my case I felt like a loser, lame and on top of that the last escort treated me like shit and threw me out the window. She wanted 140 for a car date for barely 20 minutes and t

threw a bitch fit for her money, I told her to find another john and kim.

I think it's a really fake and phony business but I understand why some do it, I don't knock them for it but it wasn't for me so I bowed out, I have friends who do it and I give them advice but I put escorting in the same space as strippers, very personal, no real info and "enjoy" it if you can.

For 140 no offense I can buy some nice shoes, a shirt and more, no need to spend that for 30 minutes of temporary please.

You can bash but I'm just being honest if I get banned so be it. I was speaking my personal experiences with escorts.

As a man, life is largely about confidence, escorting "Doesn't" help any of that.