Tiffani,
Thank you for some sanity.
I do not know your situation or Naomi's so all I can do is relate to the situations I personally know. These are some reasons I have loaned/given money to a lady in need (and in all these cases I knew with certainty that the situation was real):
--Mother had a heart attack, lady had to care for her 24/7 (the "righteous" christian siblings would not lift a finger nor help one day a week) and could not work for almost two months
--Lady broke her ankle and could not work because she could not drive and lives in a very rural area
--Lady had hysterectomy and could not work for almost 6 mos because of complications
--Lady's house burned with most her belongings--insurance was slow and not very generous
--Lady wanted to get out of the business, went back to school, and underestimated the time it takes to do well
--Lady mugged while on tour, cash and credit cards stolen, no way home
In most these cases it was a single mom with deadbeat father. Life is quite different if there are kids involved and those "families" have turned their backs as happens far too often. It is not as simplistic as Naomi and some others would like it to be.
No guy has to help, but I see nothing wrong if they do. I always considered these as gifts, but in the vast majority of cases I have been repaid in one fashion or another.
Originally Posted by Old-T
It warms my heart to see that there are STILL men as tender hearted and sweet like you in the hobby. OldManT, I haven't been around as long as you but I have been taken advantage of by at least 3 women in this hobby - The only one that can call me and get a dime from me is my bestie, London.
I do not trust easy. Did you hear about the girl on that other escort forum? - She was a well reviewed provider, she needed funds for her son - he was just diagnosed with cancer, she was pals with another well reviewed provider that is very well respected so everyone chipped in. Come to find out at the end of the day after the begging and pleading for "donation" from site members she made out with
$80,000. Site admin contacted her and asked her to send in hospital bills so he can know this was legit AFTER the money had been sent to her paypal - Guess what? There was NO sick son. She made it all up!
I don't know why hobbyists feel the need to lend money. This is a business. Let me ask you, can you go to the gas station and ask the cashier to lend you money that you do not have any money for gas? Can you go to walmart and tell them you do not have any money and ask for free groceries? No. So why should a provider do it? If I were a hobbyists, I would want a session right then and there UNLESS it's someone I know and trust.
That is all. I don't think that's insanity. It's called being smart but of course I respect your opinion. I think you're a sweet guy
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