Do men get what is going on with a provider or care?

I cannot speak for anyone but myself. If you are going to charge me for listening to your issues then something is wrong. Talk about anything you want for as long as you want as long as the clock is not running on the time the gentleman has paid you for.

Flip it around. If you went to a mechanic to get your car worked on and were told this repair will cost $100 per hour, would you want that mechanic diagnosing and working on fixing your car or talking about their personal problems. If the mechanic spent 30 minutes working on your car and 90 minutes talking about the wife, kids, friends or family would you want to be billed for 2 hours? Originally Posted by ValenTX

Good analogy, because whether you’re seeing a car mechanic or a provider either way you’re going to get fucked.

Ugghh not the same topic !!!! Answer the question or just be quiet. Originally Posted by Misty S

Glad to see you're still stable.

I agree men do not want to walk into a hot mess...

I consider myself a compassionate person. Wouldn't you agree Rompers?

I may be of a different type, but I enjoy having a good engaging conversation with the lady, I simply like to learn about other people. My lobbying sessions have always been overnights or longer, and have never had a session that was less than 8 hours. So it's important for me if the provider is able to have good conversations with me.

I may be of a different type, but I enjoy having a good engaging conversation with the lady, I simply like to learn about other people. My lobbying sessions have always been overnights or longer, and have never had a session that was less than 8 hours. So it's important for me if the provider is able to have good conversations with me. Originally Posted by Muse2015

Having a good intellectual conversation is one thing. Crying and complaining about how hard her life is is a completely different issue. It seems several ladies cannot tell the difference.

Speaking for myself , sometimes anxiety can be Physical , or as a result of something physical such as hormones etc. For example: low thyroid, progesterone or high estrogen in women will cause anxiety. Low testosterone or high in men will cause it as well. If you need someone to talk to , ill be happy to listen

Having a good intellectual conversation is one thing. Crying and complaining about how hard her life is is a completely different issue. It seems several ladies cannot tell the difference. Originally Posted by Kendall4U

You nailed it.

I cannot speak for anyone but myself. If you are going to charge me for listening to your issues then something is wrong. Talk about anything you want for as long as you want as long as the clock is not running on the time the gentleman has paid you for.

Flip it around. If you went to a mechanic to get your car worked on and were told this repair will cost $100 per hour, would you want that mechanic diagnosing and working on fixing your car or talking about their personal problems. If the mechanic spent 30 minutes working on your car and 90 minutes talking about the wife, kids, friends or family would you want to be billed for 2 hours? Originally Posted by ValenTX

Maybe I misapprehension what the OP is saying. But I didn’t think she was talking about complaining directly about her problems. I read it as habing somewhat natural (albeit perhaps heightened) anxiety — perhaps about security, safety concerns, and wanting to please a new customer — that made her a bit too chatty. Not necessarily chatty about those particular issues, but too talkative nonetheless.

The question then would be, if I read her post correctly, is whether the customer would see this as a conversational tic caused by nervousness, or just think she was intentionally blathering on about seemingly nothing.

But perhaps I’m the one who is mistaken.

I haven’t seen a great number of a ladies and I tend to lean towards ladies with a pretty lengthy history. That said, I personally like to spend a little time getting comfortable. We are about to be naked and vulnerable, it is nice to feel pretty open. I am also not a 30 min guy that is just trying to “bang and go.” Part of this is a fantasy of a hot girl, I chose, wanting me and doing things I like. I am also not a guy who wants to just rabbit punch the honey pot. A woman enjoying it is part of my joy.

That said, all the pros I have seen and re-seen don’t count the “get to know you” time against the clock. They also know when to kick it up and get to work. If they are really good, they wear my ass out in the prescribed time and it is plenty of time.

Anyway, we all have our own way. I don’t want drama, but I like to know a little about what I am getting into. That is why the few times a year I do hobby I stick with providers that I know do what I like.

I'm curious to how a person who was talking about anxiety before meeting a client turned into a conversation about drama? I know I don't always have great sessions and sometimes think about the situation beforehand. But then I'm more passionate. But everyone has different expectations and desires when meeting

Amazing. My words are about to be a bit hard, but some of you ladies seem to need a shower of reality. With all respect, but some of you girls don’t seem to be prepared to do this JOB. This is the fact, if I have to pay to listen to someone else’s problem or drama, I would have become a psychologist. Come’on!!! Do you really think we pay to listen? The factual truth is we pay to fuck. Simply because either we are married and we want a “service”, because we have no time to go pick up someone, because we are sex addicts... because whatever is the reason. At the end everything resumes to this; fuck me until there is nothing left in me. For you women, this is not an easy job. It requires a lot for a physiological point of view, and understand that in most of cases you will be just a piece of meat that is about to be sexually fucked with no other intention to fulfill our own carnal pleasure. If you are not ready for this, then this is not your job. Why do you want to suffer this way? How horrible! Just go to Walmart and get a job!

Good point, chas00.

Yes, there is a difference between anxiety and drama. Let's take drama out as that is not what the OP is talking about. I understand that even though a provider has thoroughy screened a potential client, even seeing a client that she has only seen a time or two before for a session, the anxiety level is going to probably be high. Since she has not or barely has seen him in person, it takes a real pro to not only get rid of those jitters, but also to show him the passion he craves BCD.

That is why I suggested a light conversational phone call or two, not a text message exchange, and even a M&G to break that ice. Sure, anyone can say anything on the phone and a M&G may not last long enough to get to know someone enough to create an anxiety free comfort level to perform intimate services with them in the near future, but it is far better than sending a PM/email or exchanging texts.

Plus, as long as the guy has great hygiene and most importantly, respectful of your time and person, a provider is getting paid so that he does not have to have a lady that he has to worry about if he is or isn't nor is seduction skills necessary to ultimately get what he is after. But remember, it is the journey from minute one all the way to that end that is the most important on whether he contacts you back or not for a repeat session. So, try to leave that anxiety with everything else outside the door. After all, the physical time you spend with a client is not much and to take up precious minutes with butterflies is not going to count in a provider's favor, plus, you never get a second chance to make a first impression.

OP has not replied to this post since the beginning .

I am ok with small talk, for a few minutes. A human connection leads to better play, I think.The problem I have is when it strays into difficulty in rw life. I feel like it is an open invite to help more than the sizable donation I am about to part with, and makes me really uncomfortable. No easy transition from I am about to get evicted, my phone shut off, etc, to let's get sexy. I really enjoy a session with a real woman, just not pay the bills, tell me about your problems real. It's supposed to be fun, not depressing.