So
she told
you that she made him run around?
She told
you she played him like a fool?
Or did your *client* of 7 years tell you that?
Because what he told you. She publicly stated she was unaware of. And HE has yet to refute her statement, (here) in this thread. (hmmm) Because he sure has as of his recent post.
http://www.eccie.net/showpost.php?p=...4&postcount=41
It's OK for a guy to show up to a date, walk in, chit chat and come up with an excuse to WHY he doesn't want to proceed forward with said date, and he leaves. BUT it's NOT okay for a provider to decline when the guy shows up and feels the least bit uncomfortable? So a lady should of show a hobbyist dignity and felt *that* particular uncomfortableness & canceled before he arrives. When *that* particular uncomfortableness may actually take place
until she meets him face to face???
Perhaps, all was fine up UNTIL he arrived. AND perhaps something didn't feel right to HER, upon his arrival. AND perhaps she was nervous and didn't know how else to let him down, w/o hurting his ego or feelings. So she did what she felt was best. Rather than not answering her door & leave him standing outside.
She answered and went through the pleasantries as any respectable person in this hobby would do. And from there she stated her tummy hurt. (perhaps that's all she could muster up as an excuse) And declined to move forward. Reasonable enough. No harm no foul.
Only his time was lost and his ego hurt.
Sometimes, two people just DO NOT click once they meet in person. It's part of the hobby life!!
If men can bow out (in person) with an excuse. Then the ladies should be able o do the same.
You, young lady were not there to see it happen either. Yet your quick to judge the provider because your client called you and made statements regarding her etc. And your right, there are 2 sides to every story. I don't *see* him refuting her in this thread. (hmm).
Rather, I do *see*
your remarks about her playing him like a fool and how she made him run round and made him wait 3 hours by her incall ALL due to what he told you. (hmm)
And to tell her to be honest with herself & with her clients. Is wrong. Who are you to state she's not honest with herself? Who are you to tell her to leave her clients with dignity?
She did the honorable thing. She didn't take his money. She didn't leave him standing outside her door like an asshat. She followed through with the date UP until the moment THEY MET IN PERSON! And from that point, THAT is when she felt uncomfortable.
Regardless as to WHY. It's NOT our place to understand nor stand in judgement of her reason WHY.
She was honest with him enough to state she couldn't continue the date. As I stated earlier. She
may of been nervous. Hell men are nervous in the presence of women all the time. The same can be said of some women.
So she did what she thought was best. She was honest enough to give him
a reason. And at that time (she stated so) her tummy hurt. She didn't know him enough to give the exact reason. Because she didn't know how he might react (seeing as he was standing in her presence) And YES, when an uncomfortable situation comes about. A persons stomach can quickly become unnerved/upset.
For you to tell her she needs to leave her clients with dignity and that there's no getting around the dirty truth. Is at best repulsive.
While respecting another is a kind thing to do. There are plenty of men in this adult lifestyle who
don't leave women with dignity.
nice to know you stand in judgement of her, solely based on what your client told you. (his side). Hope you never do wrong by another and that you always leave everyone with dignity & the honest truth. Because it may not feel too good if someone were to judge you based on your horrible experiences you've encountered with hobbyists.
Physic, LNikki?
Hell no. Never claimed such. I expressed
my opinion based on what was publicly put forth. Don't see why you feel the need to make said a snide remark in my direction.
And my view of creepy is just that.
This persons view.
Just remember, that a hobbyist can *act* a certain way with one or two ladies. BUT *act* totally different with someone else!!
Happens all the time.
.
If she haven't him the run around and played him like a fool. Why tell him to come in the door and then say her tummy hurt. Why not just tell him over the phone than wasted his time. Lied, okay yeah whatever u were not there to see what all happened.................. There is always two sides of the story". The end!
Originally Posted by Sonya
Molly, you already know that the choice is always yours as to whom you meet...this isn't a new topic. I'm guessing you posted this thread to justify your actions...which leaves me a bit puzzled. Why do you feel you need to ask for opinions? I don't think you need any justification...clearly, it's your perogative.
I hope you learn from this experience...to be more honest with yourself and your clients. It's not always easy having to be upfront and honest. You'll find yourself between a rock and a hard place many times...but at least you'll feel good about your decisions...and leave your clients with some dignity.
Your option *C* you say, "keeping it clean," unfortunately, there's no getting around the *dirty* truth...without owning up.
Wicked...so, you're a psychic now too? Ok let me get this straight...so, Sonya's *client* who she's known...for over 7yrs, is a liar....but, *Molly* (no disrespect Molly) who you've known for what (?) a few months or maybe a year...is 100% beyond reproach? H-MMMMMMMMMMMMM!!!!!
Just remember...one person's idea of *creepy* could be someone else's idea of a patient and considerate client who does what he's asked.
Originally Posted by Likinikki
