My Dear CNM,(glenn, i made a slight revision to your first sentence.)
You don't ever need to tell your clients anything about your personal life. You can just say, "I have some real life things to do".
Keep the fantasy image a fantasy. It is both good for you, your family, and the client. ... Originally Posted by Glenn Quagmire
I must agree with GQ. It's no one's business if you have a child.100% agree with Glenn and Mynx!!
And yes, many guys are turned off by it.
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Who knows what guys think...so I do suggest not giving them any more info than needed... Originally Posted by LilMynx69
curvesNmore, something i learned a long time ago - when asked a question, just give your answer, period! if you provide more info, the asker can use it to work on you to get you to change your mind and answer. or use it to hold it over you in a threatening kind of way.
so, just respond "i only schedule appts firstAvailDay to lastAvailDay from x o'clock to y o'clock. sorry, i dont schedule on weekends." period!!
you dont have to say why, where you'll be, who you'll be with, etc. "not available".
and if the guy wont take that for answer, that's his problem, not yours.
cos, personally, and esp. on a first encounter, i rather the woman NOT tell me all about her life, problems, debts, crazy relatives, etc. UNLESS i ask her about them [which i rarely do and esp not before we get to the deliteful activities during a first encounter].
after another visit or two, then we can discuss real life and share info [one provider i know has property in thailand, a place i've visited and plan to visit again - we shared experiences about that place. another likes to scuba dive, so do i. so we talk about places to do so. another likes to take her kids to the new children's garden at the arboretum.]
...I found a happy blend of real world me and escort world Alyssa and it works purrrrrrrfectly.alyssa, fantastic - knowing how to mix the two [even real world jobs and real world life] is pretty difficult but oh so worth it!!Originally Posted by Alyssa Marie
...Plus we like to have an illusionary experience with providers. Once real life is brought into the session, it dampens the experience a bit. That's just my perspective. Originally Posted by dongeykongthat's why i'd rather not know much on a first visit about a provider's life - let's focus on the intimate delites!!!! then we can share tidbits about our lives - but let me ask first.
...And from my experience, all my repeat clients that I've known for years like me the way I am. They like me because I have a real life outside of hobbying. They like me as a real person and those are the kind of clients I want. Originally Posted by samantha thomagreed! knowing that the woman i'm spending time with has a real life filled with joys, laughter, sadness, loss, etc. tells me she is putting as much passion into her encounters as she does into her life. and [mistakenly assumed or not] that she is more about the encounters than about the money i give her.
bottom line - help keep the walls of illusion and fantasy up!