Providers and their S.O.'s

.....I dated a client and honestly, ...... I really enjoyed the fact that I didn't have to lie and hide my occupation from him. He became a great supporter and friend as well. Originally Posted by Alyssa XOXO

In my opinion, this is huge and could easily become a much stronger relationship than two casual daters could develop.

I don't like hearing about it. Kind of ruins the illusion for me.

i think it would be cool to have a provider SO

i think it would be cool to have a provider SO Originally Posted by willdooit

No...it wouldn't!

What Alyssa said !!

I saw a provider for many years who had a boyfriend. When the gentleman finished his schooling the lady left the hobby, And moved away.

Im very into the BDSM lifestyle so it mildly annoys me when someone offers services they dont understand. Not your fault Amy, I blame 50 shades of grey. And once upon a time i didnt know about kink either. So forgive me if I sound snobby. BDSM stands for bondage & discipline/ Domination and submission/ Sadism & masochism. So you dont need to say BDSM and submission. If you really want to learn about that id be happy to help you learn more about it. Its more than being forceful or buying BDSM toys. Originally Posted by Sonya

I'm a switch, maybe not a pro like yourself but I'm getting better and better. Please pm, any advice is appreciated

I'm a switch, maybe not a pro like yourself but I'm getting better and better. Please pm, any advice is appreciated Originally Posted by bustyamy

Thanks Amy for not taking that the wrong way. After I typed it I worried it came off bitchy and thats not how i meant it. Youre a peach.

There is nothing wrong with both husband and wife having jobs, if he accepts this as a 9-5 and it doesn't interfere in home life why not? Don't ask don't tell is the best way to keep a relationship and have normalcy outside this profession!!!

When he bitch slaps her, and takes her money, that's a pimp! Originally Posted by bustyamy

That only makes him / her a pimp that bitch slaps.

pimp
pimp/
noun
noun: pimp; plural noun: pimps
1.
a man who controls prostitutes and arranges clients for them, taking part of their earnings in return.

I have also met several pimps that control the lady. I will never see a lady that has a controlling pimp if I know. Originally Posted by tucson

If I come to know of a controlling / dangerous pimp situation it's likely I will steer clear of that provider due to my own personal morals concerning this business. Same reason I will never visit a "Spa" again. I distinctly remember my 2nd encounter with a Chinese lady at a "Spa" and it was a sad one. She was knock dead gorgeous maybe early to mid 20's. We finished the session and stood embracing each other tightly in the middle of the room. I palmed the back of her head, gently played with her hair, hugged her and told her how beautiful she was and then out of nowhere she just started quietly bawling I mean just crying and crying and it made me feel bad for her. I calmed her down but I got the inner sense that she just really didn't want to be there. I could hear the owner of the establishment yelling at someone else in the backdrop. I know it won't change anything but after that encounter I made it a personal decision to not support those type of places no matter where I am.

... is it a no no for us ladies to admit relationships? Does it turn you off? ... Does it ruin the fantasy of the gfe? Originally Posted by Sonya

Surely you must know that some will definitely be turned off, some will be definitely be more turned on, and some will be ambivalent, or just not give a shit.

The smart provider will know who is which. And react accordingly.

Surely you must know that some will definitely be turned off, some will be definitely be more turned on, and some will be ambivalent, or just not give a shit.

The smart provider will know who is which. And react accordingly. Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks

Yes i do know this. Was a topic for discussion, to see the opinions of others.

Whether or not a provider has one is none of my business and I don't want to hear about him either.

and out there is some poor fool who's utterly faithful, & only getting it twice a month at best. While he's oblivious to the fact she's slinging the goodies to half the partners in his firm.

I would prefer to not know about a provider's personal or real-world life outside of the Hobby.