Interesting responses. And I respect everyone's opinions.
It might help to know my wife and I feel comfortable talking about EVERYTHING. Sexual or otherwise...we just lay it out on the table. Good or bad, its what I've brought into our relationship and we both agree it has made us stronger.
So, after a recent 100% legit, fully draped massage, I said I thought the masseuse was getting pretty close to the "danger zone" (she was!) and I has a pretty obvious physical response. I said if a happy ending was offered, then I would have gone with it...then I asked how she felt about that. She giggled and said it was not a problem for her.
Keeping things going, I asked what she would do if she was at Massage Envy or something and a male masseur offered something similar (NOT in a rapey way). She just laughed a laugh that told me, well ...you know.
So anyway, this whole thing is only about "extras" involving the hands. I know its a weird distinction, but to us anything more feels wrong to us. And I don't have any interests beyond that. (I'm a germophobe, but that's another story).