Take the plunge?

I ve been lurking the forums for nearly a year...still a newbie!
Wanting to pop my newbie cherry,but find it difficult to actually do it. I am happily married ...you could say..but I am in need of some variety. How did you folks cope with " the first time guilt" ? Any advice?
Tomorrow is my b-day and was hoping to finally celebrate myself...but dont know if i should..... Originally Posted by rice6869

See if your wife is going to remember that it's your b'day tomorrow. If she doesn't, then you know what you should do.

If she does, celebrate it with her. That's a special woman.

... I am happily married ...you could say ... but I am in need of some variety.

WTF does "you could say" mean? By all outward appearances? In other words, you're not happily married.

How did you folks cope with "the first time guilt"?

Skip the ho's and fix your marriage and there won't be any guilt. Or, dump the old lady and bang the ho's with a clear conscience. Simple enough.

Any advice?

Grow the fuck up. Originally Posted by rice6869

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See if your wife is going to remember that it's your b'day tomorrow. If she doesn't, then you know what you should do.

If she does, celebrate it with her. That's a special woman. Originally Posted by Sarunga

You set the bar real fucking high.

Think long and hard OP. Great advice given. Take what helps from each post. This shyte can be off the chain! But be sure you're ready to pay the price. And not just financially. Not all can handle this life... Good luck!

You set the bar real fucking high. Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks

Not really. What's the point of a marriage if your wife doesn't remember the day you were born to this world?

Not really. What's the point of a marriage if your wife doesn't remember the day you were born to this world? Originally Posted by Sarunga

His point was she is going to remember....doesn't take much of a wife to remember a b day.

op: maybe I'll comment to your thread tomorrow. Easier from my pc.

Lol Johnny Yanks going HAM.

HAM = hard as a motherf**ker

...doesn't take much of a wife to remember a b day. Originally Posted by GlobeSpotter

Tell that to my ex.

Since you've come here to lust, take it out on your wife for your birthday and delete your account.

You ain't ready for the hobby.

See if she'll let you put it in her butt.

. Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks

You are prettty harsh Johnny........lol!

I have a good stable family life...attractive spouse,good sexual relationship...open menu..pretty much. I just find myself yearning for a new flavor.....human nature I guess.
I was just seeking advice on handling the inevevitable emotions afterwards....not getting my balls broken.....thx Johnny!

You are prettty harsh Johnny........lol!

I have a good stable family life...attractive spouse,good sexual relationship...open menu..pretty much. I just find myself yearning for a new flavor.....human nature I guess.
I was just seeking advice on handling the inevevitable emotions afterwards....not getting my balls broken.....thx Johnny! Originally Posted by rice6869

After lurking here awhile you must have known you'd have people busting your balls lol it's par for the course!

I do agree with the others though who said take your time, contemplate it, decide what is right for you. There is no rush. The fact that you're asking yourself these kinds of questions in advance and looking for input from others is a good thing in my opinion.

If you are unable to compartmentalize and it affects how you behave toward your wife in any negative way it's probably not for you. It can be either a liberating and freeing experience or eat you up inside depending on your personality and outlook. I'm of the opinion that hobbying has saved as many or more marriages as it has ruined.

Also, perhaps buy a month's premium subscription and peruse the Men's Lounge and read the RestOftheStory in the reviews. Without premium it's like you are only seeing the tip of the iceberg.

I subscribe to the George Costanza motto: It's not a lie if you believe it.

Leaving the appointment, I tell myself over and over that it didn't happen.

I've also managed to convince myself that to only give my wife access to my penis would be doing a huge disservice to the millions of other women out there.

And that just doesn't seem fair to women

Register with P411.

Do some sesearch here on ECCIE and then:

Go to an AMP where walk-ins are welcome a time or two. (Studio 5901 on Schumacher comes to mind)
Write a review or two.

Get screened by an agency or two and repeat the above.

Go back to ECCIE and research Indys for "Newbie Friendly" providers.

Schedule a few sessions and establish some references.

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Another thought: Variety? What about introducing your wife to The Mystery Zone and the swapping scene?

Whatever you decide to do...Write narrative reports and reviews of all this for the rest of us lurkers.

Good luck my dear.