I feel your pain, OP. Those that are giving you a hard time, many of them are so full of shit (no offense to those of you that are full of shit. I still like you
).
It's a real dilemma. I'm kinda in it myself. I've been on this board for 5 years (without looking up numbers), and was on ASPD for a few year before that...and I don't have any references.
I can't just see anyone that I want. The ladies that I used to see have just kinda faded from the game for one reason or another, and that left me on the bad side of a chasm, metaphorically speaking.
It's funny how in some instances being on Eccie's not enough. Being on P411's not enough (I should renew with them, btw). I guess we're supposed to include a birth certificate in the process for some. Many of them (providers) require so much, yet I don't know the real names of any ladies on this board. I'm not saying I want to know it (I don't), but isn't that kinda of why we wear 'masks' (hobby/provider handles) in the first place? We're supposed to trust you with our information, yet never have any of yours? Men AND women kill people, or do other harmful stuff, so why is safety supposed to be tilted 100% towards the females? Some of them have boyfriends lurking in the closet. NOW who's safety is compromised?
And many of the ones talking the most shit have COMPLETE ALTERNATE PERSONAS made up. These fuckers are TEE HEE HEE-ing behind the computer while saying what they're saying.
It's also funny to decide to see or not see someone based on a passing acknowledgement from another person that she doesn't know.
REFERENCE A: Oh, he's OK.
REFERENCE B: He's cool.
So, this is supposed to trump a membership or being known on other boards? Really?
I applaud the ladies for what they do. This isn't easy. But some of them take screening too far.
I don't know what to tell you, OP. You just gotta find a way to get your foot in the door. Try not not to let the negative opinions turn you into a villain. It's REALLY hard to come back from that.