Speaking as a 20-something married hobbyist:
- something different: personality, looks, passion.
- sex on demand: if the wife is unavailable or not in the mood I can easily find someone that is. (Do not have the time to play games or court a woman on the side)
In the times the wife and I hit a dry spell I can see a provider so I do not go insane.
Originally Posted by Jake B
When I was your age, I had the exact same attitude. After we started having kids, she was just too damn exhausted to get in the mood as often as I wanted to (every other day was my minimum).
The hobby likely saved my marriage back then. I would get so frustrated trying to be "good". Once I decided to go this route, I realized she benefited, too. I never had an affair, in the traditional sense, and I was smart enough to always put family obligations ahead of the hobby.
Now I do it just to remind myself I still like sex :/