Simple answer:
Hard and in control is my preferred choice if it was one choice only.
Description:
Hard of course is not abusive sex to any degree....but a consenual enthusiastic rump of pleasurable pounding that both partners are comfortable with.
Unfortunately it might behove ladies here to answer as a chameleon and give you a catered answer to both likes...smart Im sure. I would rather see the lady who is known for fucking guys well and hard.
Id be willing to bet during sex MOST men will prefer sex with gusto whIle they are cumming initially.
Soft vaginal stimularion is cool to get me horny and erect Im sure....perfect for love making or working up a sexual lather,but I cant GET RIGHT without a steady non wavering rigid stroke. A soft and plush sex romp although still pleasurable in certain positions, would be hella annoying. That would be like having a butter knife that spreads butter, but cant cut the toast.
A good session has variety always, but just make a choice people! lol