Providers what do you think - Fetish or Not?

I think Tony has some stalking issues with me.
And you are soooo getting off the topic of this thread! Originally Posted by Cyndi Lyn

I think Tony has a crush on you and wants to dominate you, and that's totally on topic.

And GS knows exactly what to do with his tongue and winky.

@Dorthy & Tony....I posted certain tumblr photos in response of being flirtatious with FrenchToast. Which an adult would think that is what the board is all about and NOT constantly bashing others to make yourselves look better. ijs

NOW BACK TO THE OP'S TOPIC OF FETISHES Originally Posted by Cyndi Lyn

You had fun bashing me on that thread and you helped him so now your whinning because FT isnt here to save you.. we aren't bashing just throwing ideas around

I think Tony has a crush on you and wants to dominate you, and that's totally on topic. Originally Posted by H.Hardhat

Sorry, not here to be Dominated by anyone. But here are a few things that I have done and enjoyed very much doing.

~CBT
~Ball / Cock kicking
~Electroplay
~Branding
~Fire / Ice / Wax play
~Urethra Sounds

Sooo... you're a Masochist then?
And.
I was just saying, "from the outside", it didn't look like stalker issues, looked more flirtatious.

I don't want to dominate anybody, or even flirt...what in the hell are urethra sounds?? blessed Tebow, I need to sleep sometime tonight....and I don't need any nightmares.....

I don't want to dominate anybody, or even flirt...what in the hell are urethra sounds?? blessed Tebow, I need to sleep sometime tonight....and I don't need any nightmares..... Originally Posted by Tony Gambino

Pic of Urethra Sounds. All different sizes


This is what you would do with them.
Oh...and this is the only type of "CAKE" that interest me!

Before I start - just in case a provider sees this and says I can do that I thought I would post my very narrow type (always been female, 18-28, B cups can go low as AA but not over C, spinner type to athletic build, 5' 5" or under preferred but definitely under 5' 10") really not an ISO I am trying to see if this would fall into the Fetish Heading.

I have always felt I had a dominate personality sexually. In RW and in hobbying, I don't feel like I have expressed that much as I am always polite and very concerned about my partners comfort and pleasure - kind of a you get yours then I will get mine attitude. Now I am not talking whips and chains and shackles ... where I am thinking I would like to start is finding a provider that kind of likes being controlled. It seems like most providers fall in the dominatrix category with very few true submissive providers. For me it needs to be a real submissive and not someone acting submissive because if I felt or picked up on the fact that they really weren't liking it or were just acting - I would not be able to play the dominant role as I believe it would shatter the illusion for me.

So, what I am really thinking about as a starting point is just verbal type commanding, nothing really physical. Like "stand here, don't move" "take off your blouse" "hands at your sides" "kiss me" "kiss me like you mean it" "on your knees" " put just the tip in your mouth" " let me inspect you" " bend over the table" etc etc etc. basically just me calling the shots from time in to time out and you doing what I say ... beside that just BBBJCIM, regular sex various positions, I am not even into anal so no anal even. maybe masturbation for me would be the weirdest thing I might want to do/try. no spanking, no pain, maybe tools but probably not even that at first unless it was their idea to use them ( but even then I am getting back to pleasing and not dominating) So is that, considered a Fetish and I need to look for someone advertising that or is that pretty mainstream. I would even feel uncomfortable with a collar and lead type dynamic. I do not want to take one of my GFE's and change that relationship, because I like those as they are and don't want to mess up the dynamic. I really want to find a person that if I find I really like this type of thing would enjoy it as well. Is this something that I need to seek out a fetish friendly person for? It just seems to vanilla to be fetish to me, but you ladies often see things differently than we guys do. And I am a little uncertain if many providers would even play a submissive role as most tend toward the dominant side it seems, so that in and of itself might push it into the fetish arena? or is what I am wanting pretty main stream and I just need to seek a submissive type provider that has an interest in this type of play? I have tried groups outside the hobby, but what I describe is waaaay to vanilla and light for anyone to play at which again makes me think this is mainstream and not fetish and the harder stuff that they like is very off putting to me.

?????????????? Originally Posted by 5T3V3

Can I assume my original topic is dead? Or did we just take a 2 page aside?

Well, I tried to stay on topic as I kept it in the bdsm line of things. But you know how this board goes. If you blink, its something new.

Well, I tried to stay on topic as I kept it in the bdsm line of things. But you know how this board goes. If you blink, its something new. Originally Posted by Luvs2Purrr

I must say darling ... my penis hurts just lookin' at them pictures! But, yes I understand ... a lot of ADHD on these boards ... me included

I must say darling ... my penis hurts just lookin' at them pictures! But, yes I understand ... a lot of ADHD on these boards ... me included Originally Posted by 5T3V3

Don't knock it till you have tried it

ST3V3, I strongly suggest you use the search function in certain areas of the Houston section sub-forums (Search this Forum drop down box.)

I'm new to the hobby, joined in Nov, searched like I mentioned above for months like I was buying a brand new car. Found what I was looking for, made contact, got my hobby cherry busted.

Here are "Provider's Ads", "The Weekend Lineup", and "Independent Provider Reviews" with search word "submissive."
http://eccie.net/search.php?searchid=2865258
http://eccie.net/search.php?searchid=2865290
http://eccie.net/search.php?searchid=2865311

Many state they are submissive, and many are close to your criteria. Personally, I'd find a provider that specializes in Dominance, yet has no problem switching to the Submission role. One provider has been on my "to do list" and is in all 3 links above.

I'd look through the links above to find what provider piques your interest, read her reviews, then PM this thread link to her and ask her if she is comfortable with your ideal arrangement.

Hope this fucktard helped you out somehow =]

the hyperlinks don't seem to go anywhere ... I understand ... but I have found the term submissive as applied to the hobby is sometimes misused or perhaps I should say defined differently as a woman that lets you take control of the session. As opposed to you coming in and she is immediately moving to the BJ and taking charge of the session, she intends you to come in and she asks "do you want to start with a BJ?" Obviously what I am thinking of is a little closer to a super light Slave master type situation - Subtle difference I know.

Fixed the links. If they claim to be submissive, it is understood you are the dominant one in the session. Like I said, find someone, then send the thread link to ask them if your terms are reasonable. Sending a pm.