Tis the season I guess

Ladies, I think some of this personal info would be best discussed in the women's forum.

... or possibly a private message?

Carlie

If you two ladies see your business go down a little, thank yourselves for posting private information about clients. Part of your job as providers is to keep secrets, not out them. No one may know who you're referring to now, but guys are going to see this and think twice about seeing you because you don't know the word discretion.

...And that is exactly what I thought about!

If you two ladies see your business go down a little, thank yourselves for posting private information about clients. Part of your job as providers is to keep secrets, not out them. No one may know who you're referring to now, but guys are going to see this and think twice about seeing you because you don't know the word discretion. Originally Posted by MsElena

+1

Sorry to hear about this. All the providers I have visited required payment for time to be placed somewhere, coffee table or bathroom upfront as part of the etiquette. I'm recent from Seattle and fairly new to the hobby, so maybe that is how it works there.

i didnt see this as outing any one. a guy in leessummit that worked for modot a couple of years ago. aguy whos name started with a ? dont really out any one. face it all of them,they ripped the girls off of their money------they stole from them. if you stole from me i would put your whole name out to the people especially others in the need to know group.

i didnt see this as outing any one. a guy in leessummit that worked for modot a couple of years ago. aguy whos name started with a ? dont really out any one. face it all of them,they ripped the girls off of their money------they stole from them. if you stole from me i would put your whole name out to the people especially others in the need to know group. Originally Posted by jaybee

Then your expectations of discretion are less than some of us. That's fine - for you.

Yes. But the unedited posts had more info. I got news for ya, if someone named my workplace here id go nuts.

i didnt see this as outing any one. a guy in leessummit that worked for modot a couple of years ago. aguy whos name started with a ? dont really out any one. face it all of them,they ripped the girls off of their money------they stole from them. if you stole from me i would put your whole name out to the people especially others in the need to know group. Originally Posted by jaybee

Jaybee,

At some point the ladies need to take responsibility too. I NEVER EVER start a session without getting my fee and counting it. Of course there's going to be bad guys out there who are going to try to rip the ladies off, but in order to stop it the ladies need to take control of the situation. I personally don't see it as stealing if the lady doesn't get her fee upfront.

I feel bad for the ladies when it happens to them, don't get me wrong. But, hopefully they will learn from the experience and be better off.

Now as for your thinking its OK to post that info. Tsk tsk. I suppose you think its OK for people who are busted to name names too? There's a time and a place for ladies to post info on clients who have ripped them off, hurt them, stalked them, etc. and its NOT for the general public to see. Its called the powder room, provider infoshare and the numerous DNS websites out there.

I don't always agree with Elena, but she's correct. Please do not divulge any personal information about any hobyist or provider. The next time this happens, points will be issued.

I agree that this is a good way to handle it and to make the woman more comfortable if you haven't met before. But it should be pointed out to the men that this does create the opportunity for the woman to sneak out of the room while you are "washing your hands".

Of course, any woman who would do that would get bad reviews and a reputation, so it is important to know who you are seeing. If you are unsure of your date's reliability, it's probably best to just handle the money when both of you are in the room. Originally Posted by KCQuestor

I better solution than THAT would be to just leave it in "gift" in the bathroom...that way, she walks in, uses the bathroom (at the same time counting money that u left in there). That way everything's taken care of and no mention of money ever occurs...and at the same time not allowing her to sneek out or anything like that. Seems to work for me.

i didnt see this as outing any one. a guy in leessummit that worked for modot a couple of years ago. aguy whos name started with a ? dont really out any one. face it all of them,they ripped the girls off of their money------they stole from them. if you stole from me i would put your whole name out to the people especially others in the need to know group. Originally Posted by jaybee

The way it read "I had his info pulled..", worked here...name starts with a ...

It all sounds like files are kept on the clients by the particular provider and if you get crossways with that provider for whatever perceived slight, watch out.

Keep in mind we've only heard one side of the story. On this forum alone haven't we seen one story from a provider, and then get a completely different story from the client that shed a completely different light on the story. Not saying that she wasn't ripped off, but I'd be careful about advocating outing anyone.

Then your expectations of discretion are less than some of us. That's fine - for you. Originally Posted by Omahan

Absolutely correct. Privacy is like pregnancy. You are or you aren't.

No names. No numbers. No workplaces. No hints. The purpose of a "hint" is to reveal the whole of information to someone who might be smart enough to pick up on the hint. Bad guys are usually smart enough.

Good words, Omahan.

I think this info is best left for the ladies room. Somethings you just don't share with the boys. & happy holiday to all.