I wanna be a swinger!

there are a ton of choices for a one time situation.....Scarlett Room in Denver, Trapeze in Ft. Lauderdale and Atlanta, Originally Posted by Ari816

I do a lot of work in Ft Lauderdale and have always wanted to go to Trapeze - in fact I'll be in Florida later this week with a female friend. The one reason I've never visited Trapeze is because of their strict dress code. I typically go to Florida in shorts and sandals which isn't allowed, but I'm not sure I even understand their dress code. Can you shed some light on that so I can pack accordingly? Seems silly to go there all dressed up only to go to the back room where clothing isn't allowed!

I do a lot of work in Ft Lauderdale and have always wanted to go to Trapeze - in fact I'll be in Florida later this week with a female friend. The one reason I've never visited Trapeze is because of their strict dress code. I typically go to Florida in shorts and sandals which isn't allowed, but I'm not sure I even understand their dress code. Can you shed some light on that so I can pack accordingly? Seems silly to go there all dressed up only to go to the back room where clothing isn't allowed! Originally Posted by love2fishfork

I think it's one of those things where they try to uphold some standard with a dress code. I believe it's business casual and no tennis shoes. For girls, well it's easy...short skirts, no panties.

It is a higher end place that caters to those who want to try the club on different levels.
You buy the "membership" to the private club (even if you are going once). It's BYOB and that totally offsets the price for me because I would drink more than the entry fee. In Atlanta Trapeze, you walk into a very nice dining/sitting area and there are bartenders who make your drinks with whatever you brought (bring bills for tipping). They had a gourmet spread and a chef on hand. Appetizers like shrimp, not popcorn, and around 1am he started making breakfast items like made to order omelets. Clothing is mandatory in this area and activities are limited though it is a sexually amped up scene. There is a dance floor and stripper pole and porn on big screens.

It is mandatory to not wear clothing in the back section. You are given a locker to strip down and a towel. Then there is the pool and hot tubs with Cabanas, an entirely open fuck room, rooms with mirrored but see through windows etc. Anything goes here, as long as you politely ask before joining. Atlanta's club may have closed, but I'm sure it is similar.

Hope that helps. Kisses!

I was at the Spott last year as part of a couple hoping to meet single Fem. Met at door by couple who welcomed us and asked if we'd been there before. Said no so they took us on a tour. I remember being shown two rooms at least (I'm pretty sure there were more) with couches, etc. Was told one room the door stayed open all the time. Other room you could close the door, so on location play certainly was a possibility. They also had a bar with beer on tap and I think you can BYOB. It was a large dance floor, with tables around. We got there around 9ish and there were maybe 30 or 40 people. Mostly couples. As usual in these sort of venues, most were familiar with others there, but there were a few couples sitting alone at tables. Seems most "meetings" occurred on dance floor. The women sort of found somebody (male or female) they liked and did some booty rubbing against them, etc. There is a no touching without invitation rule which make sense. No one wants somebody groping them no matter the venue. There is some other info about the place if you want to PM me. I'd consider escorting there if interested. With right chemistry, it is a blast. PM me with questions, etc.

Agreed, the women most always do the choosing.

I remember dancing in a raised cage once with another girl (there's that exhibitionist) and we were simulating lots activities...anyway, I mouth kissed her and she freaked out on me. Just remember, when you leave the land of vanilla, you are in a somewhat upside down universe. Just like anything, make sure you know the rules, research and observe the etiquette before you jump in head first. I met some really quality people and girls that are my friends to this day, all of us - the male partner from our initial encounter.

Word of warning, if you are on the PTA, don't be traumatized when you see teacher's you know there.
Teachers and nurses, I believe, make up a large majority of the scene. I have been both..haha

I"ve been to the Spott dozens of times. Not sure where someone said they had a pool, as I've never seen it. And the statement of there not being an "orgy" room, well, that's true, and it's not. They have one public room that if someone plays there anyone can watch. But it's NOT an orgy. You're only allowed to participate if specifically invited. EVERYTHING is consent only.

Single males are allowed. But unless you are a GQ model or have a horse cock, don't expect to get anything. Single males are a dime a dozen in the lifestyle. They can get one anytime they want. And swinging is more of a a couple's activity than a bunch of individuals just fucking whomever. Single females (especially bisexual) are in great demand tho.

The Spott isn't what it once was. On big weekends it'll be full. But most weekends it's only got a handful of the same people. And they all know each other and are very cliquish. House parties tend to have more action. But they are also a bit harder to get invited to if you're unknown. And, as a single male, good luck.

I'd just say if you want to try this route, do some research. It's a lot of fun. But there's a completely different dynamic involved and it's definitely NOT about the guy. AT ALL. It's well-known the women run the show. If you have any questions, PM me and I can answer specifics about the local scene.

The Power Exchange in San Fran is a blast.

Why not have an ECCIE-KC orgy?

Been to the Spott several times with my wife and mostly agree with what Sens55 said. The pool is very new and I haven't been recently enough to see it. The special events like Halloween, NYE, etc. are fun and huge but your average weekend is definitely smaller now but you can still meet people and have some fun more than likely. It tends to be VERY couple-heavy, not many (if any) single females and typically only 1 or 2 single males in my experience. My wife isn't really into swinging anymore (more the poly/dating thing now) and I'm not really optimistic about going there on my own even though I've been a few times. On the other hand, that makes it great for couples looking to play as there is less pressure from creepy dudes :P

They have 3 private rooms that have enough room for at least like 8+ people in them, and the open room can have a bunch but it's usually just one couple showing off with everyone watching.

Been to the Spott several times with my wife and mostly agree with what Sens55 said. The pool is very new and I haven't been recently enough to see it. The special events like Halloween, NYE, etc. are fun and huge but your average weekend is definitely smaller now but you can still meet people and have some fun more than likely. It tends to be VERY couple-heavy, not many (if any) single females and typically only 1 or 2 single males in my experience. My wife isn't really into swinging anymore (more the poly/dating thing now) and I'm not really optimistic about going there on my own even though I've been a few times. On the other hand, that makes it great for couples looking to play as there is less pressure from creepy dudes :P

They have 3 private rooms that have enough room for at least like 8+ people in them, and the open room can have a bunch but it's usually just one couple showing off with everyone watching. Originally Posted by asatru86

I've been in the same boat where I was "unpartnered" for a while. It's always awkward, even if they know you already. Most couples don't want a single male (after all, what's in it for the husband?!). And it is great to meet people in person in a low-key environment if you've been talking to them online. Then if you do click, fun is only a few feet away. But I've also gone and there were only 4 other couples in the damn place. Boring as hell. Always had more fun at the house parties. But those range wildly in their atmosphere. Been to some where it's mostly middle-aged experienced couples that were chill. Been to others where it was mostly a gang-bang with a bunch of single dudes and a few fat chicks. These days we mostly go to "social events" that are in public places (like a Chiefs watch party during the games) and then if you click, grab a room after.

Be careful...I was in the swinger world for quite awhile and had a blast...but about 10 years ago,I was "outed" by a client at a swinger party in New Mexico......since then,I was "shunned" by most of my so-called swinger friends!

Same thing happened to me and sorry Dallas. C4P crowd in KC, lots of professionals and this was part of my personal life, not hobby life, so none of their business. For whatever reason, someone outed me as he had seen me in the hobby world prior. I was shunned as well.

I would never out either one of you!

Maybe you should double together for a swing like party???

Yea I don't understand the shunning for being a provider at all. Or a hobbyist if the opposite happens. So what? Everyone there is hiding their sexuality from people in their lives and likely hiding their profession from people in the club. But in the end it shouldn't matter... just have some fun. Or a lot of fun!

lol maybe Outlaw...I would so do Ari!

Everyone knows I'm the 3 or more whore who loves to welcome visiting providers to KC. I'm in, we need a 3rd. Anyone??

Everyone knows I'm the 3 or more whore who loves to welcome visiting providers to KC. I'm in, we need a 3rd. Anyone?? Originally Posted by Ari816

What fun it would be to be part of Ari's Welcome Wagon