Oh my! Someone must teach me to multi-quote.
The honeymoon period lasted 4 years until I had a newborn, was not working and had no transportation. It wasn't everyday, but when it happened, I was physically and mentally broken. I was too ashamed to leave the house until the bruises went away, usually weeks. It took me 4 years of isolation, and being driven to a lake, with all intentions of being murdered. I escaped and I ran barefoot through tall grass in the rain all night to get away. How did I run so injured? Where was I running to? I didn't even know where I was! I was running from death, to find a way to pick up my baby from the sitters, which was my responsibility.
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Originally Posted by Ari816
sounds like 4 years of bad choices
Without a clear understanding of what I have experienced or know you bash me?
well, that's cool, it is an internet forum and I dont exacty share who I am ,what I'm about, I tend to be a pot-stirer and just cause emotions to run amuck, mostly frustrations as I like to say the shit no one else would. because I got nothing to lose here, unlike in real life
DNS list based on how I/guys(no names!) act on an anonymous internet forum?
sure, do it, internet persona is more valid then real world references, right?
Your story reminds of a girl I know, who got married at 19/20 (brain, (frontal lobe) matures around 25, so before that you don't yourself, much less what guy to marry for life)
but she got married and now she through away years of grad school to get a job she complains about,. and when I'm around her and him and their 2 kids(he wants a 3rd) she is not healthy, doesnt take care of herself, he doesnt take care of her and yet he wants a 3rd kid....
he will sit in his chair and watch TV and let her take care of everything....cause he can't be bothered.
it's not bad, mostly because she is stronger, faster and a bitch when she gets mad,..so he could never phyisically hurt her, but he has such a grip on her mind and controls how she feels about herself, it's really sad to see.....
and she doesnt trust him to watch the kids, last time he did the oldest went to the ER because he hurt himself.
bad choices fueled by hormones, non-logical thoughts
same with the fat people who say over and over again, how they will lose fat and get into a healthier(less cancer/diabetes risk) bodies
again, hormones(npy/grehnlin/leptin(maybe) dopamine etc cause them to overeat and not make the best choice for their happiness.
It reminds me of 2 stories
1 about a mouse and a "medicine" and the mouse would forgot, sex/food to get this "medicine" that would affect his brain chemistry and lead to bad choices.
point being, things can cause you to not use your best judgement,,...just like staying with a guy who doesnt make you feel good/phyisically/mentally hurts you for years...? no, cause a mouse can't stop and think and move past the emotions/dopamine that the "medicine" is fucking with, people can...
and the other one you have heard., I'm sure, its from Breaking BAD
ie mike when he was a cop:
Mike Ehrmantraut: I used to be a beat cop, a long time ago. I'd get called on domestic disputes all the time. Hundreds, probably, over the years. But there was this one guy, this one piece of shit that I will never forget. Gordie. He looked like Bo Svenson. You remember him? Walking Tall? You don't remember?
Walter H. White: No.
Mike Ehrmantraut: Anyway, big boy, 270, 280 but his wife or whatever she was, his lady was real small, like a bird. Wrists like little branches. Anyway, my partner and I'd get called out there every weekend and one of us would pull her aside and say: "Come on, tonight's the night we press charges." This wasn't one of those "deep down, he loves me" setups. We got a lot of those, but not this. This girl was scared. She wasn't gonna cross him, no way, no how. Nothing we could do but pass her to the EMT's, put him a car, drive him downtown, throw him in a drunk tank. He sleeps it off, next morning, out he goes. Back home. But one night my partner's out sick, and it's just me. The call comes in and it's the usual crap. Broke her nose in the shower kind of thing. So I cuff him, put him in the car and away we go. Only that night we're driving into town and this sideways asshole is in my back seat humming "Danny Boy." And it just rubbed me wrong. So instead of left, I go right, out into nowhere. And I kneel him down and I put my revolver in his mouth and I told him, "This is it. This is how it ends." And he's crying, going to the bathroom all over himself. Swearing to God he's gonna leave her alone. Screaming, much as you can with a gun in your mouth. And I told him to be quiet. That I needed to think about what I was gonna do here. And, of course, he got quiet goes still and real quiet. Like a dog waiting for dinner scraps. Then we just stood there for a while, me, acting like I'm thinking things over and Prince Charming kneeling in the dirt with shit in his pants. And after a few minutes, I took the gun out of his mouth and I say, "So help me, if you ever touch her again I will such and such and such, and blah, blah, blah."
Walter H. White: It was just a warning?
Mike Ehrmantraut: Of course. Just trying to do the right thing. But two weeks later he killed her. Of course. Caved her head in with the base of a Waring blender. We got there, there was so much blood you could taste the metal. Moral of the story is I chose a half measure when I should have gone all the way. I'll never make that mistake again. No more half measures, Walter.
--so I understand overeating and staying with a guy who abuses you, I understand the biology, since there is no logic, that causes you to do it
I understand you dont know I know this stuff, duh why would you? Do I want to share my undertanding . my life on a hooker board?
no I'd rather do what I do.
but no matter what i think , it's still a choice to stay with an abuser or to stay fat
granted some choices are hard to make, you must look at the pros and cons of each choice and not let the emotional factor interfere
people rarely do that
I dont care abou that,it's just an internet forum after all, but try to take into account things you dont know and things you don't know you dont know
Your tale reminds of me Breaking Bad, ie Mikes story from when he was a beat cop,
said about good/bad/honorable
I like it, it might help you shed some light on judging guys(no names
) based on words said on an internet forum"
Mike Ehrmantraut: I've known good criminals and bad cops, bad priests, honorable thieves-you can be on one side of the law or the other, but if you make a deal with somebody, you keep your word. You can go home today with your money and never do this again, but you took something that wasn't yours and you sold it for a profit. You're now a criminal; good one, bad one-that's up to you."
