Question for the fellas!

Another suggestion is maybe try and kink up your sex life with her? Threesomes, bondage, toys, etc? Originally Posted by Ms. Milani

I could only dream she was into that kind of stuff. For instance, we watch sons of anarchy, and she doesn't like when they show a chicks or dudes ass on screen. Lol just that type of girl.

heh...

Have fun but don't fool yourself Originally Posted by Camille Fox

Swoon .. she's so smart.

Big Mike. Big Mike mike mike … "what day is it?" haha
Thanks you for this post/op … Good info for more than just the Hobby … I'm lacking sneaky skills myself .. and of course when you know how it is done you can know when it is being done.
I'm being Captain Obvious right now, aren't I.
Don't answer that.

Haha and I like that pic "Do not fall in love with her … you give her 10 strokes and you get outta there" Dammm can they at least be 10 good strokes? I'm saying…

Ta xoxo Kisses

I could only dream she was into that kind of stuff. For instance, we watch sons of anarchy, and she doesn't like when they show a chicks or dudes ass on screen. Lol just that type of girl. Originally Posted by Big_Mike88

Sure, maybe you don't mind that she is like that, and yeah going elsewhere to find it can be a fun wild ride.
- I'm not saying that people should or should not hobby, or if it is or isn't cheating.
- I'm still working out if I prefer monogamy or open relationships. (I do want you and everyone in the world to find love, and if you are dating, or committed, or married, or with an Escort, and to make the most of that. I'm always sharing these kinds of things with my few Clients, we talk about their RW dating life or problems during visits or even off the clock.)

Allow me to go way off topic.. I'd send this in a PM but maybe it can be helpful info to any other Guys and Lezbos out there… Info that I think can be useful with either a sorta innocent Escort or your sorta innocent GF of five years...

I used to be scared to even talk about sex.
I knew I wanted it, it was natural for me to want it, but even as a grown adult I was still turning red if I was shopping for panties and made eye contact with anyone….
Why are some women kinda prude - idk - I have a theory: Girls learn to be scared of sex and run away from the D.
{{Certain Cultures, Societies, and Families can teach the Female Members of their community that Ladies are bad, sluts, weird, and wrong if they are into sex, want sex, need sex, crave sex, think about sex, masturbate, enjoy sex too much, think anything is sexy, act aggressive about sex…}}
**Sometimes people don't even know that the way we feel or think about something is not due to our true desires but because from yay high to present day we were repeatedly convinced of an idea by books, bullies, comments, movies, parents, peers, religion, rumors, and watching our elders.**
>>Like when we are convinced that we should buy something after seeing celeb endorsed advertisements supporting the purchase over and over and over.<<
<3 I'm into women (and I am also a woman), so I'm going to talk to you like I'm one of the fellas for a second: I like shy girls, I like getting them to open up, I like setting them free, and bringing out that inner freak.
[a] It is a challenge, and if I'm not getting full blast brick wall STOP-ANNOYING-ME resistance, I'll be stubborn and keep trying.
[b] My experience is… best to go slow, but if you see that chance to rush in while she's displaying proper responses CHARGE AHEAD.
[c] Make her see ..slowly …that it isn't bad, it isn't wrong, and if she can't get past that .. it is bad and you like it …it is wrong which is why you love it …and you don't have to completely get full agreement to try those bad, wrong things, but "how about we just add a little pretending that we might be doing a slightly less bad deed/variation, just for pretend, ok babe, because I want you to know how good it feels and how good it makes me feel."
[d] GET IN HER EAR (maybe even begin dropping the suggestions with no eye contact possible - face away or hold her closer with your face behind her ear).
Tell her you think _____ is sexy.
The first, best, and most challenging and most helpful tool in the long run .. is to work ideas in through masturbation.
Maybe it needs to be mutual masturbation if she absolutely won't masturbate in front of you (I was one of those who "denied masturbating" at all because the word masturbation freaked me out and made me feel shame shame shame).
While she is touching herself or you are sweetly touching her say a thing or two.. to ask her to imagine which will put it in a way that she will think it is sexxxy also.
Make it sound Beautiful.
[e] Time it right.
Don't overload if she isn't ready and spread it out between romps … excitement over a minor success could make you lose your cool.
If she starts giving in to even a leeeetle fantasy, she is going to be on mind blown mode - oh hells yes orgasm - for a whole moment… (those thoughts you resist can make your orgasms mf-ing magical) why not be patient here and reward her with returning back to the love making that you know works well for you both.
And if she did like it, and wants more, you pausing the progress will tease tf out of her, before you know it she'll be the one bringing up trying new things. I hope right

Since being able to open up and liven my sex life, I have felt like the luckiest person .. touched Heaven a time or two … and can't believe how I almost ended up living the rest of my life in the box of Vanilla Sex.
I am forever grateful for the Partners that very gently and patiently allowed me to feel comfortable about allowing that freaky side to emerge.
You already started at no before you tried.
The worst that could happen < the best that could happen.



Best Wishes xoxo K

Tell her that the missing 250 bucks a week is a debt you owe to the mob.....of course we all know its the pussy mob.

On a serious note, don't play with fire if you dont want to burn your bridges....see what i did there.

If you need to get laid for the sake of feeding your freaky demons, then cash back a little at a time when you go grocery shopping . Save up enough, hit it, and repeat.


On another, i know a few gents here, and mostly these gents are business men that have that extra discretionary cash that won't make a difference to their overall financials. This place caters to hundredaires, thousandaires and milionaires...don't play in here with your family money, it can become addicitve and expensive real quick. This isn't as fun as it seems, its much more than that.

88, be sure you understand, Providers are not here to fall in love. Don't count on having lots of opportunities to test the "if it's meant to be" theory with your GF. Just sending some useful advice. Good luck and always cover all your bases; including a stray hair, a different scent, extra underwear in the trunk of your car, etc. You gotta think it through thoroughly in your position.

Gorgeous: thank you for your detailed reply! I will take it into consideration.

Sananto: us normal folks are here to spend causally and every dollar count. Lol

Hump: lol I completely understand they are not here for that. If they were my game would be enough and no $ would be needed. I simply want to casually have some fun with NSA. the stray hair is a good reminder. Thanks for the tips!

Convince them to hobby with you. Include them in the selection process. I know this is not a normal outcome, but it has helped our marriage. just remember one thing. You have to extend the same courteous to your SO. Good luck with whatever path you choose.

I could only dream she was into that kind of stuff. For instance, we watch sons of anarchy, and she doesn't like when they show a chicks or dudes ass on screen. Lol just that type of girl. Originally Posted by Big_Mike88

Then she is not your life partner. Sounds like you already have one foot out the door. The only people who do not see the hobby as cheating are the ECCIE pimps.

Your life could become similar to my cousin who is just waiting for his youngest kid to turn 18 so he can get the divorce.

Always remember the hobby in America is a CONfidence game and the pimp and whore are always looking for the next MARK.

If you have to ask questions like these, perhaps you need to find another hobby.

My SO and I share one account. I found if I pay everything in cash ( excuse: help track cash and not share info to hole in wall restraunts) I can pull 200-300 weekly without raising a brow. Also have credit card to make purchases that i say I used cash for. SO knows of card , but has no access to card as is used to hide presents for her.

As far as time, pick up a hobby. I've spent full days at Lowes, Home Depot, lumber yards on carpentry. Done this a few times, now ask her to come, and now she refuses to go with me. Hell after hard days at work she tells me to unwind with my "hobby". Lately my new hobby is going to the gym near Bandera and 410

The thing with secondary accounts is to make sure the bank doesn't suddenly sends mail to your home. Very, very bad day for married couples. Originally Posted by Camille Fox

Gorgeous: thank you...
! Originally Posted by Big_Mike88

Yw.

I have a thing for shy guys too, but don't have enough experience with them to break it down on how to get them to try new things.
I wouldn't mind a breakdown of how to approach that situation with the opposite gender.

xoxox Kisses and best wishes xoxox

Lmao no we are happy. But I've been with her the last 5 years. And before her only banged about 4 other chicks. I'm feeling the urge to try something new if you know what I mean. I've only ever been with Hispanic chicks. I'm afraid if I get married to her I will cheat. Lol I wanna try and get the bucket list checked off before I stay faithful. Originally Posted by Big_Mike88

You may just be using your perceived lack of sex partners as an excuse to have sex with other women. Maybe there is some other issue in your relationship that is causing you to seek sex with strange women. If that is the case, once you have had you're run in the hobby, the original problem will still be there. Plus your guilt because this most definitely is cheating. And if you get caught . . . more problems. You said she is a little straight-laced. How do you think you will view her after some time with some of the really naughty girls here. If you've never been with freaks before . . . prepare to have your mind blown. Once you've spent time with naughty girls, well, naughty girls are what you'll crave sexually. So even after you get married you'll be jonesing for those naughty Latinas that made your head spin bcd. And you'll come up with another excuse to hobby. The urge for naughty Latinas is a powerful thing.

Of course, I don't have a clue what the real motivator is for you coming here. And I can't predict your future here. Hopefully it all works out for you. I just wanted to put some things out there for you to consider.

Op,

I hope you don't take relationship advice from these home-wrecking whores and whore mongers.

... first thing or two you need to do list:

-- figure out why you are here instead of fully enjoying your GF experience
... Originally Posted by ck1942

+1

Hell, make that +2

Good grief.