Fellas, have you ever had a provider steal from you at any point during your hobbying?
Originally Posted by incognito isis
Yes.
I've been doing this for over 35 years now, well before P4P started taking advantage of the Internet, including review boards where you could verify that a lady was legit. Frequently you didn't get what you thought you were paying for. For example, $$$ that turned out to be just for showing up and she wanted more just to take her clothes off, let alone allowing any touching. For that matter, even in recent years there have been a few instances where a multi-hour date was cut significantly short without returning a portion of the fee. I suppose some might call that "stealing."
I have had a couple of instances that went beyond just a dispute over the terms of the arrangement, to out-and-out unquestionable stealing:
1) Went back to my hotel with her, she suggested picking up some beer on the way, and in the room I stupidly accepted a beer that she had opened before handing to me. When I woke up (with a bad headache), she'd cleaned out all the cash I had in the room (some hidden), what would be the equivalent in today's dollars of about $1,000.
2) In my car, she suggested I drive to a secluded spot where she, ummm, distracted me briefly while picking my pocket. I realized what had happened and might have gotten it back if her boyfriend hadn't arrived and pounded on me. Not only lost the cash (maybe $125) and my watch (hard to replace), but had fun the next day explaining the black eye.
Those happened many years ago when I was young and stupid, and before review boards. Now I'm old; still stupid, but much more cautious. You look at the risk/reward balance a lot differently after being burned badly a couple of times. In the last ten years, I may have been shortchanged in what I received for the $$$ a few times, but nothing that I would describe as "stealing."
Usually there's not much you can do; "revenge" is not worth the time and effort and obsessing over it, and won't ameliorate the harm to you. To some extent, this sort of thing is part of the price of admission. Luckily, the price has gone down in recent years.