Why do some providers not want to be fingered?

I just don't like fingers and thats that I don't have to explain

This is NOT rocket science. Originally Posted by Marcus Aurelius

No, it isn't.....but you'd be surprised to find the amount of men that don't think about these things...

Noted... Originally Posted by DickEmDown

No need to notate love...Your fingers are just fine

I want to thank the ladies for praising the benefits of lubrication (lube). The benefits of lube extend to men beyond prostate massages. While some guys may disagree with me, I much prefer to be well lubed for manual foreplay and even during oral sex.

Regardless of what you see in the porn flicks, spit is not a good lubricant for the guys or gals!

You're right EA...it's when a guy just cut his nails and then digs around scraping the razor sharp edge of his nail into my yum yum that it's an issue. Aside from that, 9x out of 10 it isn't turning me on and is just making me worry about getting a UTI from all the scratching and clawing.

I personally don't like lube at all. I'd rather use spit or the juices the lady is putting out for lube.

What a difference 40 years makes!!!!!! Back in highschool the only part of my bod that got to visit the Tunnel of Love was my middle finger!! All the girls in highschool had a check list. Hugging. Check. Kissing. Check. LFK. Check. DFK. Check. Both hands on deck for ass carressing. Check. More hugging. Check. One hand sliding over a breast Outside the blouse. Check. Check watch for time. 2 hours!! She says she's gotta go home. Check. This was date number 3 usually. Date #4. All of the above. Check. Add one more...one hand discovering panty hose on legs. Check. Date #6. Carressing the V of the pantyhose. Check. After date #11, one hand inside of pantyhose to discover panties. Check watch. 2 hours!! Date #18. All of the above. Hands inside of panties to carress a bare ass. Lightly! DATE #23. While lightly carressing the V outside the panties HER hand pulls them aside and places MY fingers at the entrance to the Tunnel of Love. SHE manipulates my fingers to her Wetness!!!! Then with a Firm grip on my fingers SHE rubs all the things SHE wants till SHE gasps! SHE shudders!! AND proceeds to CRUSH MY HAND!!! With HER THIGHS of STEEL! Dates #24 thru #36. Same old Same old. Date #37 after she goes thru her check list to the end, I take HER hand and place it on the outside of my pants on my aching Little Buddy.....WHOA!!! She says. I can't do that. What about my crushed hand! What about your 50 orgasms! Can't you just massage it? She says..Well maybe, but let's get one thing straight Buster...It ain't going anywhere near MY Tunnel of Love!

Here are some fingers for you...

man...this thread took off like fireworks. so many good points. this is why i keep my fingers freshly trimmed and smoothly rounded to avoid the "ouch" scenario. besides.....i like my finger to get in the action to. it also turns me on to have a woman slide my hands and fingers down there only to pull them up and suck the juice right off.

I never do FIV, I'm always afraid my nails might hurt a lady. Besides, a tongue down there feels better anyway. Am I right?

I've only ever had two providers ask me to put my fingers in there and I declined.

Nail's perfectly manicured. Check :-)

I've heard from 'a friend' that some of the provider's he's had sex with would have a problem with fingers in the vagina. These same providers would have no problem with his penis, which is many times larger.

This never made any sense : a penis can have all kinds of STIs, not to mention that the semen causes pregnancy. A finger is smaller, gentler, and it helps my friend get in the mood because he likes feeling a hot, wet vagina in a way that he can't feel with his penis strangled in latex.

He wonders why that is. The providers are fine with a penis rammed in there over and over, but they don't like a gentle finger? How could that be? It's kind of like the rumored providers who won't kiss. Originally Posted by Habeed

I'm having trouble even thinking about the answer to the question because I have to address your false premise that I emboldened above. We generally don't like penises rammed into us over and over. I am hoping this was just a poor choice of words rather than a true indication of what you think we like.

I agree with the ladies here about fingers. When done incorrectly, fingering is incredibly painful. I do like the activity, but I will admit that I find myself telling gentleman to "be careful" far too often.

China : my 'little friend' is trying to make a contrast. My friend doesn't ram himself in there particularly strongly, but near climax the motion gets faster and some very large muscles in the glute and quads are involved in generating the thrusts. Condoms don't help matters...it takes a lot more motion to feel anything at all than it would bare.

The point is that some of the providers my friend was with seemed to find being fingered gently painful, even. And he wondered that...were they just putting up with the intercourse to make a buck because anything in the vagina hurts? Or was it something specific to a finger?

My friend found some patterns in this behavior, similar to the kiss on the cheek goodbye that providers all seem to do.

Intercourse usually starts with the provider on top, and my friend would eventually lose interest in that position, especially since it's hard to tell if anything is happening at all through all that latex. Sometimes my friend would question if he was even in the right spot. During the position switch my friend would try to restore his interest by gently inserting a finger to enjoy the warmth and the slickness. A finger in there during a blowjob feels especially good, btw, because you can fool yourself into thinking it's your penis enveloped in that wonderful warm slickness.

Well, the providers that were bad in other ways would encourage him to remove the finger and reinsert the penis. It makes him wonder why that is...are the providers just trying to speed up the process?

His ATF, of course, does the opposite : one time my friend saw her on the very next day, and could not reach climax during intercourse. He removed the latex cutting off circulation and started to finish things off by hand. She grabbed his other hand and inserted a finger in there, which made finishing things take just a wonderful few seconds.

Final note : my friend knows that condoms are a necessary thing, although he's had better luck with the non latex ones made of a different polymer. However, they make the FS feel worse than a bbbj, which seems to be the main service worth paying for.

I don't mean this in a bad way, but I think his idea of foreplay is concentrated on fingering.

Maybe some of the ladies can give him some tips on proper foreplay in a session.

(Heck! That's a topic on its own.....maybe we need to start a thread "PROPER HOBBY FOREPLAY- for the ladies")

My .02 cents.

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