Not sure which above is most alarming!What is alarming and scary is that racism is such a fundamental part of American life that we don't even stop to examine why we have some of the preferences we have. I'm not calling anyone a bigot, I'm saying we aren't born with a racial preference, we developed said preference through our socialization and it is a product of our upbringing and environment.
RR we understand you are keyboard antagonist so we understand laugh and move on.
Liz I find it alarming and scary when people see personal preference as racism. So if I prefer white or Spanish ladies then I am racist? When the color is not the reason why I don't see black ladies.
Hell RR comments may be true so then that makes them racist for not seeing Indian's.
I call it preference not racism.
Sam Originally Posted by Samcro84
By that logic...So can you be straight without being homophobic?
Would you have sex with a dude?
If not, your homophobic. Originally Posted by Kickrocks
There are not a lot of guys who want to participate in sexual activities with other men involved. That's nothing but burn in hell deviate sexual behavior. Maybe a few but most of us are not a freak. Originally Posted by Treetop78759Oh I know there are, I always seem to wind up friends with them! Lol
So can you be straight without being homophobic?just because a provider sees other races doesn't mean she can't be racist. You said earlier its just about the money. Right?
Can a white guy date white women without being racist?
I think so. The distinction would depend on whether or not the straight person expressed derogatory feelings toward people who are not straight. And if the white guy said he refused to date anyone other than white women.
what If the white guy did not express derogatory feelings towards other races? It would be the same then. Right?
Maybe there are a lot of straight men who would enjoy some sexual experiences where other men were involved but the cultural pressures and homophobia prevent them from feeling safe to do so. Just as the white guy may really enjoy some non-white women but systemic racism has him afraid to venture out.
I dont think that's the case. America is very accepting of both situations.
I'm not trying to be accusatory, I just think it is interesting to examine where this shit comes from. White people don't have to consider racism much unless they choose to so I understand the strong reaction. We are all in different places with this stuff... Originally Posted by lizshue81
Maybe I don't get it. If my preference is not to see black female providers that makes me racist? When you have not asked why just prefer to judge. Not sure why somebody can be so judgemental to think or think they know that because of my upbringing I am racist. Maybe they should take a look at their bigotry.White people who grow up in America, where white culture and whiteness are the accepted mainstream values/norms have privilege which exists because of racism.
Sam Originally Posted by Samcro84
White people who grow up in America, where white culture and whiteness are the accepted mainstream values/norms have privilege which exists because of racism.
Racism = race prejudice + institutional power; a system of oppression maintained by institutions and cultural "norms" that exploit, control, and oppress people of color groups in order to maintain a position of social and material supremacy and privilege for white people (particularly the powerful and wealthy elite).
It's never too late to unlearn prejudice but first we have to acknowledge that it exists.
Privilege is blinding and ignorance is bliss. You get to see America as accepting because you, as a white man, benefit from the most privilege.
I know nothing about you (except that you have been very sweet to talk to at socials etc) or your life and do not assume shit has always been easy for you or that you haven't worked hard for the things you have. That's not what I'm saying. And I'm not making personal judgements about you as an individual. Really all I know about you is that you are a white man (or at least you pass as one). I'm not attacking you. I'm trying to point out that those of us who are white have unearned advantages as a result of our whiteness.
Being conscious of my whiteness (and where it places me in a racist system) means I claim responsibility for working to dismantle both my own learned racism and the racism that operates in society and institutions (in an anti-racist way). Originally Posted by lizshue81
White people who grow up in America, where white culture and whiteness are the accepted mainstream values/norms have privilege which exists because of racism.
Racism = race prejudice + institutional power; a system of oppression maintained by institutions and cultural "norms" that exploit, control, and oppress people of color groups in order to maintain a position of social and material supremacy and privilege for white people (particularly the powerful and wealthy elite).
It's never too late to unlearn prejudice but first we have to acknowledge that it exists.
Privilege is blinding and ignorance is bliss. You get to see America as accepting because you, as a white man, benefit from the most privilege.
I know nothing about you (except that you have been very sweet to talk to at socials etc) or your life and do not assume shit has always been easy for you or that you haven't worked hard for the things you have. That's not what I'm saying. And I'm not making personal judgements about you as an individual. Really all I know about you is that you are a white man (or at least you pass as one). I'm not attacking you. I'm trying to point out that those of us who are white have unearned advantages as a result of our whiteness.
Being conscious of my whiteness (and where it places me in a racist system) means I claim responsibility for working to dismantle both my own learned racism and the racism that operates in society and institutions (in an anti-racist way). Originally Posted by lizshue81