private problems being an escort and dating

Dating is hard when you are in this business and Im coming to the conclusion that its not worth it. Its better to just deal with men who treat you nice & pay you then to deal with jerks who don't even understand they are getting a DEAL!!! lol

Shorty....
I think you have it right. Years ago, I stopped looking and stopped dating in my personal life - than one day I realized the man of my dreams was right in front of me. He was also a client. After we discussed our feelings, we realized we both felt the same way about each other and began dating outside of the "hobby". I adored his family and child and my family adored him as well. We had a beautiful five years of happiness living together and never had one problem or argument.
When I am ready to begin dating again, I personally would want to date a man I met in this "hobby"....the upside....I don't have to go through the awkward conversation of telling him what I do, nor do I have to lie to him. (just my opinion)

In a way, I think you are setting unrealistic expectations expecting a real-life guy to be like your clients.
Because we're all the same person.

Everyone is different when you first start dating, the guy is putting his best foot forward and trying to impress you, the lady is being all attentive and pretending to be into all the things that interest him.
After a while, the effort to maintain this facade becomes too much and elements of our real "selves" start showing up and all of a sudden he's not "mister perfect" any more and she's really not that interested in you.

I know that if I kept seeing the same provider, just like when I date a civie, I'd eventually get to know the real them and some of the magic would be gone and you're left with someone who probably takes you for granted to some degree and doesn't flatter you and dote on you like they use to.

By seeing providers/clients instead of dating, you are constantly having first dates or staying in the honeymoon phase of the relationship.
Which I'm not knocking, relationships are hard and it's a lot funner to be with someone who's constantly on their best behavior and treating you like a king.

I'm great at dating.
I'm great at starting relationships.
I just suck at maintaining that intensity on into an actual "relationship".
So, here I am...for now anyway.
Maybe, somewhere out there is someone who will make me want to be the "best me" all the time and she'll want to be the "best her" for me.
Who knows? Originally Posted by riday

To be clear I conduct myself as a gentleman with any lady (pro or not) but that is exactly it. With a pro I can be me. I don't need to worry if I'm making a good impression or not or what she really thinks of me.

Shorty....
I think you have it right. Years ago, I stopped looking and stopped dating in my personal life - than one day I realized the man of my dreams was right in front of me. He was also a client. After we discussed our feelings, we realized we both felt the same way about each other and began dating outside of the "hobby". I adored his family and child and my family adored him as well. We had a beautiful five years of happiness living together and never had one problem or argument.
When I am ready to begin dating again, I personally would want to date a man I met in this "hobby"....the upside....I don't have to go through the awkward conversation of telling him what I do, nor do I have to lie to him. (just my opinion) Originally Posted by ForbiddenFriend1

But for many of us....it isn't the awkward conversation it is the all the other (judgemental) folks in our lives (family, business associates, etc.)

Forbidden. . . Glad you found someone and that your happy!!

AltComedy. . . Yes, your right about making it work with all the judgemental people in our lives but if your thinking about what other people think about your SO, it will never work!!

There are some of us that have been raised to treat a lady repectfully and with dignity regardless of the situation. I would not treat a provider any different than I would treat a lady I was dating. All ladies are to be treated as a lady and that goes for being a date, a provider, a business associate or whatever the case. Maybe it goes back to my southern roots and my feelings that women are special and as such such be treated properly. The same goes for a man hitting a woman. There is never a situation that a man should hit a woman for any reason. If things go bad in a relationship even if the woman becomes physical, the man should walk away and leave it.

Nina,

There are still men that will take you out, treat you well and compliment you as well show you a good time. As for the looks, they may not always be the best looking in the world, but looks can be so shallow and the inner person is where the true beauty lies. Many good and wonderful people are often overlooked because people only look at the outside and not the inside.

Dating is hard when you are in this business and Im coming to the conclusion that its not worth it. Its better to just deal with men who treat you nice & pay you then to deal with jerks who don't even understand they are getting a DEAL!!! lol Originally Posted by sexichocolate

exactly - sometimes i wonder if some women don`t know their worth or if i am just a spoiled brat because i know the difference.

Sometimes when i witness married friends of mine having fights i think i get a glimpse of what hell might be like if i ever intended to visit.

Does that mean your batting for the other team Isis? Originally Posted by rrabbit6926

NOOOO. And it's ok if you think that. My family accuses me of being gay because I don't date. Well screw 'em. One of these days if they don't stop accusing me of being gay I'll just come right out and tell them the real reason why I don't date. That'll shut 'em up.

I wasn't judging you isis. Nothing wrong if you were. I tend to poke fun when people leave an open comment like that. Sucks that your family doesn't except you for you.

Also, I did fall in love with a married client. It lasted for about a year. It was HEEEEEELLLL. I'm so happy to report that I am over him. But the other day I found myself thinking of him for a minute or two, but it quickly faded. IN the past, he was all I thought about. Now he is off my mind. I did fall into a deep depression over this drama. In the end, he's not what I want anyway. He's too old, and his noodle is a bit on the soft side. He can't keep it stiff for too long. Plus, he would talk about how his wife dresses like an old lady. Not like I should care, but if I was his wife, I'd consider that pretty disrespectful. Plus, he used to email me telling me how much he missed me. Real nice to do that to your wife, you know?

I wasn't judging you isis. Nothing wrong if you were. I tend to poke fun when people leave an open comment like that. Sucks that your family doesn't except you for you. Originally Posted by rrabbit6926

Darling, they just think it's odd that I don't date at all. I guess it does look kinda odd....they think I'm either gay, depressed, or anti social! The truth is, it's the opposite. I'm with lotsa guys. I'm not alone.

Is one of them taking out the trash? just a thought Originally Posted by rrabbit6926

make it three!

There are some of us that have been raised to treat a lady repectfully and with dignity regardless of the situation. . Originally Posted by topsgt38801

I was raised to treat all people respectfully until they opened their mouth and gave me reason to think otherwise.

He's too old, and his noodle is a bit on the soft side. He can't keep it stiff for too long. Originally Posted by incognito isis

His initials didn't start with a P and a J did they?

I was raised to treat all people respectfully until they opened their mouth and gave me reason to think otherwise.






Originally Posted by WTF

I Hear Ya!! *

One of these days if they don't stop accusing me of being gay I'll just come right out and tell them the real reason why I don't date. That'll shut 'em up. Originally Posted by incognito isis

Ahh to be a fly on the wall for that conversation. LOL