Ladies, what is ok....

Give me an example of being "brutally" honest.....

I agree that movie was hilarious..... Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

Do these qualify? I've yet to see a post from either of these respected members that was anything less than brutaly honest!?

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Jesus Christ! Reading this thread has been like watching a battle of wits between unarmed people. The "ugly truth", as a poster said, is this: the girls that chase the so-called "bad boys" are, in fact, damaged goods themselves. The fatal flaw in this entire thread is the assumption that all women want the "bad boy". Sorry, but it just isn't true. Birds of a feather flock together, and the damaged goods will pursue damaged goods. Period. If you look deep into her past you will invariably find something that drives her in that direction. Many times they are from broken homes, or they don't know who their father is at all, or they were abused as children, one parent (or both) were druggies/alcoholics, or any combination thereof....the list goes on and on. The bottom line is, somewhere in their past, there is an underlying reason for this lack of character, low self esteem, and consistently poor judgement. Sorry, but these simpleminded explanations about talent in bed, etc., just don't cut it. OK, break, break...another subject. Don't know who this "Isis" person is, and I don't care. But SL, PLEASE drop it and move on. Why anyone in Austin would give a crap about someone in Philly whom they've never met and really have no concept of their identity is puzzling and, frankly, a little creepy. Give it up dude! You're coming off looking a little (OK, a lot) desperate. Peace.


I thought I would throw this one in also, since it was directed at me!

Find any clip from the movie The Invention of Lying. Brutal truth from literally every single character. Originally Posted by SillyGirl

Another one is:

Nothing But The Truth

An old Bob Hope Classic

Sweet young thing like yourself wasn't even born when that one was made! (1941)

Also remake of the same name with Kate Beckinsale (2008)

Good examples and though they could have been worded differently there really is no need. The only person that could say it was bad is the person they directed the comments to and even that would only be a reaction to the words that was said.

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I agree with this post by Wakeup in response to direct "words"....... it applies to what we are talking about here as well.....

Originally Posted by rubyred
hmmm...okay so we are whores...but men are seeing us "whores"...so i guess its okay for me to call men "tricks" then right? JK

Originally Posted by Wakeup
That's EXACTLY what we are, so why shouldn't you be able to call us that? These are words, and the only reason that some people think that certain words are "bad" is because they're too weak minded to see past those words and realize that words mean nothing. These lemmings in society have brainwashed us to believe that words are powerful. Words are only powerful if the person hearing those words MAKES them powerful. To label certain words as societally unacceptable is pathetic. Racial epithets, curse words, slurs and anything else are the exact same string of letters put together to form a written or spoken word as anything else, it's only when weak minded people put their own definition on them that they become "bad." Look at the Collins English Dictionary, it's a perfect example of the perpetuation of the insecure person mindset.

"whore" - n - 1. A prostitute or promiscuous woman: often a term of abuse.
- vb - 4. To seek that which is immoral, idolatrous, etc.

Putting "often a term of abuse" in the definition is perpetuating a myth that the word has more meaning than its face value. It doesn't, individuals, upon hearing the word, have the right and responsibility to judge it on their own, not be told by someone else how to judge it. Your parents, your teachers, television, and a host of other things are all trying to tell you the meanings of words and how they should make you feel. For once, why don't you weak minded, lazy people take the time to figure out on your own what these words really mean to you, and stop taking everything being fed to you by the people and things around you. The definition writer is inflicting their own morality on me by telling me, in the definition, that the word reeks of immoral behavior. I'm choosing to NOT accpet someone else's morality, instead I choose to make my own. You people might consider who is giving you your morality and then try and come up with your own.

They're whores, prostitutes, escorts, hookers, call girls, harlots, courtesans, and any number of things which are all correct. Next time you people get insulted by a word, why don't you look closely at yourself and you'll see that it's not the SAYER who's inducing the bad connotations, it's the HEARER...

You yourself have often asked me why others on the board think I'm a bad person. Now you have your reason. I say whatever words I choose to say, I have my own morality, and I refuse to compromise and consider the morality or beliefs of others. If the people reading those words choose to let those words upset them, that's their problem, not mine...feel free to give me power over your emotions by reacting to words that I type...I'm not asking for that power, but if you choose to give it to me, I'll surely abuse it, just to show you how brainwashed you are...

I guarantee that if something happened to cause you to NC/NS a provider they wouldn't be too concerned about your feelings.....

Or if you called up and asked for some sort of discount due to going thru hard times they wouldn't be too concerned about feelings....

However I bet quite a few could be completely honest with you in a way that would not be considered "brutal".....
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They're whores, prostitutes, escorts, hookers, call girls, harlots, courtesans, and any number of things which are all correct. Next time you people get insulted by a word, why don't you look closely at yourself and you'll see that it's not the SAYER who's inducing the bad connotations, it's the HEARER...


Am I understanding you correctly? You agree with WakeUp's post? You can call some one a name and it’s not an insult because you said it, it’s the "Hearer" who has the problem?

So if I contact a provider and ask if she has a good looking "WHORE" friend that she can double with? That’s her problem for hearing an insult?

I promise I mean no disrespect to anyone... I just want clarification here!

I don't mean any disrespect to anyone here either.....

I still feel that that post has a lot of truth to it. I've seen a lot of providers and hobbyists alike say "if this bothers you then it's probably because it applies to you". Ever heard that.

Some people call each other words that if said by anyone else would be considered an insult but it isn't because the ones using it aren't meaning it as an insult.

I know a hobbyist that if he doesn't have a good time with a provider he will let them know at the end of the session. Not in an insulting demeaning way but just give her an idea of what parts he didn't like and whatnot. He had one tell him that she appreciated his feedback because if he didn't tell her then she would never know. Would it have been better to just let her keep doing it and just be oblivious to the fact that she gives bad service all because it may hurt her feelings, all the while every tom dick and harry are out there telling each other how bad a service she gives? Would it be better for a provider to just smile and let a stinky, smelly client crawl all over her without informing him that he in fact needs a shower all because he may get his feelings hurt. All the while telling every provider behind his back that he is stinky and he will never change because no one ever told him his ass stinks...lol.

Don't get me wrong I know that words have meaning but don't a lot of people say that the only way words can hurt you is if you give them the power to?

You have a thread right now that is meant to be a funny thread. The "stupid and funny moments" thread. I mean some people might get their feelings hurt if you busted out laughing because you saw something stupid happen to them or them do something stupid. That doesn't mean you were laughing to be insulting.

I didn't take Sillygirl's post as an insult or an attack. She was blunt, but not insulting.

What I got out of Wakeup's post was that it's how you view what was said to you that can give or take away the power of the words.....

Also I agree that the example that you gave above would be considered an insult to most if not all providers if you called them up and asked them that question in that way. However that doesn't mean that you necessarily meant it as an insult....

I don't mean any disrespect to anyone here either.....

I still feel that that post has a lot of truth to it. I've seen a lot of providers and hobbyists alike say "if this bothers you then it's probably because it applies to you". Ever heard that.

Some people call each other words that if said by anyone else would be considered an insult but it isn't because the ones using it aren't meaning it as an insult.

I know a hobbyist that if he doesn't have a good time with a provider he will let them know at the end of the session. Not in an insulting demeaning way but just give her an idea of what parts he didn't like and whatnot. He had one tell him that she appreciated his feedback because if he didn't tell her then she would never know. Would it have been better to just let her keep doing it and just be oblivious to the fact that she gives bad service all because it may hurt her feelings, all the while every tom dick and harry are out there telling each other how bad a service she gives? Would it be better for a provider to just smile and let a stinky, smelly client crawl all over her without informing him that he in fact needs a shower all because he may get his feelings hurt. All the while telling every provider behind his back that he is stinky and he will never change because no one ever told him his ass stinks...lol.

Don't get me wrong I know that words have meaning but don't a lot of people say that the only way words can hurt you is if you give them the power to?

You have a thread right now that is meant to be a funny thread. The "stupid and funny moments" thread. I mean some people might get their feelings hurt if you busted out laughing because you saw something stupid happen to them or them do something stupid. That doesn't mean you were laughing to be insulting.

I didn't take Sillygirl's post as an insult or an attack. She was blunt, but not insulting.

What I got out of Wakeup's post was that it's how you view what was said to you that can give or take away the power of the words.....

Also I agree that the example that you gave above would be considered an insult to most if not all providers if you called them up and asked them that question in that way. However that doesn't mean that you necessarily meant it as an insult.... Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

Mr. Addict... my compliments! You’re probably one of the very few people that can keep there cool when replying to a difficult question and not resort to personal attacks. If you were asked, "Are you still beating your wife?" No doubt you could pull off answering even that one gracefully!

Back to issue at hand LYING... We both believe its wrong! I believe there are exceptions to this rule to spare someone’s feelings. Noting that exaggeration and not telling the whole truth is still lying in the strictest sense of the word.

So I concede to your argument! Your right! (Now you just need to figure out if I'm telling the truth or not because I care about your feelings)

Lol..... thats one of the funniest things I've read. I don't care whether you are telling the truth or not.I'm just gonna believe you

Lol..... thats one of the funniest things I've read. I don't care whether you are telling the truth or not.I'm just gonna believe you Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

GREAT... then it worked!

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