Most of us here think of P4P this way:
Providing is a job. We can argue whether it rises to a professional career, etc.,
Originally Posted by tigercat
whereas Leslie perhaps does not:
I am sorry that but I do not take this as seriously as most do because it is not a "job" for me as some might think of it.
Originally Posted by Leslie Ann
If you were to think of P4P as, say, the online equivalent of hooking up with somebody (who happens to leave a nice gift when he leaves ) . . . well, NCNS doesn't have quite the same significance, does it? If you're at a bar and tell some guy "hey, come over to my place tomorrow and we'll have some fun," it may not feel like quite the same commitment as arises from making an appointment that is part of your job/business. Would you feel compelled to call that guy at the bar to tell him you changed your mind? Maybe not. And maybe that's not so much being non-professional as it is not treating this a job at all. If it's not really a job, do normal business practices even apply? (Of course, if you treat it as just hooking up rather than a job, it may not be realistic to expect you'll get the gift you expect, either.)
I'm not saying that such an approach justifies an NCNS but it might explain Leslie's attitude toward it. Or maybe not; I may be misinterpreting her comment.
And now that we know that this is not a "job" for Leslie, we can all re-calibrate our expectations and act accordingly, i.e., schedule with those who understand P4P the same way we do. Problem solved, for everyone! Hurray!
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