In a Serious Relationship With an ASP? Guys, Could You Handle It?

I voted "No" because I have a definition of relationship as being "one on one"? If I ever got serious about any relationship, she could not be a provider.

The same goes if that if I decided to get in a relationship, I would stop hobbying. Originally Posted by DarthMaul

Awww...who knew you were so sensitive lol. I will see you in Texas.

Wait! That's exactly what you did in your entire post! I'm guessing you, and you're future SO won't be doing any swinging? Originally Posted by pfunkdenver

Ok you got me.

If it is acceptable for you, why is it not acceptable for your children? FWIW I cannot have children, and my SO had a vascatemty years before we met, so no children are in our future. BUT I know plenty of mothers in this industry. Do I think that they love their children less because they are in this industry? No, not at all.

ARE YOU KIDDING?!

Didn't you hear her! She is not kidding lol!

I am older so I do not have the need to procreate so everything I do I do purely for pleasure. Still the alpha male instinct is very strong in me. I try to appear indifferent, but you can't lie to yourself. If I met a girl who wanted to retire it could work, but introduce another male, and eventually there would be problems.

I know im not a guy <sticking hand down pants to confirm> ok so yea im not a guy but i voted anyway. If I were in a serious relationship I would def not be doing this. Like ive said before.. this is about the love of boink with the bonus of being able to pay off student loans... lol If i were dating he would be boinking me 24/7 like a rabid monkey on viagra overdose. I wouldnt date a guy who was hobbying either.
I dont judge anyone that does, infact I know many marriages are saved because of hobbying.. What ever makes people happy i say go for it.
But.... i LOVE LOVE this boink with no strings attached kinda thing! So i think its pretty safe to say I wont have to worry about this question becoming anything that Id have to REALLY think about... not any time soon! Originally Posted by LusciousLacy

Lacy dear, would you be next ex-wife???

If it is acceptable for you, why is it not acceptable for your children? FWIW I cannot have children, and my SO had a vascatemty years before we met, so no children are in our future. BUT I know plenty of mothers in this industry. Do I think that they love their children less because they are in this industry? No, not at all. Originally Posted by Naughty Destiny

Good luck with that.

ARE YOU KIDDING?! Originally Posted by Shayla

This is why I have stick to like minded ladies when it comes to choosing my girlfriends.

A lot of posts here just scream "RUN RUN RUN!"

Some time back, I dated an escort. It was great until feeling got evolved, which made the job unbearable for her. She never asked, but I wasn't in a financial position to support her and her children and things went down hill fast. Love can be a bitch sometimes.

I can understand someone saying they couldn't or wouldn't be "able" to do it, for whatever reason "they " see fit.... but those who say it would be "wrong " for anyone else to do so are simply narrow-minded, self-righteous, bigots!

Sex is sex... love is love... honesty is honesty... trust is trust... nobody, no group, no government, no religion holds any moral position over the decisions two adults make between themselves! PERIOD!

Of course... that's just my opinion

I could but only if I got to screen/approve the guys. My wife and I used to swing and I loved it when she did other guys but they had to be guys that I liked, got along with and approved of.

Lacy dear, would you be next ex-wife??? Originally Posted by Ed Highlight

I will be your wife by the hour... just let me know when ur ready to divorce and send me on my way with that alimony.. lol.

Jesus loved Mary Magdalene, she was a provider and any reality to this relationship was washed out of the story by religious authorities. There is no real evidence Jesus was celebate, and no real evidense he and Mry Magdalene hooked up, but what does reality tell us? I don't hold the bible as an authority on what real love is. If it means anything I went to a Southern Baptist church 3xs a week for over 20 years.


Sorry I meant to include Londons quote.

I guess I was going by the Bible's definition of love lol. I don't judge or care what others do, but if the only way I can get a guy to love me is to let us both screw random people and raise our children into that, I will pass. When I am in love, I have no need for anyone else. My desire is to please him and only him, yet I don't let sex rule my life. There are so many other things I find significant in healthy relationships, there really is no need for having other people in it. Your situation is different because you are BOTH into this lifestyle. I would never be here if I had an SO.

I can agree that you can have sex without love, but I totally disagree that sex has nothing to do with love...are you serious? I think I dated a guy for like 3 weeks and nearly cried when I was about to go on a date with a client. You can say it's just sex, but your mind does not exactly leave the room nor do your emotions if you have any. I am not numb yet I guess. I hope I never am.

If it works for other people, more power to em. I just could not imagine ever being with someone who literally felt nothing no matter what I did. Originally Posted by London Rayne

Jesus loved Mary Magdalene, she was a provider and any reality to this relationship was washed out of the story by religious authorities. There is no real evidence Jesus was celebate, and no real evidense he and Mry Magdalene hooked up, but what does reality tell us? I don't hold the bible as an authority on what real love is. If it means anything I went to a Southern Baptist church 3xs a week for over 20 years.

I am not going to argue the basic premise of sex and love with you on a hooker board honey. If you honestly think sex has nothing to do with love when people are IN LOVE, I really don't know what to say lol. I sure as hell want sex from the person I am in love with.

No I don't want my daughter to be a hooker and no I don't want her to be in a relationship that's based on self gratification and SEX! That's what I don't understand about your post. You claim your relationship is not about sex, yet it's the one thing both of you MUST HAVE from other people??

No need to explain...we just have different views on things, and neither of us is wrong. I can't have someone I claim to love and not feel a damn thing when I am sucking off random strangers everyday...you can, and that's your thing. At the same time you say you have emotions, yet you also say you "don't feel anything" because it's just sex. Well which is it? Either you are so numb it does not affect you, or you have emotions that are the contrary.

You flat out said you don't care if your guy is with someone else, meaning you "don't feel" anything about it. That's what I am saying. If it did not bother my SO that I was out with strange men, I would not be with him. That's just odd IMO. He should very well want me to be faithful and only with him and if he loved me, he would not want some strange d*ck in my mouth...unless of course HIS own desires wanted the same thing so he didn't care what I did.

Clearly that is what you have. Neither of you give a crap if you screw other people. That's fine, it's just not what I consider normal in my own life. Just because I am a hooker part-time does not mean I want to be treated like one 24/7. I want a normal, faithful, relationship that is not based on getting a nut from random strangers.

Ok. Originally Posted by London Rayne

I think a lot of people try to deny the connection between love and sex, and I think you (London) have a prtty good handle on it. Being emotionally connected with some one and this being an exclusive relationship really seems to be the ideal way. But we can't fault people for trying to have it all. But I don't think you are faulting anyone.

I haven't been to sunday school for 20 years, would your donation be the same to attend with me. LOL!

Good luck with that.



This is why I have stick to like minded ladies when it comes to choosing my girlfriends.

A lot of posts here just scream "RUN RUN RUN!" Originally Posted by Naomi4u

When I'm post/op. can I be your girlfriend?