No, I mean I don't not stay the full hour if its wanted. but it seems like they just get dressed and slip out. I try to offer a drink afterward or something. I didn't mean I don't make it worth it.... wow lol
Originally Posted by GabrielaSweetheart
Gabriela - I think some may be confused by how you are writing what you mean to convey. Double negatives tend to be confusing to people when reading in my opinion. I have been reading this thread and the postings to what I personally see as a possible slight misunderstanding of the original question. To clarify, when I read the original posting it read as a question posed about the change of happenings within your appointments booked and how it seemed as though there is less romance and more of a wham-bam-thank you ma'am sort of experience for you lately. Then a whole different question was posed on what a person likes outside of the deed when meeting.?
My reply to you about this;
There are many reasons why this could be happening to you. First and foremost you might start looking at your business model and how you are marketing yourself and who you are marketing yourself to. If you want to have extended or romantic themed dates then you need to market as such.
If you are seeking the sort of appointment where the foreplay starts between the ears then you need to make sure you are providing that experience so that it will more naturally be reciprocated. If you have an appointment in which the guy thinks you are hot, but when talking the conversation lacks, leans in a narcissistic direction, involves topics he finds to be uncomfortable or a turn off then he may naturally want to skip that portion. If you are appealing mostly to the one hour in and out experience then they may want to just get to the point so to speak.
We all have the power to run our business as we see fit. That includes running it into the gutter if you are not mindful of the details that may effect your personal business negatively or in a direction you would not like to take it. General life advice which may happen to affect your hobby experience... often in life 'like attracts like', meaning you will attract what you put out more often than not.
On a separate note. In rebuttal to the OTC comments:
If a lady has a bit of OTC time with you then why brag? It is not a bad thing to keep some info for yourself or at the least in the locker room (or whatever the men only section is called) even if only for the sake of still appearing to be a gentlemen and not someone possibly seeking freebies.
Although there are some ladies that are available full time with plenty of time spare there are also those that have a job, are in school or have other such obligations that make the play time they have available limited to a select amount of hours. Either way if a lady happens to give you some of that time in gratis why would you want others to know?. Since this fun time available can be precious and finite you may end up finding in retrospect that sharing this info could equate to less extra time a lady may have to spare for you. I personally just don't see how speaking of this helps you help yourself, but that is just my thoughts.
Not that anyone intentioned for that direction, but to me it seemed her question was what do you like outside of just the bedding not what do you like to do outside the appointment. While it may not have been worded in the most clear manner, that is the way I read it. Then again maybe I just read it wrong.