with respect to the ladies, i could only speak from the male point of view in this subject ... i am sure some men partake of this opportunity occasionally as they have some sort of difficulty in the sexual side of life ... whatever that may be. sometimes, i guess for some people it is difficult separating the moment from the rest of life.
speaking strictly for myself, i could never meet a provider in a provider setting and 'fall in love'. sexually desire her - sure, if i didn;t, i wouldn;t be there in the 1st place. it's not something i personally am capable of in that situation.
i admit that several ladies here have a certain attractiveness that would hasten my departure from the rest of my life to hurry homw to them - but the 'rest of the package' would need to be there and i could never find that out in 1 hour or 10 hours or a week.