That's a good attitude for a Hooker. At the end of the day, you probably made more than if you would have had a set rate. There are men who can be very generous if a Lady simply makes him feel good to be with Her.
As with all things, men who "hobby" vary in the reasons they do things. Some of us are up in years and have no desire to bang every chick on the block untill our bank account is dry. You are right, many of us want really great BCD activities with the plus of having an attractive Lady sitting accross from us at a nice restaurant, or where ever.
Since my wife passed away over 13 years ago, I have been with quite a few civilian women, as well as enough Hookers to understand the ups and downs. I am not looking for a "relationship", I am looking for companionship. Most civilians seem to be interested in relationships, with the final goal becoming the next "Mrs Jackie S". Well, that ain't going to happen. I'm too damned old, and too set in my ways.
I like the no strings attached senario that comes with compensating a Lady to be with you. That way, the lines do not get blurred, you always take it for exactly what it is, and you are free to have a good time.
I have been with the same Lady now for damned near three years. I won't be so non chalant as to say that I do not have feelings for Her, you can not be that intimate with someone that many times, (you do the math), and not develop feelings. But by always compensating Her, I am reminded that the reason she spends so much time with me is for that very reason, the compensation. She knows to NEVER offer me anything for free, and I know to never ask.