Looking for a relationship with a provider?

TGS...you haven't been here very long and your comments/feelings are...not new from a newbie client. This is a very emotional hobby...and I would suggest you hang around, hobby with several Providers for a year or so and get a TRUE understanding of what this is all about. Don't form a perspective from only reading posts here...there's absolutely NOTHING like experience. This hobby is not a 100-yard dash, it's a sexy marathon...

Good luck to you.

You all crack me up. Providers are providers by trade..not 24/7. We have hearts. I am VERY normal. I have been a great girlfriend and wife in the past and would be a great girlfriend or wife in the future, if I click with the right person. We are humans and sometimes feelings get involved, as long as both parties are honest with each other, I don't see a problem with it.

Most of you talk about providers like we are the plague or are incapable of feeling things...makes me sad. OMG....an emotion!

Pros and Cons in every thing and Bubba you nailed it!

I dated a provider for 5 months. We really clicked early and she decided to move our relationship from hobby to personal. Best 5 months of my life but it came to an end. Still not completly sure why but I think she became concerned of where we might be headed and wisly broke it off. Hurt like hell but she did the right thing.

Consider:
She still is going to be a provider. She still has to make a living. So how will you feel when she has to take time from you to have some other guy fuck her and all the rest she may do? Has to breaks a date with you at the last minute because one of her regulars wants to see her? She may get calls and texts at odd times from clients that she has to take. How is she going to feel about working instead of being w you? What if she wants to quit and be with you full time?

This is not an easy thing to do. Far from it. It had better not be about just the free sex or it will be over real fast. There are several providers I see that, when I am with them, I could swear they really do wish they could date me. But, afterwords, when they pick up that donation, I know they might actualy like me and enjoy my company but its their job to make me feel that way.

I think the major reason my relationship worked as well as it did was that SHE wanted it enough to be the one to suggest it. Originally Posted by Bubba3452

Well said...

TGS,

I think many of us have thought about the possibility. Is this a particular provider you've met that you're thinking about?

I have met a few ladies that were a lot of fun and just great to be with. One lady in particular, that I thought about wanting to spend more time with other than BCD, and like you, not for free. It was always incredible to spend time with her. She always enjoyed seeing me. I did bring the subject up once, she was receptive but hesitant. I also noticed this lady's reviewers, for the most part, all seemed to be smitten with her.

In reality, she made me and the other guys feel this way because she was one of the best in this profession. She's pretty much retired now but I have some of my best memories with her. As much as I wanted to think she had the same feelings as I did, I seriously doubt that was the case.

I think the problem with mixing the emotions with the hobby is it would be extremely difficult if not impossible to know and understand where the person's heart really is.

There are a few other ladies I am very fond of. We get along great and its fun to be with them, not only for the sex. I just try to see them as much as I can and do my best to do a little extra for them. (remember b-days, bring special gifts etc.)

When the feelings start to get deeper, its easy to lose perspective that this is a profession for these women and though they may also develop a fondness for a client, he is still a customer.

Just like in any business, some customers are much for pleasurable to do business with.

Good luck with your search

CD Originally Posted by Clouddancer

Aww Reese first that's one hot avatar We are mothers, daughters, sisters just like when you guys visit you are someones father, brother, son. I think you have to be loved, just as we are. I have respect for the ones visiting without judgement & simple respect would be the same. Why would people really think we are less capable of feelings, we bring all kinds of feelings to surface when you visit.

You all crack me up. Providers are providers by trade..not 24/7. We have hearts. I am VERY normal. I have been a great girlfriend and wife in the past and would be a great girlfriend or wife in the future, if I click with the right person. We are humans and sometimes feelings get involved, as long as both parties are honest with each other, I don't see a problem with it.

Most of you talk about providers like we are the plague or are incapable of feeling things...makes me sad. OMG....an emotion! Originally Posted by Reese Foster

I had a fairly long relationship with a provider...

I saw her several times, and just figured out that I liked who she was. Apparently the feelings were mutual, as several meetings later, while in bed during the act, she whispered in my ear that she was falling for me. We had a real long talk, and I told her I really liked her, but wasn't sure about the rest, as I just didn't know her well enough yet. She agreed and said the same about me. The appointments continued, and I decided to try a couple overnights with her. I think they were what put us into new territory.

After that we had a discussion, and decided to kill the client / provider relationship, and go boyfriend / girlfriend, and see how it worked out. This went on for about 8 months. We decided we wanted to live life a bit differently, and parted ways. I can honestly say that I love her, and believe she loved me, but don't think we would have been happy together.

I think the chances with a provider are not necessarily any better or worse than with any other person. It is a fairly rare occurance for any relationship to turn into love, and have it last... so putting a limit on providers may make your search more difficult to find the right person.

Ask yourself what it is about providers that makes you think it will work better. If it is the more liberal views regarding sex, you might also look toward other ladies who have more liberal views. Try some of the after hours sex clubs here in Dallas. I know a great many friends having good luck with some of the dating sites, but answer very honestly, and you will be more likely to meet someone with similar viewpoints. Transparency helps your chances during dating, as long as the other person actually knows and understands what it is they are looking for as well.

Good Luck!

If you like a girl and she likes you... Date her... You're obviously okay with her occupation...

Hey, have you ever considered that we may appear to hold ourselves together really well for x amount of hours but in a full blown relationship many of us have jaded views and have been "tainted" in one way or another.

We may put some bullshit aside but believe me, there's probably a whole matching set of bullshit suitcases hanging around somewhere that you just haven't seen yet.

There is a huge difference between "I have been seeing this lady and I want to see if there is a chance for more" and "I think I'm going to try to find a provider to date", And I think it's pretty clear which of the 2 is more likely to end well.

Here's some more opinionated food for thought...

I am just now settling into bed after a crazy ass day, one that had NOTHING to do with real world work or Angie/hobby land work.

My kids wanted me to be I dream of fuckin Jeannie and nothing I did for them was done without complaint from the peanut gallery.

I drove all over dfw for everything under the sun.

I have to work early in the morning and thankfully school is out so I don't have any homework to do tonight....and since I finally had no homework, I had the time to touch up my roots...(yeah boys & girls, i'll be looking even more sexy than usual this week!)

Soooo...this thread just popped into my head as I crawled my tired ass into my bed and moaned a "thank goodness I am finally in my nice, big, warm bed" moan...and thought to myself - boy, am I glad I don't have to explain to anyone at this very moment (especially someone who expects me to be some AMAZING sex goddess every time I step out of the shower or step into the bed...because they know my history as a provider...talk about pressure) that I'm absolutely too tired and irritated at the day I just had and that I sure would love to get down and dirty right now - but that would leave me all of maybe two hours of sleep to go to my real job and then go see however many clients I've got to go see tomorrow....before I come home and see if I'm up for fucking you again too.


See where the whole "Jaded and Tainted" thing can easily come into play here?

I don't believe it is intentional. When I first started doing this biz, I thought "oh, jaded? Tainted? PSHHHT! No fucking way! Not me!" But I believe this biz has it's EFFECTS on anyone and everyone it touches. Maybe not in the definition per say of a "victim" - because I would never consider myself someone like that. (Ok, maybe I have hang ups like "I must shower before fucking." Maybe one day I'll be in a relationship when I'm not in the hobby any longer and I can wake up and roll over with the morning breath and not do a bridesmaids first. But at this time - I can't.

Maybe that's why he thinks we put the bullshit aside...many of us have done what the clients want and we "cut through the bullshit, to get to the good stuff" and that's also had it's affect on how we see things?

What do I really know?....I'm a math nerd, not a shrink.

And going in a little bit of a different direction:
In the relationship he is seeking...

I could have the greatest man on the planet...I could be the most understanding girlfriend in the world and even not be a provider any longer...but I PERSONALLY believe that SOME of the expectations that are there, whether real or implied...can create such pressure and strain on the relationship...that it will ultimately destroy it.

KISS....

Keep it simple stupid.

People run across each other in various ways all the time. Bumping into each other in the store, working together, at the bar etc.... happens here too.

Choosing a provider because she is a provider? I dunno about that, its like picking someone because shes a doctor or lawyer. Like you have an idea about the profession. Lots of civilians have a firm grasp of reality, lots of providers don't... these webpages are filled with examples so its not like that is a golden rule here. Its all individual based.

Stick to the basics... you dig her, she digs you. The rest will work itself out.

There have been one or two I would consider dating, so I don't see anything wrong with that. Just don't go sampling providers in search of it because this isn't a dating site. If you happen across one though, more power to you. Just about everyone deserves to find someone that will make them happy and visa-versa. If it happens in this hobby, no biggie.

Interesting to the flip side of this.... I've heard more providers say they wouldn't date a man in the hobby than I have men who say they wouldn't date a provider. YMMV on that one.

Anyway... I am all about happiness and rewarding relationships regardless of profession etc... so wish you lots of luck.

Don't form a perspective from only reading posts here...there's absolutely NOTHING like experience. This hobby is not a 100-yard dash, it's a sexy marathon...
Good luck to you. Originally Posted by Prolongus

Thats exactly how I view the hobby. A long marathon. To Reese Foster point it is true providers have feelings and are not just sex bots. ( although some behave that way ) Reese you gotta admit dating in amongst hobbiest and provider is extremely difficult. Faced with that potential difficulty why go thru it I quiped with a fellow hobbiest dating a provider is like playing roullette. You just don't know what will happen with each spin

Angie, i will say that I tried to type up many responses yesterday and could not get it out right for anything! You hit it dead on!!

If I met the right person, her being a provider is not a detriment at all, but it is not the foundation of a relationship either.

Being a provider is what they do, not who they are. Relationships are about who, not what.

There is a huge difference between "I have been seeing this lady and I want to see if there is a chance for more" and "I think I'm going to try to find a provider to date", And I think it's pretty clear which of the 2 is more likely to end well. Originally Posted by Fort Worth Punk

Exactly.

It's always been said that you find love when you aren't looking for it. Setting sights so narrowly may well result in missing the real deal. If you and a lady here hit it off that's great, but specifically "dating" providers in order to find a girlfriend . . . well, if you have to ask if it's a good idea, it probably isn't, and you probably know it.

You all crack me up. Providers are providers by trade..not 24/7. We have hearts. I am VERY normal. I have been a great girlfriend and wife in the past and would be a great girlfriend or wife in the future, if I click with the right person. We are humans and sometimes feelings get involved, as long as both parties are honest with each other, I don't see a problem with it.

Most of you talk about providers like we are the plague or are incapable of feeling things...makes me sad. OMG....an emotion! Originally Posted by Reese Foster

another reason why i got married to Ms Foster a few years ago!!
a real person with real thoughts and real emotions and really beautiful eyes!!


[the first line above was a joke, but reese is def NO joke!!!]


seriously, it all depends!!
on what kind of "a relationship with a provider" the guy wants.
on what kind of "a relationship with a guy" the provider wants.
on all the issues that many have raised here.
on how long of a relationship you are thinking about [1 hr, 1 wk, 1 month, 1 yr, 10 yrs, til death].
and a gazillion other factors.

so, TGS - as others have suggested - i also suggest you think about what you are looking for and why you want to enter in a relationship w/ a provider or a woman or a man [if you're so inclined that way].
then think about it again.

and if you meet a provider who's ideas of a relationship closely match yours, and she wants to enter into a relationship, by all means do.

but just know, as with any relationship, there are so many variables and odds stacked against that it may not last as long as you wish. but you'll never know if you dont.

Here's some more opinionated food for thought...

.....some very insightful and real person thoughts.....

What do I really know?....I'm a math nerd, not a shrink. Originally Posted by tntangie

+1000 on what she wrote.

KISS....

Keep it simple stupid.

.....some very good thoughts about relationships....

Anyway... I am all about happiness and rewarding relationships regardless of profession etc... so wish you lots of luck. Originally Posted by TexasDave555

and +1000 on what he wrote.


here's hoping you find what/who you are looking to be with!!
seriously!