I met a submissive woman

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I just started dating this very beautiful lady who is not a provider, only seen her a couple of times no intimate contact so far. On our second date were were flirting she told she is submissive sexually and what did I think about it. I said it sounded very erotic which is true, but what I did not tell her is that I have no clue as to what to expect or is expected from me. I know that this is a question that may be too general , but if anyone cares to break down to a little more details I would appreciate it. The thing is she told she is a supervisor of 400 people as their boss she is very assertive, and appears confident. When I was kissing her goodbye the second date she took my hand to the back of her head and closed it grabbing a bunch of her and tugged on it to motion that she wanted me to pull her hair. When I did I could feel her melting in my arms. She then gave me this sexy look as she walked in her house and said see you Sunday, which is our next date. I was turned on but I am not sure what should I do or what to expect when we meet again Sunday when I am certain we are going to go way beyond a goodnight kiss, although it all seems very erotic. Originally Posted by racecardriver

go to Alt.com and register for free .... when you fill out the profile you'll find a detailed list of likes and dislikes in the lifestyle that basically cover the entire spectrum ... copy/paste the list, save it in a draft, print it out, hand it to your friend and tell her to check all the boxes that interest her ... you'll automatically know where her head is and what your limits are , if any. She/sub should appreciate the gesture, and you'll be doing yourself a time saving favor, not to mention working through the list and learning with each other should be fun.


Take her, hold her, squeeze her tight, grab her hair, pull her head back, look into her eyes, and tell her HER ASS IS YOURS.

Have fun best of luck to both of you.

You apparently don't know very much about women. Women never tell men they are submissive, never. She did cause she wanted to know how you would react. You did nothing to seduce or intice her. You just gave her some cheese ball kiss, that didn't go anywhere. When you see her Sunday, inform her that although she claims to be a submissive that you hardly have any skills in the Art of Seduction, and that most of your sexual encounters have been with Escorts. Women have Radar they can tell more about men in five minutes than men can tell about them in five months. You won't be getting her in the sack you had that chance and blew it. Sorry to have to tell ya this. Originally Posted by Mr MojoRisin

It a shame you haven't had a chance to meet a lady with this fantasy. You're obviously a kid, or just plain uninformed.. You'd know better if you had ever had a woman.. Livin on the farm restricts you opportunities I guess.

sub doesn't mean "slave" necessarily.. two different worlds.

I just realized that this thread has been revived, so I figure what the heck let me update. Yes I am still seeing this lady and things are going great. I still have a lot to learn, but trying new things is half the fun. The thing about this lady is that she does not want to tell me anything specifically that she likes, she said that as long as I am in charge she is okay. I have added many things including spanking and binding with ropes (I am happy to say that my Eagle Scout training is finally put to good use), role playing, humiliating, hair pulling, chocking, and some that I am forgetting. I am yet to find her limit.
The only potentially negative thing is that I don't know if I will ever be satisfied with vanilla sex again. So I will keep this one as long as I can, since it will be difficult to find another sub woman.

**********************caveat** ******************************
Just a few words, if someone tells you that breathplay, choking, or
Erotic asphyxiation is safe, turn away from them and run. They are full of shit!

I have been in healthcare 30+ years and bdsm,D/s for longer than that, 10 yrs in the emergency dept, I did not want to make a post like this but it is my DUTY! There are certain chemical reactions that occur doing these activites that can become IRREVERSIBLE. I have even left a martial arts class because the instrucor was teaching the sleeper hold. You could be in the ER with a crash cart beside you, all the drugs premixed, drawn up and iv's ready to go, and paddles charged and lubed and still possibly lose someone (death) just from the restriction of oxygen to the brain for just that one fraction of a second to long. This post is not just to racecardriver, it is to everyone reading this post.If I can save one life, spare one person the agony of living with the knowledge of having accidentally killed someone, then this post will have served it's purpose. And to those of you doing this and think its safe, your full of shit and you do this lifestyle a dis-service, racecardriver, if your lady insists on continued play of this type...walk the fuck away!
MA
ps. there is NO ONE who can scientifcally dispute this post with a double blind study proving me wrong, however, you can google the info I have given you that will SUBSTANTIATE the clinical portions of this post, I have kept in laymans terms as I dont want to go into ph balances,etc.,blah,blah,blah . I am not attempting to be a know-it-all, but to teach that what I know to be true
pss. fuck her brain first, the rest will follow, wefg
another good read is J.Wiseman

Easy master no one said erotic asphyxiation. I am talking about grabbing her throat with your hand applying pressure ever so lightly to give the feeling of chocking while actually not compromising her breathing in any way. I have no interest in erotic asphyxiation and would have nothing to say about it.

Sounds like you got a keeper there racecardriver! Is she submissive in just the bedroom, or in generally around you?

You apparently don't know very much about women. Women never tell men they are submissive, never. She did cause she wanted to know how you would react. You did nothing to seduce or intice her. You just gave her some cheese ball kiss, that didn't go anywhere. When you see her Sunday, inform her that although she claims to be a submissive that you hardly have any skills in the Art of Seduction, and that most of your sexual encounters have been with Escorts. Women have Radar they can tell more about men in five minutes than men can tell about them in five months. You won't be getting her in the sack you had that chance and blew it. Sorry to have to tell ya this. Originally Posted by Mr MojoRisin

Just so you know, some women will tell a man that they're naturally submissive. His topic rings true.

Why so negative? Although ... some of what you wrote is certainly true. Some women have a pretty good radar.

Warmly,
Elisabeth

I just realized that this thread has been revived, so I figure what the heck let me update. Yes I am still seeing this lady and things are going great. I still have a lot to learn, but trying new things is half the fun. The thing about this lady is that she does not want to tell me anything specifically that she likes, she said that as long as I am in charge she is okay. I have added many things including spanking and binding with ropes (I am happy to say that my Eagle Scout training is finally put to good use), role playing, humiliating, hair pulling, chocking, and some that I am forgetting. I am yet to find her limit.
The only potentially negative thing is that I don't know if I will ever be satisfied with vanilla sex again. So I will keep this one as long as I can, since it will be difficult to find another sub woman. Originally Posted by racecardriver

This is becoming just a fantastic topic ... and a great story as well!

Thank you!

Sincerely,
Elisabeth