Advice for a VERY naive hobbyist

I feel like the more established (safer) providers are the ones requiring screening, so it's a catch 22? I agree that leaving a trail is never a good situation, especially if things do turn south with the Mrs. and you've been UTR. The dilemna...

I don't see that anybody has suggested a hobby email, so let me also do that. You should definitely do everything you can to remove the fear that you are leaving traces. As far as AMP's, I started by going to Hawaii and Smile and settled on Smile - more convenient and it suits me better. There has been discussion recently about taking care not to leave valuables in your car, so be cautious - read the alert thread about this, which has suggestions. I have found the AMPs to be very anonymous and safe, feeling. 7th Heaven is more isolated an out of the way, so it is another good option. Good indies are the best in terms of value and gfe, though, so try them as soon as you can. You will probably feel safer with ladies who have apartments than at hotels, if you are nervous about public places. You will be surprised at how many nice people you meet.

Thanks again for all of the input - I had a blast at SMILE last night. Check out the review here. Loads of fun and no pressure. AMP ftw!

I don't want to be the one to say it, but when you're wife says it's ok....it's really not. In other words....



Be VERY careful if you choose to go to a provider. I think your plan of visiting an AMP is a very good decision. If you happen to get a happy-ending or something more (I recommend Smile), so be it. At least you went in with the intent of getting a massage - at least that's what you tell the divorce lawyer.

I don't want to be negative, just want to make sure you stay married and protect your relationship while being able to get your release or two. Originally Posted by tman800

+1 on this,
I had this happen in relation to swinging,
She was down with it, it was Ok, She was excited, ect, ect...

Then after it was over all hell broke lose,
Women just don't know what they want, it changes with the hormones.
Don't admit to anything, no matter what, EVER!!!!

Do your homework. Research the boards. There is wealth of info.

Thanks again for all of the input - I had a blast at SMILE last night. Check out the review here. Loads of fun and no pressure. AMP ftw! Originally Posted by vnk

vnk, glad you had a deliteful time at smile. if and when you decide to move up your scale, take heed of advice being proffered here ... take your time, research, use p411 [you could still have a less than positive time, but chances are y ou wont get ripped of or baited-n-switched], and breath deep before hand.

oh, and watch your budget. this can be a very expensive hobby!!!

regarding p411, I wish that there was some level of a ratings system on the providers. Even multiple choice: Did not answer phone, did not answer email, phone# incorrect, provider is on vacation in a different state, etc would help save time.

Dude just take your time....I would avoid BP until you get more familiar with the hobby.........