igoforit ...... don't fall for it.

THN - sorry to hear your night went astray . Appreciation for ones time goes along way....as it does in my bizz as well. Diff opinions from diff people . Better days and nights ahead - Peace . Originally Posted by scooter61

u bet ur sweet ass there are. speaking of.....a scooter ride sounds like a great way to kick the week off.

See Mya ?? We even agree on this. What will this world come to?? Originally Posted by Texasquest

hehe i know right,

That sucks. Some guys just aren't considerate of a lady's time. Thank you for the heads up. Originally Posted by sweet.treat69

I promise sweet.treat69 that when I get around to making my first appt. with you, I will leave the day before in case my car breaks down and I have to crawl to your incall.

sorry you drove all the way over there for nothing.

but...

"had me go to Arlington at 2am for a no show."

while i agree wholeheartedly agree & support that you let your sisters know he no-showed you....

so, who made the decision for you to go to arlington at 2am??

that's on you and not on him. Originally Posted by pmdelites

Dude, are you shittin' me !! She was courteous and professional to schedule an appt. with him and HE screwed her!! I don't care what time of day or night it was, HE SOUGHT HER SERVICES RETARD...If the shoe was on the other foot and you, pmdelites, got NCNS'd by the provider, I DOUBT you would be kickin' yourself in the ass saying "Oh, it's my dumbass fault for trying to see someone at 2 a.m. in the morning!!"...Read the book or watch the old movie 'To Kill A Mockingbird', and learn to walk in the other person's shoes...(still scratching' my f'n head with this logic...where's Dr. Phil when I need him?)...Seriously ?????

This guy is a joke!

holy fucking stromboli......

please re-read what i posted.

sorry you drove all the way over there for nothing. (emphasis just now added -pmd)

but...

"had me go to Arlington at 2am for a no show."

while i agree wholeheartedly agree & support that you let your sisters know he no-showed you....

so, who made the decision for you to go to arlington at 2am??

that's on you and not on him. Originally Posted by pmdelites

where in THN's first post [included below] do any of you read that she and he agreed upon an appt?

title: igoforit ...... don't fall for it.
had me go to Arlington at 2am for a no show. Originally Posted by that hot nurse

WHERE does she post anything about the appt???
sure, one could infer it, but it wasnt there. that's what i was commenting on.

I agreed and supported her choice to let folks know of his no-showing her [assuming she had an appt and he no-showed her].
but my post/comment was on responsibility for one's actions, nothing more, nothing less.

as best we can tell or surmise [since none of us were there when all this purportedly went down] ...
she chose to make the appt [maybe, since info is lacking].
she screened him according to her policy.
she decided to drive to arlington.
she decided to do all this for an early morning appt.

he was no where to be found when she got there.


if the shoe were on the other foot, and I ...
... chose to make an appt with a woman over email or phone
... based my choic on some information i read or heard about the woman
... decided to drive 30-45 mins to go to the woman's incall and
... decided to do all this for a 2am appt [or anytime of day]

and she was no where to be found when i got there,

then yes, i'd say that woman no-showed me.
BUT I MADE all those choices.
and i would take [and have taken] responsibility for those choices.
and would hope [but not expect] that the woman took responsibility for her choices.

if they get no-showed it's their own damn fault for driving there? That's beyond retarded.

It doesn't matter what time the appointment is. If they both agreed to an appointment, then both parties should hold up their end. She held up her end, and he screwed her over. How is that "on her"? Originally Posted by still-asleep

notice i NEVER said anything about fault.
and notice i NEVER said it was her "fault" for driving there. just that she made the choice to do so.

Wow this is a Classic Keyboard Warrior mentality. There is an agreement made between 2 adults. One lives up to her end of the bargain and the guy NCNS's. And it's "on her". Get real dude. You must if gotten some kind of merit badge from the KB clan for such a ludicrous post. For you to defend this guy,s NCNS makes one wonder how good your word really is. For if you think this is acceptable behavior then I would thinkosy here wouldn't want to trust anything you have to say. Not that it matters but I won't consider anything you have to say as being viable. Originally Posted by Texasquest

i am real. when you re-read my post, you'll see i didnt defend the guy's no-show nor posted that ncns is an acceptable behavior.
where did you see that??
think what you want.

...
Dude, are you shittin' me !! She was courteous and professional to schedule an appt. with him and HE screwed her!! I don't care what time of day or night it was, HE SOUGHT HER SERVICES RETARD...If the shoe was on the other foot and you, pmdelites, got NCNS'd by the provider, I DOUBT you would be kickin' yourself in the ass saying "Oh, it's my dumbass fault for trying to see someone at 2 a.m. in the morning!!"...Read the book or watch the old movie 'To Kill A Mockingbird', and learn to walk in the other person's shoes...(still scratching' my f'n head with this logic...where's Dr. Phil when I need him?)...Seriously ????? Originally Posted by ManSlut

yes, seriously!!! :^)
notice up above where i wrote that i would and have taken my lumps for making the wrong choices when attempting an encounter. again, it's not about fault, it's about responsibility for one's actions.

and, where did you three guys read that "they both agreed to an appointment" / "an agreement made between 2 adults" / "She was courteous and professional to schedule an appt. with him"?????

sweet.treat69 posted...
Sure, it's her OWN doing and driving that got her to his place but it is NOT her fault that she got NCNS'd. That's the GUY'S fault for standing her up.

it was her choice for doing and driving.
it was his choice for not showing up.

and i support THN letting others know. but a bit more background would have helped make this clearer.

that hot nurse posted...
hopefully the next girl will at least have the info. never know what a person's pattern is unless we mention stuff like this.

i will leave comments about other aspects of this encounter to others.

I really think you're looking at this alert and not understanding the whole point.
Is it the provider's fault if she gets contacted for a late outcall, takes time to get ready, drives to his place (and again, at 2 am mind you) but then doesn't hear from him again and gets stood up? I don't think so.

Unless there were issues beforehand or any kind of unpleasant exchange that she didn't discuss then perhaps we can go back and forth some more regarding who's to blame.

But regardless of what time it is, whether its an incall or outcall, or whether he was the one to initially contact her, it's all irrelevant.

Her alert was to warn ladies of a time waster. And she did that without being rude, catty, obnoxious, or malicious. I think some of these guys need to back off. You're making an issue out of nothing. Picking apart an alert for what reason?

The same way a guy can post about a NCNS and gripe about he got stood up after driving all the way to an appt, don't we have the right to inform other ladies of a potential problem client? Just imagine the shoe being on the other foot. This is how some of us make a living therefore sometimes we will do things at certain hours that we're not thrilled about.. But we're here to service you guys and show you a good time, right? A hundred things could have went wrong at such a late hour so luckily all that happened WAS a no show.


But again THN I'm glad you're okay and thanks again!

All this nit picking crap really takes the fun out of the hobby sometimes....

I mean, she wrote what happened and then someone comes on here and starts nit picking. He gets called out for it and he starts nit picking some more.

Heysus, people, we are NOT married for GOODNESS sakes. Why can we just f**K and have fun?

All this nit picking crap really takes the fun out of the hobby sometimes.... Originally Posted by Kayleehotchick

I totally agree!

sweet.treat, that hot nurse, and others,

i too, am very glad that nothing bad happened to that hot nurse, other than her spending all that time driving to/from arlington.
and i am glad that she has informed others about the actions of the guy.
[as in this thread http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=613235 ]


my whole point [ok, i was nitpicking.] was about responsibility of decisions.
it was HIS decision to schedule something and not show up.
and it was HER decision in accepting the appt and driving there. period.
i didnt say anything about fault or anything else. cos that's a whole other nitpicking discussion.

Is it the provider's fault if she gets contacted for a late outcall, takes time to get ready, drives to his place (and again, at 2 am mind you) but then doesn't hear from him again and gets stood up? I don't think so.
==>pmd: again, not an issue of fault. it's my nitpicking of who chose to do what. period.

Unless there were issues beforehand or any kind of unpleasant exchange that she didn't discuss then perhaps we can go back and forth some more regarding who's to blame.
==>pmd: again, not even going into nitpick about blame. cos that's a whole other nitpicking discussion.

But regardless of what time it is, whether its an incall or outcall, or whether he was the one to initially contact her, it's all irrelevant.
==>pmd: agreed. no nitpicking needed there.

Her alert was to warn ladies of a time waster. And she did that without being rude, catty, obnoxious, or malicious. I think some of these guys need to back off. You're making an issue out of nothing. Picking apart an alert for what reason?
==>pmd: a suggestive nitpick - if it were just for the women, perhaps she could have posted the info in the woman's only forums and posted a "hey girls, go check out my post over there" in here.

The same way a guy can post about a NCNS and gripe about he got stood up after driving all the way to an appt, don't we have the right to inform other ladies of a potential problem client? Just imagine the shoe being on the other foot. This is how some of us make a living therefore sometimes we will do things at certain hours that we're not thrilled about.. But we're here to service you guys and show you a good time, right? A hundred things could have went wrong at such a late hour so luckily all that happened WAS a no show.
==>pmd: agree and support her and other women telling others about their experience, good or not so good.
cos this sub-culture is all about risk management.
however, if any of you women decide that you'll "do things at certain hours that you're not thrilled about.", then that's your decision and choice.
same for me - if i chose to go see a woman and wind up getting no-showed, harassed, robbed, or beaten up, then it was my choice for being there and i must bear some responsibility for that. Originally Posted by sweet.treat69

ultimately, unless we are being coerced or forced, we make our own decisions about what we do in our life, hobby or real.
let's own up to our decisions is all i'm saying.

Kayleehotchick, "Why can we just f**K and have fun?"
yep, having safe, deliteful, fun, intimate encounters is my goal!!

my whole point [ok, i was nitpicking.] Originally Posted by pmdelites

I don't think there really was a point. So yeah, everybody tell THN what an ass igoforit is and just shut up and get laid today!! Happy Monday!!

What she (ST69) said!

Dude was a douche/lady let everybody know/WTF else is there to say?

Startin' to sound like a bad day for Wally and the Beav in here....

Sometimes it's just best to say "My bad" and quit responding so as to leave more room to admire the backsides of ST, THN and Kaylee's bewbs.

PM. Are you serious?? You get your BS thrown back at you in spades and then try to do damage control by trying to pick the Fly shit out of the pepper. Get over it your KBW Status is still good. I'm sure you got your badge. So dOnt fret. I'm just glad most everyone sees you for what you are. Maybe you should of thought of that before you hit the send button the first time. What was that saying about open your mouth and remove all doubt??

Well, intentional or not, PMDelights' comments pretty much implied that it was THN's fault for driving there at 2 AM. I read his explanation as to why what he said didn't mean what we read and still don't see his distinction.

THN, thank you for taking one for the team. Ladies like yourself that take that 2 AM risk of a ncns and go anyway are just plain awesome. Definitely not your fault he was a douche, and sorry some people on this board feel the need to pick apart every sentence and try to play amateur sluth when it's neither needed or wanted.

Happy fucking Monday, or happy Monday fucking, all.

Chew

i hereby publicly accept responsibility and apologize for my lengthy comments on thatHotNurse's situation.
i should have just asked about the background of the situation before running off at the keyboard.

maxima mea culpa.