It is not the clients place to mentor any of these women. For any reason.
You want to help her out? Send her to this site, to P411, to places where women can answer questions and give advice.
It is both dangerous and skeezy to try to shape some girl you found on BP. There is no valid argument. If you genuinely want her to do well, send her to women. Otherwise you are just trying to manipulate her into doing things she doesn't want to do so that you can get bargain basement prices on gfe/pse/etc.
Originally Posted by Lovely_Lilianna
That is exactly what I meant by mentoring. Over the past year, I have pointed 3 or 4 newbie providers to this site along with P411. I've strongly suggested that they contact providers and ask for advice.
Wrong on so many levels. No good can come of a client pressing the issue of a provider's services. No means no, regardless of the service, regardless of whether it's in the hobby or in civilian life. You want her to resent you? You want to frighten her? You want her to capitulate only to do something she doesn't want to do, isn't enjoying, and that you probably won't enjoy either? Because these are the likely results of pressing a provider whose services don't meet your desires. Show some respect for the lady, regardless of what she does or why she doesn't do it. Never press the issue with a provider. Bad form.
Originally Posted by Poet Laureate
I totally disagree when it comes to new providers. They don't know any better. They don't know their own earning potential if they have a limited menu and no concept of what the customer/client wants. Remember, this is a service oriented business. Better service results in repeat customers and word of mouth buzz. If all a girl does is just spread her legs with nothing else, then she's obviously missing the boat. I'm not saying clients should demand or threaten. It is more like suggest and educate. One approach maybe to say you'd be willing to give her "tip" if she offered a service that wasn't on the menu. There are ways of letting her see the whole side of the hobby instead of the limited; spread your legs view that many newbie providers have when they start.