How dose a Provider Hobby without her Heart?

Thank-You beezdat:


I'm in agreement with you completely...its fairly simple to bring Physical-Satisfaction to a Gentleman, however it is HIS desire to hold your hand in Public that is the accolade I desire (Dinner/Overnights). I to regard the 'SD/SB Relationship' to be a much more satisfying union...I've spent a significant amount of time in that World and very little in this, as you know the learning curb is a bit uncomfortable. I believe that is the regret I've been experiencing over my 'New Years Eve' incident...my World was going back to what I knew better.

Well, I didn't actually mean that 'I' was a pimp. HAHA (that'll be the day) what I meant was a pimp could be one answer the the question you submitted.

And on a side note, EVA!! that post impressed the hell out of me. I'm keeping my eye on you babe.

Thank-You B.Wayne:


I appreciate your Post...I'm not sure your understanding the perceptive of conversation, the Thread is a discussion on 'Healer-Providers'...which would be COMPLETE opposition of a weak Shadow-Woman who would tolerate the abuses of a Pimp. Ms.Eva, Brownsugarbaby, Nicolet, and especially Ms.Jameson:
...“Now you understand...just why my head is not bowed.
I don't shout or jump about...or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing...It ought to make you Proud.
I say,
It's in the click of my heels...the bend of my hair.
the palm of my hand...the need of my care.
'Cause I'm a WOMAN...
Phenomenally
Phenomenal WOMAN
That is ME”
Maya Angelou
I know in my Soul there are more of us that have chosen this particular Niche to practice OUR Sexual-Healing, again I can't begin to express my gratitude for these PHENOMENAL WOMAN.

And on a side note, EVA!! that post impressed the hell out of me. I'm keeping my eye on you babe. Originally Posted by B.Wayne

Thank you , Darling, and thank you Ninotsugi. This is truly a great and refreshing thread. What separates (in my opinion) a courtesan from a escort or provider lies in her beauty and passion radiating from the inside rather from her appearance. A beautiful soul is rare. She is more concerned about eluding kindness and integrity more so than mere raunchy sex (appeal).

Thank-You Ms.Eva Damita:


Your compliment is Heartfelt and appreciated Beautiful-Spirit...unfortunately our broken World contains far to many Painted-Shells, my Intention is to ALWAYS enlighten especially in dark recesses. Although, I would likely blush a deep red if permitted to read 'The Rest of The Story' on my Reviews.
“A whore may be naked, but a Courtesan is nude. We are talking class!” James J Kilpatrick
I look upon the obligation of a Courtesan as that of a Marital-Aide rather than 'Home Wrecker', meaning that I and I'm sure you would agree that...the desire is to let them drink from a cup that is overflowing. Sending them on there way stronger more centered...able to personify the definition of what we know as 'Real MEN'.
I would Love for our Hobbyist to chide in...what keeps you coming back?

Thank-You Ms.Eva Damita:


Your compliment is Heartfelt and appreciated Beautiful-Spirit...unfortunately our broken World contains far to many Painted-Shells, my Intention is to ALWAYS enlighten especially in dark recesses. Although, I would likely blush a deep red if permitted to read 'The Rest of The Story' on my Reviews.
“A whore may be naked, but a Courtesan is nude. We are talking class!” James J Kilpatrick
I look upon the obligation of a Courtesan as that of a Marital-Aide rather than 'Home Wrecker', meaning that I and I'm sure you would agree that...the desire is to let them drink from a cup that is overflowing. Sending them on there way stronger more centered...able to personify the definition of what we know as 'Real MEN'.
I would Love for our Hobbyist to chide in...what keeps you coming back? Originally Posted by Ninotsugi

First, a little background. I originally met my lady as a client/provider, but we fairly quickly evolved into a SB/SD type relationship. Now, why do I spend my time and money with her exclusively? Yes, her BCD skills are wonderful, but that is not why. We spend, perhaps, 20% of our time together in the bedroom. What captivates me about her are her other qualities.

She is extremely intelligent. We see each other an average of twice a week and speak on the phone almost every day and it seems that we never run out of things to talk about. We talk about her life, my life, politics, religion, psychology and other topics. We sometimes have two hour phone conversations. She is kind, caring and generous. During the holiday season, when we were out together, every time we encountered a Salvation Army bellringer, she would always stop and put some money into the kettle. She is, above all else, always a lady. We go out together to fine dining establishments, the theatre and the symphony and I am always bursting with pride at the lady on my arm. She is a wonderful mother to her daughter, always putting the little girl first in her life. She has a fantastic sense of humor and can always put a smile on my face, even when I'm a little down. She is, in the truest sense of the word, a companion. She is my friend, my confidant and my lover.

Of course, as a guy, I always enjoy our BCD time; but it is incredibly enhanced by her many other qualities. I would wager to say that for most guys, it's something other than just bedroom skills that make a lady an ATF. Sex is always better when there is a real, human connection involved. I was just very lucky to find such an incredible lady.

Thank-You Stimulatethemind and Nasty2ude:


Stimulatethemind: (SB/SD experience)Your truly the definition of Gallantry please tell me you have a Brother that resides in MS, your Guinevere is indeed a fortunate Lady. It will never cease to amaze me how Inner-Beauty from a Woman completes a Man, your 'Arrangement' is one built out of mutual respect...perhaps that is why I feel such sorrow for the events on New Years Eve.
Nasty2ude: (AMP experience) I think your kind not Nasty at all, that was a thoughtful PM and I don't mind old Sailors at all my Father is one. Your 1st Business and 2nd Friends approach is irrefutable, he did keep repeating 'use this experience to LEARN by'...didn't make it hurt less.
“...Reality is not fair.
Reality does not care.
Reality keeps me in a state of mind
That I know it has complete control
But sometimes my dreams overtake reality I find
And love lives for a while in my heart and soul.”
by Margaret
So Lady's whats your perspective on the scenario...how many of us secretly desire an SB/SD Arrangement, would it be a difficult surrendering your freedom for the security of this situation.

Ninotsugi, thank you for the kind words. Unfortunately, I do not have a brother, let alone one who lives in MS.

You are, obviously, an intelligent and sensitive lady. I loved your comment about how the inner beauty of a woman completes a man. This is so true. Also, your insight that my relationship is one built on mutual respect. I believe that any good relationship is rooted in honesty, trust, respect and a sincere desire to make each others lives better. My lady is a strikingly beautiful woman, but what I most admire about her is that she is even more beautiful on the inside.

I do, however, mildly disagree with your question to the ladies about their desire for a SD/SB type relationship and having to give up their freedom. One does not necessarily correlate to the other. In my situation, my lady has another arrangement in addition to ours. I do not own her, nor attempt to control her in any way. Both myself and the other gentleman are completely aware of each other. In fact, due to my schedule being very much more open and flexible than his, I have, on a few occasions, rearranged a date with her to accomodate his more stringent schedule. I am not, by nature, a jealous person, so none of this is a problem. Yes, the monthly allowance I provide to her does give her a measure of financial security, but it does not allow me to own her in any way. We see each other approximately seven or eight times per month and my only desire is that our time together is always interesting, intimate and fun. Our BCD time is always wonderful, but we share many more intimacies than just sex. Neither of us has any interest in living together, marriage or any other type of "permanent" relationship; therefore, what she chooses to do with her time when we are not together is her business. My only concern has ever been that the other gentleman treats her like the lady that she is; and he does. Freedom is a wonderful thing!

Lastly, please do not continue to beat yourself up about the events of New Years Eve. We are all human and we all make mistakes. Sometimes, our worst mistakes are when we hurt another human being by our words or actions. I'm not saying that you should forget it, but just to understand that it was a mistake and learn from it, apologize, and move on. You seem to be a caring, sensitive lady and I'm sure that you will find what it is that you are seeking in your life. Keep your chin up and take care of you. Best of luck!!!

Thank-You Stimulatethemind:


It saddens me to discover your Parents only made one copy of you, our disagreement only makes for a lively repartee...being a 'Bit Bookish' its a favorite pastime for me. I was Married the majority of my Life and upon my Divorce eventually entered a SD/SB Arrangement, the Hobby as it were is a fairly new experience for me...my learning curbs painfully slow at times. Learning the Etiquette is as difficult as the Vocabulary.
If you want to be respected, you must respect yourself.
Spanish Proverb
Your Arrangement is truly one in a million, a Testimony that when OUR Intentions are pure and we keep desires for the betterment of others in the forefront...situations do radiate Positive-Energy. I'm a driven individual missing the marks infrequently done by me, I shall go on from my 'New Years Eve Fiasco' my Thread has Empowered ME.

How do providers hobby without their heart? I would say it is on the same line as men who can't think with their d*ck and brain at the same time....one seems to cancel out the other once you set boundaries. For me, it is rather easy. I am not into casual sex or open relationships outside of the hobby, nor would I ever date a married man who once paid to fk me. The money, is what keeps things in perspective for me.

My "heart" has nothing to do with sex here, and never will. My heart may form a friendship with some of the men I see, but that's as far as it goes.

I am selling jokes and blowjobs, not my heart and soul. There has been a rise in "I fell for a provider" threads, so it is obvious, some of the men are the one using too much of their heart lately. I blame GFE lol.

Back in the day it was one shot, bj, sex, and out the door. No one got things confused. Now, guys not only want kissing, daty, talking, and eye gazing but many actually expect you to make them feel as if you love them as well. Meh.

I prefer developing a relationship with a provider I like. BCD can be fun with anyone, but the enjoyment of the experience is greatly enhanced with repeat encounters with a soulmate.

Now, hookers are your "Soulmates?" OMG....cue the music here. Honey, this is NOT reality, regardless of how much you think you might have invested. Stop paying your "soulmate" and see how long she sticks around. That's always the best way to bring reality back. Using the word "soulmate" in P4P, is about as deluded as using the word "love" here. Then again, I guess some are looking for love in a financial agreement.

Now, hookers are your "Soulmates?" OMG....cue the music here. Honey, this is NOT reality, regardless of how much you think you might have invested. Stop paying your "soulmate" and see how long she sticks around. That's always the best way to bring reality back. Using the word "soulmate" in P4P, is about as deluded as using the word "love" here. Then again, I guess some are looking for love in a financial agreement. Originally Posted by London Rayne

This must be kick a fella in the ding ding day.

Let the guy have his fantasy, WALDT. It's all about fantasies right?