That right there has been my struggle...just letting go and clearing my head. I'll be just fine for a while but then out of nowhere something will sneak in and unexplainably suggest itself...and BAM, can't finish. I've actually gotten to the point where before any bcd activities take place I warn the provider and assure them that it's not their fault, because really it isn't. I don't need a provider developing a complex because of me.
Originally Posted by rc83
I, too, have run into this problem recently and have worried about it some. Just this week, though, I saw a wonderful lady who made sure it was a fantastic experience for both of us even though I didn't finish. All the kissing, licking, and caressing made up for my lack of an orgasm and we both agreed that it's all about the joy of a shared experience. I really appreciate those ladies who like the more sensual aspects of our time together.