why check references when providers will get mad!!!

When I first started out hobbying it took me about a year to get things going. The only ladies we had here were traveling ladies. I must have read "etiquette, rules, and Dos and Don'ts" for a year before I had my first date. I joined P411 and caught up with a touring lady here in town who was newbie friendly. She gave me an OK on P411. My next step was to visit a lady who required references. She selected my "OK" lady for reference. My "OK" lady actually ran me off of a couple of ladies I planned to see telling me they were on dr%*s and had a p$#p. Being basically still a rookie I believed her till she told me I just needed to stick with her, first red flag. Then I found out she wouldn't give me a reference, second red flag, so I have not seen her since. She thought very highly of herself when we met, basically GPS, and being a rookie didn't know about GPS so I gave the requested donation. As I got some experience under my belt I realized how she was, I didn't just move her to the bottom of my list I totally removed her from my list. Since then she has stopped me from seeing one other lady by convincing her to have a GPS attitude with me. So I made myself a promise I will NEVER see this provider again. She could have had a regular, for the most part, if she had treated me with the respect I extended to her. I will never dicker over a donation, that's insulting to the lady, but if she bumps the donation on me as compared to other clients for the same service I will look else where. What makes it hard to look else where is when a provider won't give you a reference and all your area get is touring ladies that want references. Once I figured out how to over come the problem she caused me by not being willing to give me a reference I traveled many many miles to get references from newbie friendly ladies who figured they would never see me again anyway so they were happy to give me a reference. Thank you to all the newbie friendly ladies that help newbies get a start in hobby world, my hat is off to you.
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YEAH!!!!!!! I'm under sexy Sarahlynn, dang sweet place to be. Originally Posted by horserider

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My grandpa once gave me this advice, "You can love one all the time or you can love them all one at a time." Pretty sage advice. Unless of course I love them 2 or 3 at a time which I plan to do! Also going to see if I can someday work out a dogpile on me from a number of these Arkansas gems on here!

Quick questions from the newb:

At what point does a hobbyist basically have a green light from any provider. I know on P411 I see Basic+1 or Basic+2. Are these the standard or will additional references be needed for some.

What is a provider looking for from another provider? That the hobbyist isn't LE? That they aren't an asshole? Or all of the above?

Quick questions from the newb:

At what point does a hobbyist basically have a green light from any provider. I know on P411 I see Basic+1 or Basic+2. Are these the standard or will additional references be needed for some.

What is a provider looking for from another provider? That the hobbyist isn't LE? That they aren't an asshole? Or all of the above? Originally Posted by ar2for2

Different ladies have different requirements as far as the number of different providers that they will require vouch for you, or "ok's." (preferred411)

Of course we all want to know if you're LE or an asshole, Lol. But a good provider will also screen to find out your personal likes & dislikes, and whether or not she thinks the two of you will be compatible.

Different ladies have different requirements as far as the number of different providers that they will require vouch for you, or "ok's." (preferred411)

Of course we all want to know if you're LE or an asshole, Lol. But a good provider will also screen to find out your personal likes & dislikes, and whether or not she thinks the two of you will be compatible. Originally Posted by Ginger Doll

I would have never thought of that. Not to sound like a jerk, but I assumed if they were not LE, an asshole, or smell funky and they have the donation, then any provider and hobbyist were "compatible".

You know what they say about assuming.

You know I'm just teasing.

PS. Smelling funky is never a good thing. Soap is cheap.

You know what they say about assuming. Originally Posted by Ginger Doll

Dammit, haven't even seen one lady yet and I'm already an asshole!!

Quick questions from the newb:

At what point does a hobbyist basically have a green light from any provider. Originally Posted by ar2for2

Should be never.

What is a provider looking for from another provider? That the hobbyist isn't LE? That they aren't an asshole? Or all of the above? Originally Posted by ar2for2

Yes, that's minimum. Some kind of physical, attitude, hygiene etc maybe.

Here's one I just sent:

"Yes, I have seen <redacted> a number of times. He's always prompt, courteous, clean and no hassle. He has occasionally had to push times around, but always with plenty of notice. Nice guy, great personality.

He's mid 50's, 6'1" or so, ht/wt proportionate,<redacted> always has his reading glasses hanging out of his shirt, always business/business casual, LOVES strawberries/strawberry syrup. Have fun!"

I don't have the time right now to read all but sweetie WELCOME TO THE LAND OF HOOKERS!!!

Their is some really good ladies in the biz and then we have the money hungry bitches that think by not giving references they are gonna get the biz when in the long wrong THEY LOSE!!

BUT THEY ARE TOOO BLIND TO SEE IT!!

Its not only in ARKANSAS I travel the Nation and ITS EVERYWHERE!!

Some bitches are just that money hungry bitches others are taught by their pimps to not cooperate with anyone OUTSIDE THE STABLE!!

NOT BEING RUDE LOVELY YOU KNOW I ALWAYS GOT YOUR BACK!!!

Just don't be IN YOUR FEELINGS OVER A LAME THIRSTY HOE!!!

Sarah -- Can I ask which provider it is that's refusing to give you references?

If you don't want to say, that's ok. Just curious. Originally Posted by Ginger Doll

I'M PRETTY SURE WE KNOW!!!

Im over it! u live and learn a lot everyday! thanks syd

Sarah -- Can I ask which provider it is that's refusing to give you references?

If you don't want to say, that's ok. Just curious. Originally Posted by Ginger Doll

I'M PRETTY SURE WE KNOW!!! Originally Posted by Sydney Pure

A rhetorical question, maybe?

I've actually had a couple providers not get back w me on references on more than one occasion. I don't understand it either. To me, there's enough horny men in the world to keep the providers busy, so why try to hord any for yourself. Or get jealous bc he wants to see someone else; if he didn't want stranger, he wouldn't be doing this! (I know there's other reasons hoobiest are here but...) I try to move around so anyone that would like to can enjoy some Monica time can!! )))

I've actually had a couple providers not get back w me on references on more than one occasion. I don't understand it either. To me, there's enough horny men in the world to keep the providers busy, so why try to hord any for yourself. Or get jealous bc he wants to see someone else; if he didn't want stranger, he wouldn't be doing this! (I know there's other reasons hoobiest are here but...) I try to move around so anyone that would like to can enjoy some Monica time can!! ))) Originally Posted by MonicaKitten

Well Said!!

I'M PRETTY SURE WE KNOW!!! Originally Posted by Sydney Pure

Oh for fucks sake why beat around the bush about it.. Just say it is the chick who stile the cash from Gingers car and be done with it already...

I mean for the love of god.. I'm not from Arkansas and figured it out..