Do providers have ATF's?

SweetTreat... what's your favorite food someone can bring for lunch?

If you're fun to be around you, have to potential to be anyone's ATF. It's not just the hobby, that goes for friends, family, co-workers. If a provider introduces you to her friends and family, hangs with you just to hang out, and fucks for free, you can probably consider yourself an ATF. The downside is that when the flame dies out, you lose access to a good provider and she potentially loses a client.

Of course providers have an ATF: Me.

Do the ladies have ATFs? Sure. But it's likely a relatively low percentage unless they define it so broadly (for marketing purposes) as to make it virtually meaningless. If you see a lot of ladies, particularly multiple times, and are not a complete asshole, there's a decent chance you are an ATF, at least for one or two ladies. Even I may have been. God bless the law of averages applied to large numbers.

And one significant factor (necessary but far from sufficient) in being a lady's ATF is to not obsess over whether you personally are one of their ATFs. That way lies madness, or at a minimum, being needy/clingy or a stalker. The ladies tend to find that unattractive. So if you find yourself wondering, or hoping, or over-optimistically interpreting her comments/behavior, or wishing she would review you to demonstrate your ATF-ness to the world -- seek immediate assistance or an intervention. Originally Posted by Chevalier

Very wise post. I sometimes find the line to differentiate between being an ATF or a sucker to be very thin. This is more my fault than the girl. She may like me and enjoy my company, treat me well, and give me everything I want out of the time together. When she has financial problems, I help her out. Most genuinely need the help and appreciate it. Most of the time I'm glad to help. A few have probably taken advantage of me, suckered me, but they needed the money anyway, so I consider it a good deed.
Deep in my DNA lies the desire to get something out of every transaction, though. Such thoughts lead to a small sliver of doubt, a questioning. The girl may be innocent of wrongful intent, but I lose trust. Am I really that special to her? Reality check, I'm old and fat, she is young and pretty. What am I - a kind family friend, albeit one who has sex with her?
Ultimately, you are as sure about being an ATF as you can be sure about her having an orgasm. Make sure that the overall experience is worth it to you, treat her kindly, and enjoy the experience. Her treating you like you are an ATF, and her apparently having orgasms, means at least she wants you to stick around.

Can I assume the ones that offer me BBFS (no extra charge) consider me their favorite? Originally Posted by LickHer

Maybe...or maybe they just want to infect you.

Originally Posted by LickHer
Can I assume the ones that offer me BBFS (no extra charge) consider me their favorite?

Or keep you from seeing any other girls....

Of course providers have an ATF: Me. Originally Posted by luiz7667

Luiz, I thought we had established that you were ATL, all time lapdog

Just kidding, love your style! You know how to treat the ladies and they love you for it.

Originally Posted by LickHer
Can I assume the ones that offer me BBFS (no extra charge) consider me their favorite?

Or keep you from seeing any other girls.... Originally Posted by nosweat

Your post makes absolutely no sense...

Luiz, I thought we had established that you were ATL, all time lapdog

Just kidding, love your style! You know how to treat the ladies and they love you for it. Originally Posted by Meerschaum

And a lapdog is always a favorite. You should see the first entity that gets greeted at my home when the SO arrives home.... always our small dog.

SweetTreat... what's your favorite food someone can bring for lunch? Originally Posted by Little Caesar

I would bet it is weisswurst

I'm 100% with Jewish Lawyer, it is irrelevant to me since living in a fantasy has served me very well for over 40 years. Later in life your perspective is quite different, and is only more understanding if you have had to struggle more than the Ozzie and Harriet world. And finding a woman with the same sexual cravings is so subterranean, I have no doubt the possibility exists. Or like the Zen koan "Do I dream the butterfly or is the butterfly dreaming me?" Dream on, dream on.

I have an ATF...I just wish he would visit me more often. He is so sexy!

I will never be mistaken for an ATF.

I am more of a WTF.

Just saw one of my atf today and he brought me kfc extra crispy. He knows how too be my atf for sure. Originally Posted by Tara Evans

Speaking of that Tara... Chick-Fil-A and sweet tea...always works for ATF status with me Originally Posted by Reese Foster

Note to self; don't bring provider MRE's left over from last trip....