The good, bad and ugly, huh?
A couple of years back, I had a guy knock on my door that could have been Billy Bob Thorton's twin after being in a "Bad Santa" scene. He showed up with a huge bottle of "Honey"
, www.americanhoney.com, and looking like he was going to fall over.
I told him that he was making me nervous and it looked like he had been up for a few days partying. He had. With strippers. Three days. Now, me. Oh joy.
After he finished dancing in his g-strong that had a hole in it for his cock, he tried to kiss me. My lips went numb. And then I had a problem to deal with.
In the end, he was alright. But whenever I decide to watch "Bad Santa", I kindof get grossed out.
Good? Oh, there have been so many. Usually, the good is when a man is gracious, can walk pretty good and can also speak in complete sentences. Sometimes, they'll bring a wee gift and often, not. That doesn't matter but it does add something to the time together.
I also appreciate an interesting twist to their personalities, as long as it's not hateful. Some men have a lot of personal angst building up and some frustration. That's why I'm there and generally can turn that into a positive and a release of energy for them.
And then some men, you just completely click and the chemistry is there, and I just wish to velcro their asses to the bed and not let them go until after round 3 or so.
Most of the time, probably 97% of the time, everything is just fine. But I'm not very judgmental. If a man is obese, so be it. If he has a little masculine scent, either I really like it
, or I just ignore it. I have a shower and if it's that bad (and I cannot remember the last time it was), I just offer to shower with him and clean up together.
Usually the worst thing to happen with a man is when he hasn't cleaned his bottom very well and even though he's clean everywhere else, when the bottom isn't fresh, well it will tend to change the course of the appointment.
I sincerely try to turn a possible negative into a positive. That's what we should do.
With screening ... gosh, I must be bored tonight to write so much
... it makes all of the difference in the world when they've been open about what they do for a living and with general screening. The better the screening is, the more comfortable I feel with meeting someone. And I have a requirement that I have to speak to someone over the phone for a few moments before meeting.
If someone will not call me and let me hear his voice, I won't see him. I personally think that this habit of mine weeds out some of the problematic guys.